7 MAJOR Blogging Mistakes to Avoid!

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1.TRYING TO BE PERFECT

A lot of times when you’re trying to be perfect in your writing instead of just being 100% you – your posts seem to either not get as much attention as you’d like for it to have or you don’t get that good of a response (feedback). People can tell when the words are more so of forced and not really flowing like they should. For some people, self-doubt of being yourself in blogging can actually be crippling. Just be you. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, magical, creative, awesome, amazing person that you are!! Remember to write about things that actually interest YOU. Don’t stress and write about what you think people will like. Write about what stays on your mind the most and I promise you the right people will find, follow and keep up with you and your posts.

2. NOT PLANNING AHEAD

Some may not agree and that’s okay but I seriously think planning ahead for your blog plays a big role in having a successful one especially if you’re trying to monetize it! When I say plan ahead, I’m particularly talking about planning your blog posts ahead, writing them ahead of time or even getting on a blogging schedule. The best benefit of planning ahead is that it helps you stay consistent, it keeps your readers interested and your traffic consistently flowing.

3. NO EMAIL LIST OR WAY FOR PEOPLE TO SIGN UP

One of the things I have the hardest time doing when scoping out a new blog is finding the follow button or email subscription option! Make sure the “follow/subscription” option is clearly visible for your new-coming followers and readers. That’s important.

4. BAD BLOG TITLES/HEADLINES

The one mistake that so many bloggers make (including myself sometimes) is making bad or uninteresting blog titles or headlines. Try to make your titles as interesting as possible! That alone is one of the BIGGEST things that makes your posts attractive!! Titles tell people what your blog is about, they improve the traffic you have coming to your blog, they engage your readers, and get potential readers excited. People aren’t only looking for information online – they also want to be amused, entertained or interested. So going forward, try to keep that in mind when you’re making titles/headlines for your posts.

5. NO PICTURES/IMAGES

A great way to attract more attention to your blog and your posts is to include pictures !!! I don’t know why but for some reason it just makes the post more attractive. People LOVE pictures!! I personally love using different pictures and images from Pinterest but now that I’ve learned how to create my own, I’ve been doing that more! Now, if it works for you to not use pictures/images then stick to whatever is best for you but in my opinion, it just makes your blog a little more lively and fun!

6. TOO MUCH COMPARING

It’s bound to happen. You’re going to compare your blog, your design, your numbers, anything to other blogs. It’s human nature. If you never compare, good for you! You’re a rare breed! Just don’t get caught up in comparing your progress to others. Never compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. Always keep in mind that slow progress is still better than no progress at all! As a matter of fact, instead of comparing your blog to others, see what you can learn from them instead! It’s okay to reach out for help or advice. And when you do make it to success, be sure to drop a rope down for others when you reach the top! 🙂

7. NOT ENOUGH ADVERTISING

If blogging is basically a hobby for you then I’m not talking to you about this particular point but if you’re trying to monetize your blog and grow your traffic then you need to make sure you’re doing enough advertising to get people to actually come and visit your blog. There are several different ways to advertise and get the word out about your blog. There’s always “word of mouth”, you could pass out business cards if you’d like, reach out to people personally and try to get them to support you OR take advantage of social media! I’ve been blogging for five months and advertising through social media is just what works for me! My blog definitely gets more attention through Twitter and Instagram. For some reason, when I share my posts on Facebook, people could literally care less about it but the other social media platforms have been a totally different story for me!!

I’ve actually read a few posts from other bloggers that became upset from not hardly getting any traffic, views, or responses to their site and where ready to give up blogging .. and it just made me wonder if they ever actually took the time to advertise their blog or if they just kind of expected people to read visit and magically start following. One thing I can say about blogging is that it does not always go as you expect and you have to be ready for that. There are people that I really “thought” would support me in my journey of blogging but they don’t and then there are some that I never would have expected to take interest and they have! Once I got it in my head that I was determined to help people all around this world rather than just those that I knew personally/locally, my blog began to really grow and expand !! I have had the pleasure of meeting some amazing people through both Twitter and Instagram! From sharing my posts with them, interacting and visiting their blogs .. I’ve made some great connections, made some great friends, learned quite a bit and we just help each other grow! Ya know? That’s what the blogging community is about! But you’ve got to be just as consistent in your advertising as you are in your interacting and vice versa or you can just forget it. You won’t go far by being unsupportive of others. That’s for sure! So if you don’t advertise or you know that’s an area you slack in … try it and watch what kind of positive difference it makes for your blog!

 

Now I don’t want anyone to get upset with me! These are just my personal opinions and what I’ve learned along the way so far! I love sharing tips and also taking the opportunity to help those who need it. I appreciate every chance I get to learn from successful bloggers who were once in mine and your places. I just wanna share the love! I hope you enjoyed! Thanks for visiting with me today!

-Jessica

 

Appreciating Good, Difficult, Dramatic and Horrible People ..

