Always Be A Work in Progress!

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Don’t ever stop striving to better than you were yesterday, no matter how far you think you have fallen off. When I really reflect on the fact that God hasn’t ever left me in some of the situations I KNOWINGLY put MYSELF in, I am constantly reminded of His love & purpose for my life. You don’t have to stay where you’ve been nor should you let anyone guilt trip you into thinking you can’t move forward. You can. Never stop working on the betterment of yourself. Work on becoming the best version of yourself everyday and decide that no one should get in the way of living your best life. ❤

Sometimes we get so bogged down and focused on other people and what they “need” to work on that we neglect the fact that we really need to be working on ourselves. Don’t be that person who thinks they’re completely flawless because I promise you there is always and I mean always room for self-improvement. You’re allowed to be both a masterpiece & work in progress, simultaneously 🙂

Grow a lot. Pray often. Love more.

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The Dangers of Toxic People & Benefits of Letting Them Go !!

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Let me just start off by saying that toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. People will drive you crazy if you let them. When you notice someone does something toxic for the first time, don’t wait for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Last year, I learned a few life lessons that taught me the importance of being selective about where & who I invest my energy in. I had certain goals that I was trying to reach, certain things that I was trying to achieve, big dreams that I was working towards & just trying to better myself as a person period and there were certain people that I hung around or allowed to be in my space that weren’t very supportive of any of those things.

They weren’t bad people! Yeah, sure it was fun to hang out with them every now & then, laugh, joke, cut up & have a few drinks with but eventually I realized that they just weren’t the type of people that needed to be in my inner circle. This is cliché but it is sooooo important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping, drinking and going out. Make friends with people who love you, genuinely care about you and want to see you make it. Build friendships and relationships with people who are supportive of your dreams, who constantly encourage you to do better and most importantly pray for you.

Don’t get in the habit of hanging around people who show fake love, fake support, spread negativity, criticize you all the time, those who are jealous, don’t have any real life goals, constantly play the victim, who don’t care, are self-centered, always involved in drama & keep disappointing you. Those are toxic people you should just completely get rid of altogether. Never feel guilty about removing people like that from your life. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, new acquaintance, employer, romantic interest or family member!! You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic people! You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. Learn how to forgive and love people from a distance when it becomes necessary. Understand me when I say, “YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF”.

Love yourself enough to walk away from anything and anybody that no longer serves you growth and I’m serious! Last year, I finally learned how to start walking away from situations or people who threatened my peace of mind, self-respect or self-worth. I put a lot of distance between myself & those that I felt were becoming detrimental to my life and where I was trying to go.  I didn’t care if it meant me spending more time at home & less time on the phone. I knew that if I was going to have any chance at reaching any of my goals, being successful or get anywhere else in life besides where I was… I was going to have to make some changes concerning the people I chose to socialize with and invest my energy in period. As a result, my life has been more peaceful, a little less stressful and not only have I achieved SOME of the goals I set for myself but I also went way beyond them and I’m proud of that! I truly believe that your your inner circle can have an impact on your success.

I’ll tell you right now, you are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. So be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down. The more you become aware of what’s really worth your energy, the better off you’ll be. Letting go of toxic people is not cruelty. It’s an act of self-care. Always Remember That !! ❤️

thank you guys for reading post and visiting my blog today!! This was actually one of the very FIRST posts that I published when I joined the world of blogging and I thought it’d be pretty cool to share again since it carries such a strong message!! I pray that you have a great day!!

-Jessica

Working on Low Self-Esteem!❤

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You really are good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, strong enough and you know what? You need to start believing those things about yourself because it’s true! People can encourage and compliment you all day long but until you start believing it about yourself for yourself then your confidence and self esteem will never get to where it needs to be. So with that being said, today is another day to create a list but instead of just reading, I want you to actually do this in your personal time when you get a chance. Write down five things you L O V E about yourself and if you don’t want to write it then just think about it!

It is so easy to notice the things you love about other people but what about you?? And I don’t get the wrong idea here; I’m not encouraging cockiness but for the ones who struggle with low self-esteem issues .. I want to help you! Self-Love is such an ongoing process and it is so important !! When you’re able to love yourself, you respect yourself so much more. It’s just easier to walk away from things that stop serving you growth and give more time to the things and people that do! So, I made my list of five things I love about myself. This was such a positive, personal exercise of both self love and self care! You should try it.

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Okay.. so here’s my personal list 👀 let’s dive right into this!💖💛

1. Friendly Personality

I’m a friendly person! I’ve always been that way and honestly I think I get that characteristic from my mom. I don’t meet too many strangers unless I just really don’t feel like dealing with people that day haha and yes, sometimes I get in those moods but for the most part I am probably one of the nicest people you will ever on this side of earth and I’m not ashamed to say that 🙂 The world needs more FRIENDLY people if you ask me! I get tired of running into semi-friendly, fake, rude, hateful, mean and hard people. So I’m always letting my friendly little light shine.

2. Encouraging Spirit

 Encouraging people is something that feels and comes so natural to me, I swear. A lot of personal things that I’ve been through in my life has a lot to do with it. I know what it’s like to be at the bottom and feel like you don’t have the support or encouragement that you need to go keep going. Therefore, I desire to push people into greatness any way that I can !! 🙂 

3. Sense of Humor

Besides being one of the nicest people you’d ever meet, I’m also probably one of the silliest! I love laughter. I love laughing til my stomach hurts from laughing so hard! Sometimes, I can be a complete goofball and most of the time that’s how I get through most of my days! (Work Days Especially) I’m thankful that being silliness is a part of my personality because people with those dry sense of humors and dry personalities kill me … Oh my gosh. I cannot stand it. The dryness alone will suck the fun right out of things.

