20 Daily Reminders You Need To Know & Remember!!

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  1. The past cannot be changed.
  2. Overthinking only leads to frustration and sadness.
  3. Other people’s opinions don’t define your reality.
  4. Depression does not define who you are.
  5. Positive thoughts creative positive things.
  6. You’ll only fail if you quit.
  7. Slow progress is BETTER than no progress at all.
  8. Everyone’s journey is different.
  9. It’s pointless to compare yourself to others.
  10. You don’t need other people to validate you.
  11. To fail means you did better than the one who did not try at all.
  12. Smiles are contagious.
  13. Kindness if free.
  14. Success does not happen overnight. Rome wasn’t a built in a day.
  15. Opinions aren’t facts.
  16. Rest is just as important as working hard.
  17. Positivity is a choice.
  18. Things always get better with time.
  19. Consistency is everything.
  20. Hard work always beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

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Sometimes daily positive reminders are needed in order to help us stay focused on where we’re trying to go! If you keep all or at least most of these in mind, then you’ll reach your goals for sure!! I hope you guys have a great day! Thanks for visiting my blog today. Your company is ALWAYS appreciated!!
-Jessica

Never Underestimate The Power of The Words You Speak

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“If you are always talking about your hardships, do not be surprised if you live in never-ending defeat. You must challenge yourself to stop talking about the problem and start talking about the solution. Use your words to change your situation. Start speaking words of victory. It is so important for you to understand that when you focus on your problems, you get more problems, and your problems intensify. However, when you stay focused on your purpose and passions and not your problems, you can have joy even when life seems to be falling apart.”
-Tony L. Warrick

5 YEARS FROM NOW..

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I closed my eyes and tried to envision where I seen myself in five years. I tried not to get hung up on the obvious details like my career or marital status but instead I tried to be as realistic as possible; not what I’m wishing or hoping to happen but the reality of what will most likely be going on..

  • I see My Husband & I still being married.
  • Definitely living a healthier life since we’ve joined a gym & trying to create a habit of eating healthier foods.
  • RJ will be 10 years old & Noah will be 8 – the thought of that makes me so sad! Lord have mercy; time & the way it just flies by!
  • They’ll be getting into those ages where they can really start getting involved more in sports so I totally see me & Justin being the “sporty” parents. That part is exciting!!
  • I see our credit being tremendously improved! We’re working on that now so we can celebrate later.
  • I see us being FIRST TIME HOME OWNERS!! 🙂 We actually had the opportunity for that last month and even though it was a really good deal, we just thought it’d be better to wait until our credit was where it needed to be so we could have a cheaper mortgage rate and live comfortably.
  • I definitely see nicer cars for us in the future. As a matter of fact, I’m getting ready to trade my Saturn 2000 in pretty soon! Old car, I know right? This was my very FIRST car! My daddy bought it for me during my senior year of high school and I’ve had it every since then. For 10 years now this car has gotten me from point A to point B. It’s been my little blessing & it’s a miracle that it’s lasted this long haha.
  • I’m sure I’ll probably have another job by then since there’s not really an opportunity to grow where I am now. The only way I’ll stay is if my arts/craft business or blogging business is super successful and brings me in good amount of second income. For those of you who don’t know, I make personalized burlap wreaths & I’m thinking about investing into a vinyl machine to start making personalized shirts 🙂 I love doing stuff like that! I’m a very creative person.
  • We’ll be way more financially stable.. not saying we aren’t now but we’ll definitely being living comfortably.
  • I might and might not be pregnant again.. I don’t know.. I’m still praying about that one hahaha but if I am.. Fingers crossed for a girl!!😜💖🤞

 

So yeah that’s pretty much where and what I realistically see myself doing 5 years from now! I’m looking forward to it & whatever plan God is cooking up there! What about you? I know it’s a little thought provoking but where do you really see yourself 5 years from now? See if you can name one 😉😊

