Mature Enough to be Cordial

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Today, I’m just thankful for growth. ❤ I am still growing in so many different areas of my life but this one right here.. I’m really thankful for! To be under the same roof with people who I know don’t like me, I don’t like them or they have intentionally done things to hurt me that I’m still trying to let go of and heal from.. to be literally in the same room with them and still have the maturity to be cordial speaks volumes of personal growth to me!! It didn’t hit me until this past weekend when I was sitting back reflecting on what areas I’ve grown in and then thinking about the areas I really need improvement in. You know you’re growing when things that used to bother you no longer catch your attention anymore. I have to be honest, I’m surprised to have even gotten to this point of maturity in my life.

I know that sounds terrible but I’m just being honest because at one point in my life, I used to get so irritated with having to be around people who I knew didn’t like me, who had bad intentions, whose motives were not to be trusted – the fake love, shady comments, petty jokes like it all used to get under my skin but here recently, I’ve noticed a change within myself !! I’ve been SO focused on the betterment of myself, my family, reaching my goals and being successful that I haven’t had the time to even think about those people! So when I do see them in person, no matter where we are, I’m able to smile, speak, be cordial and go on about my business.

I am genuinely no longer bothered because my focus is different and that feels SO good! 🙌 See, when you really get busy realigning with your own purpose in life, you don’t have time to beef with miserable people. Eventually, you just get to a point where you kind of let it go, wish them well and move on! It becomes a no love lost, no love gained type of thing .. or at least it does for me anyway! 🤷‍♀️ I don’t carry hate in my heart but I will put some distance between myself and that person for sure! However, if we happen to see each other in person or be at a mutual gathering or whatever .. I will be cordial. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. You speak to me, I’ll speak back but other than that you won’t get anything else out of me. I’ll walk away very shortly after that. If you’re looking for a conversation out of me, you can forget it. You won’t be in my space unless I allow you to and that’s just what it is.

I am raising to my best self. So anyone who tries to hurt me will not get anything but a positive or mute response from my best self, period!I’ve gotten in the habit of being that way and to be honest, I don’t think it’s a bad thing! I guess it’s another way of how I keep my peace protected. People can’t get under your skin unless you let them and I’ve learned that when you don’t give people that kind of power over you, it bothers them! Sometimes, it actually bothers them more they could ever bother you. There’s power in prayer.. Power in distance.. Power in being the bigger person and sometimes power in just simply walking away.

Thanks for visiting my blog today! Your company here is always appreciated !! 🙂
-Jessica

Never Underestimate The Power of The Words You Speak

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“If you are always talking about your hardships, do not be surprised if you live in never-ending defeat. You must challenge yourself to stop talking about the problem and start talking about the solution. Use your words to change your situation. Start speaking words of victory. It is so important for you to understand that when you focus on your problems, you get more problems, and your problems intensify. However, when you stay focused on your purpose and passions and not your problems, you can have joy even when life seems to be falling apart.”
-Tony L. Warrick

A Little Love For You Today!❤

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Be ye reminded; YOU get to make daily decisions about who and what deserves access to YOU !! Now that you are reminded of what fresh air feels and smells like, you have no reason to stay in anything toxic or go back to it. Just because you’re at peace doesn’t mean they’re not still toxic. No one has to understand your positive changes. As a matter of fact, don’t ever feel bad about changing for the better. Others will have you question your change but those who love you will encourage your improvement for knowing your worth and valuing yourself.

Remember, it can’t be in your space if it isn’t making you money, growing you, loving you, or giving you peace. If it doesn’t give you good vibes then kindly walk away from it. The more you distance yourself from negativity, the more you’ll see amazing things start to happen. Keep taking care of you. Be protective over your peace and always keep in the back of your mind that happiness is a choice just like being positive is a choice. I’m a biggie on self-care and this is just one of those aspects of it that I will always remind you of just as I continue to remind myself! 💕

Just thought I’d drop a little encouragement in your spirit today! (: I hope you all are having a great, fun and safe weekend!!

xoxo,

Jessica!