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Life doesn’t always introduce you to the people you want to meet.

Sometimes, life puts you in touch with people you need to meet to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you, and to gradually strengthen you into the person you were meant to become. Every single person you meet has something so valuable to teach you. Whether they’re testing you, using you, bringing out the best in you, or the worst .. they will all teach you something about yourself.

The road to self-discovery requires help from others! Both positive and negative relationships teach you valuable lessons. It’s kind of how you learn and become a better individual. No relationship or friendship is ever a waste of time, therefore, you should never regret the people in your past. The wrong ones teach you lessons that will prepare you for the right ones coming!! 

Appreciate them. 

-Jessica 

 

How to Handle Low Key Haters!

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The people you expect to congratulate you on your success will truly surprise you! That’s okay though. You have ALL the support you need in order to move on to the next level. You can’t force people to be happy for you. To be happy for you means they would need to be happy for what is happening in your life right now. They can’t be happy for you with right now if they never thought you would be great or get what you have going on. And it’s disheartening especially when it’s those that you’re close to that seem to be sour about your “come up” but one thing you gotta remember is that everybody can’t go to the next level with you!
Be careful not to mix the seasonal people with the lifetime ones. Some people pass through our lives for a season to teach us lessons that could never be learned if they stayed. You don’t have to let people go completely but you don’t need to let them distract you either. Love from a distance if necessary and keep going! Don’t let folks break you down because you are greater than what they make you out to be. They want you to fail so they can say you’re just like them. Sometimes people hurt you because they need somebody on their same level but in spite of that you keep going! Be more concerned about where you’re going rather than who is not going with you. Don’t worry about that. God will put the people in your life that need to be there!
Thanks for visiting my blog today! Your company is ALWAYS appreciated!!
-Jessica

You {.D E S E R V E.} Better Baby!

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“Today I pray for every person who is in a relationship that they know is no good for them, but because of sexual interactions, soul ties have formed and you don’t posses the power to give up completely. I pray that you are continually convicted, that the love of God overshadows you and God grants you the strength to walk away.. quickly.. and for real this time. Be free in Jesus’ Name.” -Kelsea D Merriweather

I don’t know the lady personally who shared this prayer; I just saw it on FB and decided to share it with you guys because it such a BIG Powerful Prayer !! Toxic relationships can be a horrible struggle to get out of and I know because I’ve already been there and done that. I thank God for growth. I thank God for the strength and courage He gave me to walk away. He can and will do the same for you if you let Him. You take the first step and God will take the rest!
Really, you are too special of a person to just be doing anything with anybody. You don’t have to settle for less than what you deserve. Trust the fact that God is preparing the right heart to love you the way you truly deserved to be loved.

No matter what, you don’t deserve to be anybody’s punching bag. Don’t be strong enough to stay and take the pain, but too weak to leave. You don’t deserve to be played and cheated on either. You deserve someone that is going to love you for YOU. You deserve someone who will give you the freedom to express your feelings and emotions without you feel bad for doing so. You deserve someone who respects you, and is attentive to your needs period. Do not feel like you have to settle for anything less. God’s got someone GREAT for you! Don’t get discouraged; He is just waiting for the right timing. Trust and believe me when I say, “God’s Timing is Always Perfect!” Never too late and not a moment too soon!

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I love you and I am praying for you! Just know that what’s to come is still better than what’s already been🙌 … and remember, take the first step! I know it’s hard and can be scary but pray on it, make your move and let God do the rest!
xoxoxoxoxo!
-Jessica

STOP REACTING TO EVERYTHING!!!

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It’s not necessary to R E A C T to everything!! It’s really not. Now, that’s much easier said than done but over the past few weeks.. I’ve gotten to see how powerful “silence” can be. I’m just going to be honest with you, I’ve been in the process of distancing myself from a few people here lately. It’s not that they’re bad people, they’re just toxic and I don’t need that type of negativity in my life right now. I got places I’m trying to go, things I’m trying to do, goals I’m determined to reach and I’m just out here making real boss moves! I don’t know about you but I don’t function properly when I’m under a lot of emotional stress. These few toxic individuals stress me out emotionally, okay? I’m not just talking about the emotion of sadness; I’m talking about anger too! They get on my nerves. They get on my nerves more than anybody else because they know exactly what buttons to push to get directly under my skin.

I’ve felt more peace in the past few weeks than I have in the past few months. I’ve finally realized that some things are just too small for me to be give my attention to and pour any type of energy in. I’m learning that it’s better to just send good vibes, prayer, love from a distance and move on! Today, I feel GOOD because I haven’t been responding to what usually triggers me. It has no power because I don’t give it any attention. I’m telling you, silence is a powerful thing and sometimes.. silence is just the best response. I’m learning to stop giving people so much power over me and my emotions. So if you’re like me, still learning this kind of life lesson.. just remember, the problem is irrelevant. It’s your response that matters 🙂 

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