4 Things I Do To Fight Depression!

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Depression is R E A L & one thing that I know about it is if you don’t fight it.. it will literally overtake you and eventually begin to control you! I believe everybody deals with depression and anxiety but on different levels. Some people know how to cope with it and keep it under control while some others have no clue and put up a struggle to fight it daily the best they can. I don’t know why I’ve been so heavy on this topic lately but it’s being weighing on my heart like crazy! One thing is sure though, even if I don’t understand it at the moment.. I know God doesn’t just put things on my heart for no reason at all. I consider myself to be a pretty strong person for the most part but every once in a while I have my emotional days of depression and if I’m not careful about how I fight it… then it just kind of settles in and tries to take over. So down below, I’ve shared about four different things that I do to prevent that from happening.

 

Music

I listen to gospel music! (Contemporary gospel to be exact.) This is something that people kind of make fun of me for but I don’t care. I’ve never cared. I like what I like and other peoples opinions on this is something that has never been able to shy me away from it. I’m thankful for gospel artists though and their obedience in letting God use them to spread His word & love through music. It’s so encouraging. The words in the songs have a way of touching the core of my heart & if it sit there and listen to it long enough, my mood changes! Whether I’m depressed or pissed off, it calms my nerves. Sometimes, it makes me emotional but in a good way! Keeps me humble & helps me to stay honest with myself. I notice that when some people are sad or depressed, they listen to sad and depressing music! They choose songs that will literally make them feel lower than they already are at the moment. For some people that works but for me, it does not! If I’m using music as my way to escape my current pain then it has to be something that’s uplifting. I have to be listening to something that’s going to speak life into my spirit and not make me feel worse than I’m already feeling. Music is so influential on the brain that the type you listen to actually has the ability to change the way you think and look at certain situations. The impact that music has on your perspective is bigger than you think it is. 

YouTube!

Sometimes I get on YouTube and listen to my F A V O R I T E preacher, Pastor John Gray! I don’t do this very often during my emotional moments of depression. Like I almost have to be in the mood to actually sit there and listen to it but every once in a blue moon it helps lighten my mood! 

Saved Memes in My Phone

I feel kind of weird including this one in any of my posts but I’m going to tell you anyway because it helps me and I want to help you in every possible! I save have a lot of saved memes in my phone. Some are encouraging and others are just downright hilarious. When I’m feeling down and in the dumps, I scroll through these and most of the time they make me smile 🙂 Most of the time they just remind me that everything’s going to be okay and regardless of what my situation is .. God still has a purpose behind it. For example, one of my favorite memes I have saved says, “You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.” I’ve used this quote in two of my previous posts and I love it so much! It’s a small one but speaks so much volume! But yeah, that’s just one of those that reminds me that everything I go through is not always for my benefit! Sometimes, reminders are needed to keep us going in the right direction. This is one of my ways of encouraging feeding myself constant positivity. 
Leaning on Friends!

Most of the time when people are depressed, they want to be left alone & that’s understandable because I get that way too. But over time, I’ve learned that it’s not always good to be completely isolated from everything and everyone. That’s when suicidal thoughts seem to be the strongest. Depression & Solitude is a terrible combination. Try your best to avoid it! I’ve gotten to where I lean on my friends. Now, I don’t have a lot of friends but I do have a good handful in my corner and when I get depressed there are only certain ones that I’ll call. I call on my GOOFIEST friends! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, they have a way of taking my mind completely off of any stress or depression without even knowing at first that I’m feeling that way. Those silly heifers make me laugh til my stomach hurts! They make me laugh in the moments I don’t even feeling like smiling & I appreciate them so much for that! I always feel a little better after a good laughing session with them. It doesn’t change whatever my situation is but it does pick me up out of that depressing funk. Make sure you have some people in your life that have the ability to make you feel better whether they know what’s going on or not. They are important and they come in handy during hard depressing times. 

Grandma’s Love!