 

HAPPY FRIDAY: Some Strength For Your Struggles💪

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“Your struggle will transform into your testimony. It’s only temporary. Thank God for it. Never wish your struggles away, for that is the womb in which your blessings are formed and ready to be birthed. Your struggle is the heart of the blessing. Yes the struggle is real but so is God’s favor. Now that is what makes your blessing flawless!” -Tatiana Jerome 💛

So whoever you are, wherever you are.. be encouraged. I PROMISE You, Greater IS Coming! I need you to get that in your spirit. Get it deep down in there! What’s to come is still {.BETTER.} than what’s already been. I know it’s hard right now and your faith is struggling a little bit and that’s okay! You’re human. I’m just here to remind you that you can & you will get through this. God is always building you even when it feels like He’s breaking you. There’s purpose behind everything you go through. Believe that!🙌 God is always doing a trillion things in your life & you may only be aware of three of them. So chin up, babe! Your best days are ahead of you. Keep going because your miracle is not behind you! God’s power is not intimidated by your circumstances and where you come from does not determine where God plans to take you!!💕

**sending lots of love, hugs & positive vibes your way!**

HAPPY FRI-YAY

-Jessica

Dealing with NEGATIVE People

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How do I deal with negative people? 

A few ways I’ve learned to deal with negative people when I just absolutely have to be around them is:

  1. Avoid lecturing or preaching to the person. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even waste my breath. If they don’t directly ask for my opinion then I keep it to myself.
  2. Act instead of reacting. Negative people feed off of each other and I’ve noticed that sometimes they like to pick at other people who carry a more positive vibe and intentionally push their buttons just to get a reaction.. but I’ve learned how to give them the exact opposite!! 😜 There’s some stuff you just leave alone. You don’t fix every problem that comes across your radar. You don’t try to straighten out every dispute that comes before you. I’ve learned to choose my battles wisely. Sometimes, peace is better than being right.
  3. Brighten the Conversation. Anybody that knows me knows I’m a goofy person. I love to laugh!! A lot of times, I’ll try to brighten the convo by attempting to bring laughter or positive vibes to it and if that doesn’t work then I get up & kindly walk away.

 

Other than those three methods that I just mentioned above.. I don’t fool with negative people! I just don’t. They’re like annoying bags of HELL !! I know that’s mean but it’s true and if you’re not careful, they will suck the “happy” right out of you. For that very reason, I keep my distance.✌

During the first two months of this year, I worked hard on regaining my sense of self-peace back and now that I have it back.. I’ve been very protective over it. As a matter of fact, I’ve been  on such a positive streak here lately that anything or anybody that is contrary to that is getting cut off. I’ve gotten to the point where I won’t even allow myself to be in the enviroment of negativity. I don’t go around negative, miserable, sour and petty people unless I just have to be there and you better believe if I have to go.. I’m carrying all kinds of positive vibes with me! I’ve gotten in the habit of setting the tone, setting the atmosphere for positivity just about anywhere I go. I try to make sure I bring laughter, good vibes, be uplifting.. I’ll get somewhere and start speaking life over people, speaking prosperity, I speak healing because there is power in your words! If you can believe what you keep speaking then you’ll also see whatever it is that you’re speaking come to past. That’s that faith talk right there! There is power in your tongue and don’t ever forget that. You can go somewhere or nowhere based on what you say and your belief in what you said. ❤

But some people don’t like that. They don’t like when you bring medicine to a conversation. They don’t want to be healed. They don’t want to be free. They don’t want to feel better about their situation. They could care less about a positive perspective. They would rather stay in bondage. They ain’t really looking for happiness. Most of the time they just want attention and that’s cool. I don’t even waste my energy entertaining that type of behavior anymore. I used to feel so sorry for people like that but at some point, I came to the realization that if/when they really want better, they’ll do better. No excuses. I kindly say a prayer for ’em and just go on about my business.

The older I get the more I realize that I won’t settle for anything that disturbs my peace and I’m serious. I don’t want to be around any drama, conflict or stress. If we don’t vibe the same.. I won’t entertain too much of a conversation with you. If our energies don’t match, you can just forget it. 🤷‍♀️That may have even sounded mean but you have to learn to not let bitter, unhappy people drag you down to their level.

This is my way of dealing with negative people while also maintaining keeping my peace protected. I haven’t always dealt with them this way and as a result in the past, it caused me to be emotionally stressed and irritated all the time. Thank God for better methods though!! Now my question to you is, how do you deal with negative people

As always.. thanks for reading!! I love you guys from the bottom of my heart! 🙂 

-Jessica