Self Love is the {.B E S T.} Love!!

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“Treat Yo Self!” 

Sometimes we get so busy with life and taking care of others that we forget about ourselves and doing things that make us happy. Make yourself a priority every once in a while. It’s not selfish, it’s NECESSARY!! 

 

“EAT THE CUPCAKE BOO!” 

So many people are hard on themselves about body image and following strict diets. Quick Reminder Though: Sexy is not a size, every calorie is not a war & your body is not a battleground. Your value is not measured in pounds. You are just as beautiful as any other woman! So with that being said.. Relax & just eat the cupcake! It won’t hurt to have one every now and then!

 

“Be Kind To Yourself” 

Like seriously, you will never speak to anyone else as much as you speak to yourself in your own head. Self Encouragement is so important and sometimes very critical. This is both a form of self love & self care! I’ve learned that you can’t always depend on other people to be there & encourage you when you’re at your lowest. Most times, people don’t know all that you really go through or what daily battles you’re fighting. Sometimes, you just have to encourage yourself! Sometimes you have to speak victory over yourself and your circumstances. There’s power in the words you speak. Keep good thoughts & a good spirit. The things you say & believe manifest quicker than you think! Pep talks are a great way to encourage yourself by the way.  Sometimes, I do it in front of a mirror and sometimes I do it while I’m driving. “Girl, you’re beautiful. You’ve been through so much and because of it, you’re a stronger person! You’re a great mommy and even though you don’t think you’re doing a good job today, your kids still think the world of you! To them, baby you hung the moon and because of that you have to keep pushing! You have a big heart and you’re real hustler with great ambitions & etc..” I talk to myself all the time about everything and keep myself lifted as much as possible! Call me crazy if you want haha but it works and if you’ve never done this before you should definitely give it a try!!

 

“PROTECT YOUR PEACE!!” 

Protect your peace & I mean that! People will drive you crazy and literally stress you out if you let them. You can’t function properly when you’re stressed. You can’t be the parent, spouse, child, sibling, employee or friend you need to be when you’re under a lot of stress. You just can’t. Always remember to take care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup!

 

“STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS”

Listen, God didn’t ask you to be them. He asked you to be YOU! Stop comparing yourself to other people and what they have. What God has for you, will always be for you! Instead, learn how to cheer & be happy for other people in their winning season and have faith in the fact that when it’s your time to shine.. God got you!! 

 

If you show yourself love daily, then today just added a bonus! Love on you til you’re filled. 🙂  Don’t forget to like, share or subscribe if you enjoy this post or any of the other posts on my site!! 🙂

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You {.D E S E R V E.} Better Baby!

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“Today I pray for every person who is in a relationship that they know is no good for them, but because of sexual interactions, soul ties have formed and you don’t posses the power to give up completely. I pray that you are continually convicted, that the love of God overshadows you and God grants you the strength to walk away.. quickly.. and for real this time. Be free in Jesus’ Name.” -Kelsea D Merriweather

I don’t know the lady personally who shared this prayer; I just saw it on FB and decided to share it with you guys because it such a BIG Powerful Prayer !! Toxic relationships can be a horrible struggle to get out of and I know because I’ve already been there and done that. I thank God for growth. I thank God for the strength and courage He gave me to walk away. He can and will do the same for you if you let Him. You take the first step and God will take the rest!
Really, you are too special of a person to just be doing anything with anybody. You don’t have to settle for less than what you deserve. Trust the fact that God is preparing the right heart to love you the way you truly deserved to be loved.

No matter what, you don’t deserve to be anybody’s punching bag. Don’t be strong enough to stay and take the pain, but too weak to leave. You don’t deserve to be played and cheated on either. You deserve someone that is going to love you for YOU. You deserve someone who will give you the freedom to express your feelings and emotions without you feel bad for doing so. You deserve someone who respects you, and is attentive to your needs period. Do not feel like you have to settle for anything less. God’s got someone GREAT for you! Don’t get discouraged; He is just waiting for the right timing. Trust and believe me when I say, “God’s Timing is Always Perfect!” Never too late and not a moment too soon!

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I love you and I am praying for you! Just know that what’s to come is still better than what’s already been🙌 … and remember, take the first step! I know it’s hard and can be scary but pray on it, make your move and let God do the rest!
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-Jessica

Working on Low Self-Esteem!❤

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You really are good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, strong enough and you know what? You need to start believing those things about yourself because it’s true! People can encourage and compliment you all day long but until you start believing it about yourself for yourself then your confidence and self esteem will never get to where it needs to be. So with that being said, today is another day to create a list but instead of just reading, I want you to actually do this in your personal time when you get a chance. Write down five things you L O V E about yourself and if you don’t want to write it then just think about it!

It is so easy to notice the things you love about other people but what about you?? And I don’t get the wrong idea here; I’m not encouraging cockiness but for the ones who struggle with low self-esteem issues .. I want to help you! Self-Love is such an ongoing process and it is so important !! When you’re able to love yourself, you respect yourself so much more. It’s just easier to walk away from things that stop serving you growth and give more time to the things and people that do! So, I made my list of five things I love about myself. This was such a positive, personal exercise of both self love and self care! You should try it.

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Okay.. so here’s my personal list 👀 let’s dive right into this!💖💛

1. Friendly Personality

I’m a friendly person! I’ve always been that way and honestly I think I get that characteristic from my mom. I don’t meet too many strangers unless I just really don’t feel like dealing with people that day haha and yes, sometimes I get in those moods but for the most part I am probably one of the nicest people you will ever on this side of earth and I’m not ashamed to say that 🙂 The world needs more FRIENDLY people if you ask me! I get tired of running into semi-friendly, fake, rude, hateful, mean and hard people. So I’m always letting my friendly little light shine.