My Granny is my rock! Besides God, she is a truly a source of strength for me. I go to her about any & everything regardless of what type of mood I’m in. I don’t always call either. I physically go see her. A lot of times, just being in her presence is enough for me. She has such a healing type of spirit about herself and anyone that knows her will tell you that! I could be depressed, happy, sad, excited stressed out, feeling crafty, in a cooking mood or whatever and my Granny will be ready for it! She always knows what to do, always knows exactly what to say and always has the right answers for just about everything. She be ready for whatever whenever!! She’s something like a superwoman in my eyes. And I have to be honest, I don’t trust a lot of people in my family but this woman right here.. I trust her with everything in me. My granny keeps ALL of my secrets and will literally take them to the grave with her! She was the very first person to know about both of my pregnancies and even my miscarriage last year. I could name a list of everything she knows about me but I’ll save you the time! But seriously though, my Granny is my everything. When my back is against the wall, I know I can go to her and I also know that I trust her to be honest with me about myself concerning whatever I’m going through at the moment as well as be encouraging and show me some TLC ! (tender, loving, care) I do realize that not everyone still has their grandmothers in their lives but I am truly blessed to still have mine and I just wanted to share with you all that she is definitely one of my weapons to fighting off depression.

 

Some of you already probably implement some of these same exact strategies but for the ones who don’t then I hope this post helps you! And let me say this, what works for me may not work for you and if not, make sure you get the necessary help that you need! If you need to go see a shrink/therapist then by all means go see one! There’s no shame in that and to be honest you.. I’ve been considering doing that for myself just because I’m still struggling to heal from some of the things that have happened in my past. No shame!! Do not be bothered by the opinions of other people. You gotta do what you gotta do for YOU! Remember that. 

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Hello March!! Goals for the next 31 days.

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“Spend More Time With Jesus”

This is just something that I need to do a better job at period. Sometimes, I’ll do good reading my bible and spending some time in prayer everyday and then after a while.. I get very inconsistent with it. I don’t know why but I need to improve my consistency. I’m going to work on spending time with God around the exact same time EVERYDAY and not just when I feel like it. I believe if I can find balance with that, I’ll do better. 

 

Drink More Water!”

Okay, so this one.. I might struggle with! As much as I LOVEEE my Sprites and slushes from Sonic, I know I need to give them  a rest. Sometimes I like water and sometimes I don’t. Even though I know water is healthy.. I still have a love/hate relationship with it. However, there are many benefits to drinking water!! It increases energy & relieves fatigue, promotes weight loss, flushes out toxins, improves skin complexion, boosts immune system and prevents cramps and sprains. So with that being said, I’m going to do better!! So far, I’ve gotten in the habit of drinking water all day while I’m at work. I wait to drink everything else later in the evening when I’m eating dinner. I’m not sure if that defeats the purpose or not but it’s a start!

 

“Work on Shutting Down Conversations That Aim To Tear Down Other People”

Uh ohh.. this is a big one!! It is so easy to get caught up in conversations of gossip. It’s easy to fall into the trap of talking about negative things, problems, disappointments and struggles, especially when it’s about someone else. Don’t act like you’re not guilty of it. We’ve all done it. Whether it’s you that starts the conversation or someone else.. it is so easy to get on the subject of other people’s business instead of focusing on the POSITIVE things that they have going on or solutions for their problems. WE gotta do better. Yes, I’m talking about me too! We gotta work on speaking more words of encouragement that will build people up and make them feel better instead of tearing them down. We get many opportunities everyday to put this into practice, but it requires real discipline and determination. 

 

Yes I know, I didn’t set A LOT of goals.. but that’s just how I am. I like to set small realistic goals for myself and work on reaching them first before I set way too many just to end up feeling unaccomplished. It’s just easier that way for me 🙂 Do you have any personal goals for the month of March? Feel free to share them with me! I would love the inspiration! Oh & don’t forget to like, comment, share or subscribe to my site if you liked this post or any of my other posts!! Thank you guys!! All support is appreciated more than you will ever know!