4. Creative

This is a part of me that I love; creativeness !! 🙂 I’ve always been a crafty, maybe a little artistic but I didn’t realize how creative I was or how creative I could be until last year when I developed a hobby of making burlap wreaths, tie blankets, bow ties, hair bows and personalized canvases !!! To make that stuff is time consuming but it’s {.F U N.} and relaxing!!

5. Different

One thing I don’t try to do is keep up. I do my own thing, stay in my own lane and ride my own wave. I could care less if people like how I move. I like what I like. A picky eating, thrifty shopping, friendly, gospel music loving, strawberry lemonade drinking, sarcastic, crafty human being I am!! haha. Being myself is so much more fun than trying to fit in with everybody else! 🙂 

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How cool is it that the same God, who created the mountains, oceans, and galaxies, looked at you and though the world needed one of you too? Learn to embrace yourself just the way you are and love who God created you to be! 

I really hope you take time to engage in this personal activity of self-love & self-care. It will help improve your self-esteem. Sending lots of love and positive vibes your way! Be great, be happy and be free in your authenticity!! Xx!!

-Jessica

 

There’s a BLESSING in the Breakup!

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My heartaches a little bit today for people who are in toxic relationships that are struggling with the decision to get out of it and some who are no longer in the relationship but having a hard time with the healing process of it. Here’s some real words of love & encouragement for you today! I hope this helps!!💖💛

“Stop thinking about how they will feel. No decision will pay off more than leaving behind the person that was causing you pain. No decision will pay off more than a made up mind that says no more. No decision will pay off more than the one that chooses to no longer entertain the phone calls and the random texts and sorries. YOU DESERVE MORE. So when the real breakup happened in your heart and in your mind, your BLESSING was formed. Now you can feel free. FREE from someone else’s thoughts because hurt people hurt people. Free from having the hope that no matter what they did their words are there to comfort you after they just hurt you. YOU DESERVE BETTER. THE BREAKUP IS A BLESSING. The truth was in the decision. Doesn’t matter who made the decision because if you are FINALLY SAYING NO MORE then you have decided for no one but you. No one said the decision is easy but the blessing that came with the decision makes it all worth it.. The blessing is self love, confidence, real love, opportunities, things finally going right because you knew with them things weren’t working out in other aspects of your life. The blessing is now you gravitating at a much quicker pace to what belongs to you because you are FREE from the negativity and hurt from others. It’s okay to be FREE. YOU DESERVE THIS BLESSING. IT IS YOURS! THIS DECISION HAS PAID OFF. The decision wasn’t easy but it’s your time to heal from this breakup. The decision is paying off. It’s your time to reclaim your peace.” –Tatiana Jerome!

Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free .. one day at a time! Love you!💖💛

-Jessica

 

 

Work More on Loving YOU!

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I hope when you’re asked to mention many things that you love.. you mention yourself.

I’ve been big on “self-love” for quite sometime now. Lately, I feel like God has been showing me and putting certain people in my path that lack so much confidence in themselves. As a result of having no confidence, the characteristic of low self-esteem makes itself present. And sometimes people who struggle with low self-esteem are also some of the same ones that struggle horribly with depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. I mean, there are other things that trigger those kinds of emotions but I know self-esteem plays a big role in it!

My heart goes out to people dealing and struggling with those kinds of issues. It hurts me to see people really feel like they don’t belong here, like they don’t even deserve life at all due to the lack of self love. Some even struggle to love themselves because of things that have happened in the past but I just want to let you know that you don’t have to stay in bondage because of your past. Free yourself from it. Your past does not define where you are going. Your past does not determine who are. You are who GOD says you are!! You are not what the enemy says you are!

I’ve been saying this for the past couple of days so I’ll go ahead and share it in this post: When you learn to establish and develop a loving relationship with yourself, you set the tone for every other relationship in your life. So I figured today I could share a few ways that I personally practice self-love myself! Self-Love has become a daily thing for me. Because I’m constantly practicing it, my confidence and self-esteem stays about where it needs to be for the most part.

  1. Forgive yourself. You are always allowed to start over and show up for yourself in the best way. Work on forgiving yourself for the bigger stuff.
  2. Spend time w/Jesus in prayer.
  3. Look in the mirror everyday and speak positive affirmations to yourself. “I am amazing; I am enough; I am beautiful; I am worthy of love and healing.”
  4. Love the skin you’re in!
  5. Be nice to yourself! You will never speak to anyone else as much as you to speak to yourself in your own head. {.Be Nice.}
  6. Don’t compare yourself or your journey to others.
  7. Celebrate your highs! Celebrate your success and each milestone you reach. If don’t nobody else celebrate you, you make sure you take the time to celebrate yourself!!
  8. Accept that some people won’t like you.
  9. Say “NO” when you need to.
  10. Know your strengths and use them to your advantage!
  11. Practice gratitude.
  12. Allow yourself some down time. Remember to get some rest & relaxation. You can’t pour from an empty cup. 🙂 
  13. Take care of your body. 
  14. Be honest with yourself.
  15. Try to stay surrounded by positive, upbeat and fun people who are at the same time striving to reach their goals like you!

 

There are so many different ways to practice self love and self care but again these are just a few that I personally try to do daily and keep in the back of my mind. Indeed, I know perfectly well all my positive and negative sides and I accept them. Just because I’m practicing self-love everyday doesn’t mean I’m not still working on improving myself. Lord knows I am truly a work in progress! Loving yourself doesn’t mean that you should ever stop working on YOU though. It just helps you to realize that you are the only one with your unique traits, qualities and potentialities. It gives a great sense of confidence. It really does. When you love who you are, you accept who you are.❤

xoxo!

-jessica