2. Encouraging Spirit

 Encouraging people is something that feels and comes so natural to me, I swear. A lot of personal things that I’ve been through in my life has a lot to do with it. I know what it’s like to be at the bottom and feel like you don’t have the support or encouragement that you need to go keep going. Therefore, I desire to push people into greatness any way that I can !! 🙂 

3. Sense of Humor

Besides being one of the nicest people you’d ever meet, I’m also probably one of the silliest! I love laughter. I love laughing til my stomach hurts from laughing so hard! Sometimes, I can be a complete goofball and most of the time that’s how I get through most of my days! (Work Days Especially) I’m thankful that being silliness is a part of my personality because people with those dry sense of humors and dry personalities kill me … Oh my gosh. I cannot stand it. The dryness alone will suck the fun right out of things.

4. Creative

This is a part of me that I love; creativeness !! 🙂 I’ve always been a crafty, maybe a little artistic but I didn’t realize how creative I was or how creative I could be until last year when I developed a hobby of making burlap wreaths, tie blankets, bow ties, hair bows and personalized canvases !!! To make that stuff is time consuming but it’s {.F U N.} and relaxing!!

5. Different

One thing I don’t try to do is keep up. I do my own thing, stay in my own lane and ride my own wave. I could care less if people like how I move. I like what I like. A picky eating, thrifty shopping, friendly, gospel music loving, strawberry lemonade drinking, sarcastic, crafty human being I am!! haha. Being myself is so much more fun than trying to fit in with everybody else! 🙂 

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How cool is it that the same God, who created the mountains, oceans, and galaxies, looked at you and though the world needed one of you too? Learn to embrace yourself just the way you are and love who God created you to be! 

I really hope you take time to engage in this personal activity of self-love & self-care. It will help improve your self-esteem. Sending lots of love and positive vibes your way! Be great, be happy and be free in your authenticity!! Xx!!

-Jessica

 

Master the Mind & You Will be the Master of YOUR Mind.

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“Everything that has shown up in your life is a direct reflection of the like minded thoughts you choose to entertain about yourself. Some of the thoughts that you have created about yourself is the result of who you currently are. You must always know that regardless of where you or anyone else is in life there is a golden rule: Those who thrive see themselves thriving. They operate in a strong belief in God and the gift God gave them. When there is a an obvious truth and belief about what you deserve and who you are in preparing for what you deserve, you ALWAYS get more than what you ask for. ALWAYS. Belief in yourself doesn’t stop at a certain age or because of a life changing event. Having the self confidence to get what belongs to you and believing that regardless of how long it will take you you will have it because you already have it…..will be all you have to have to operate in your divine purpose. When you can repeat and believe that ‘Your Life Is Changing For The Better and I Haven’t Missed Out On Anything That Belongs To Me and That My Blessings And Breakthroughs Are Happening Before I Even Ask For Them…’ you can then start to pour into others because you are pouring from an overflowing cup of blessings, breakthroughs, favor and miracles. All this can and will happen when you make TODAY your day to wake up from a place of indifference and function from a place of love and determination. Be determined to put yourself first. Be determined to heal before proceeding. Be determined to learn how to listen to your spirit and trust yourself. You deserve a better you. Make this the season you pour into you even when no one else is.” -Tatiana Jerome!💖

When It Becomes Necessary To Make NEW Friends..

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Many people will give up on the person you choose to become because your growth into greatness was never a part of their plan. Because they refuse to grow themselves or come up with excuses for their lack of self discipline, they will start believing that “you think you’re better” because you are serious about you. Tell them with all the love in the world, “Get serious about yours because I’m serious about mine!” Don’t let other people stop you from being the best version of yourself. Some people are so comfortable with where you are now that they’ll do whatever to distract you from getting to where you’re trying to go!
Not everyone will understand your positive changes and that’s okay! They don’t have to understand but they dang sure better respect it and if they can’t do that then you to let them go. You don’t always have to completely cut ties but sometimes distance is necessary! Don’t ever feel bad about changing for the better. It’s sad to say but sometimes old friends will not help create an environment to welcome the new you and as a result .. sometimes you just have to start over and get yourself a new set of real friends.
You need to be connected to people who are going to build you up and continuously provoke forward movement. Try to make friends with people who have dreams, desires and ambition. They’ll help you push for and realize your own before you even know it. The kind of company you keep has a bigger impact on your life than you will ever know. I’ve never been one to be really big on friends anyway. As long as I know I have a few in my corner that are genuine and true then I’m good but I will say this .. the people in your corner, those closest to you, those that are in your circle should want to see you win. Your circle should be pushing you everyday. Your circle should be encouraging your growth.

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There are some people in life that make you laugh a little louder, smile a little bigger and just live a little better !!

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So , if it becomes necessary to disconnect from a few old friends that don’t support you, your positive changes or what you’re trying to do .. then heyyy.. do what you gotta do!! I just wrote a post on 5 bad habits that ruin your happiness not too long ago and sometimes not having the right people in your corner can effect your happiness too!

You deserve to be happy in every aspect of your life; not just a few. Don’t be fearful of the fact of being lonely either. Trust and believe that God will allow you to cross paths and connect with certain people that need to be in your life for that next level you’re approaching!!💙