The Life of a Housewife is NOT for Me!!

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Living the life as a housewife is NOT for me!! This is not a post to down the women who are. I actually applaud you all because I don’t see how y’all do it !!! I start my new job in the next 3 days so until then .. I’m stuck at home with the kiddos and as of right now, I can say that my children have officially driven me bat sh*t crazy and gotten on my damn nerves !!! 😂😂😂😂
Excuse my french but that is exactly how I feel right now and I kind of feel like blogging about it is just a way for me to vent!! From the all of the fussing, fighting, whining, calling my name a million times, asking a thousand questions, the horse-playing and everything on top of the normal mom duties and house duties … I’m just over it !!
I don’t know how real housewives do it. I don’t know how my sister does it! She’s been a housewife/stay at home mom for at least three years now and she has two children just like I do. I applaud you women though because it’s a lot of work!! It’s almost like having a job in my eyes except you don’t get paid for it. You’re responsible for ALL of the mom duties, entertaining the kids, managing to keep the house nice and clean, preparing all three meals, and still having enough energy to entertain your husband when he gets home. And honestly, I probably didn’t even name everything but all of that right there is E N O U G H !! More than enough!
I am not cut out for this type of life and I’m not ashamed to say it! I’m one of those that has to get up and go to work just about everyday. I have to be doing something productive that doesn’t involve me being trapped in the house with my children all day. For it to happen occasionally is cool but everyday? Hell to the NO! My husband could be making over $100,000 per year and I would still get up and take my butt to work somewhere!
So with that being said, THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME VENT !! Now please excuse me while I go put these sweet, innocent, handsome, cute, cuddly, smart, wild, loving, hyper hyenas down for a nap 😜

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To The Mom Who Feels Discouraged

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When you find yourself locked in the bathroom, sobbing on the floor because you’ve just had enough, that does not mean you have failed as a Mom! Being a Mom is hard. That is NOT failure. That is a fact. Parenting doesn’t come with a handbook. You just have to do the best you can. Ya know? You’ll have good days, bad days, normal days, overwhelming days, perfect days, trying days, supermom days, just being a mom days, with a whole lot of love and real, crazy motherhood days!! It just gets real chaotic sometimes. I’m a mom of two boys. So I understand the frustration you may be feeling.. if you feel any at all. I just wanted to take the time to encourage you today and let you know that it’s gonna be okay! If today is bad, look for tomorrow to be better. You just never know with kids. One day, their angelic little sweethearts & the next they’re demonic little heifers that will have you ready to pull every strand of hair off of your head! 😂🙈

Either way, just know that YOU ARE APPRECIATED!! ❤
That’s something that most of us moms aren’t used to hearing very often! We are primarily responsible for SO much – working a full-time job, keeping the house clean, keeping the laundry done, making sure the kids are bathed, cooking, helping the kids get their homework done and also making sure they understand it .. as a mom, you are a your child’s first teacher.. their first kiss, their first love, heck and sometimes even a doctor! Yeah, I said it .. a DOCTOR !! We’re all the time cleaning up those sores and kissing those boo boo’s, nurturing and comforting them after a terrible accident .. MOMS ROCK!! And special shout out to the single moms! You know it’s good to have help from the children’s dad. I appreciate my Husband so much. He knows when to step in and pick up my slack or take over some of my mommy duties so I can have somewhat of a break, but to not have the help at all and do it alone is a totally different story! Single Moms , I salute you !!!! ❤👏👏
“Mommin’ ain’t easy!” 😂 I say that now with laughter, even as my own kids are currently upstairs arguing, but it’s true! You can only understand that if you’re a mom! So much comes with it that it’s not even funny but at the end of the day it’s always the most rewarding thing. Most importantly, remember.. that you are human too. You don’t have to have it together every minute of every day. Sometimes, it’s okay if the only thing you do is breathe. It’s okay to take a break and rest. Always make some time for you!

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God gave those little children to you, mama… TO YOU! No one else can mother them like you can. You may have your work cut out for you, but you’re the one cut out to accomplish it !! Don’t ever forget that. xoxo!
-Jessica

BASEBALL DAYS!!⚾️⚾️💙💙

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My Tuesday was so busy that I actually didn’t get a chance to write a blog post for you guys! It was my babies very 1st TBall Game & they did such a great job !! Not only am I proud of them, I’m also proud of the entire team!! They all played so hard but most importantly.. they had FUN !! (: WE WON TOO! 10-2. Since I didn’t get to share an actual post, I figured I give you all a little recap of our Tuesday through pictures !!

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My big boys !!! RJ is #3 & Noah is #4 🙂

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Me, my silly kids, mom & my best friend which is also their God Mother ! 🙂

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My big babies !! 🙂

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Caught them not paying attention a couple of times! haha.

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Noah up to bat ! 🙂

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He missed the first time.. tried again and then hit it !!

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Noah! 🙂

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Swing Batter Batter Swing !!! (RJ) He hit pretty hard !!

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My nephew Jaylen! Caught him in action headed to first base!

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Lol this was when RJ actually hit the ball but got out before he could get all the way there lol as you can tell he didn’t wanna go to the dugout so soon! haha

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Noah lol He is so SILLY !!

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My babes !! (:

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Gosh, I love this picture of me and them. I’m gonna have to frame it!!

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Bored, ready to go lol

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Game over! We won 10-2

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Lol not paying attention but playing 3rd base

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My sweet little nephew !!

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My Best Frannnn !!

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My niece and I !! 🙂 She loves my sunglasses !

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RJ up batting!

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Totally in love with rocking my baseball shirt !!!!! 🙂

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I hope you guys enjoyed !!!! We had a lot of fun and will be getting ready to do this all over again tomorrow!! Y’all have a blessed Wednesday! 🙂 Thanks for visiting and stopping by! xo

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-Jessica

KIDS CONFIDENCE MATTERS!

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Our first night of T-ball practice was a huge success!! The only thing their practice consisted of tonight was running bases and hitting the ball. It was a great start! ALL of the kids did such a wonderful job & even though it was freezing cold out there they still had a great time! I’m proud so proud of my babies though!! They were listening, paying attention and most importantly having fun 🙂 

I’m especially proud of RJ though and let me tell you why. First, I’m going to start by letting you in on a little bit of my personal business. For a little while now, RJ (my five year old) has struggled a little bit with self-esteem and confidence issues. At first, Justin & I couldn’t figure out what was causing him to feel so low about himself at such a young age because we make sure the exact same love and attention is shown to both of our boys but during this past year of trying to help him gain confidence and improve his self-esteem.. it just sort of clicked with me!

RJ is my firstborn child and like most first time parents – I spoiled him rotten! As a parent, you want to give your kids everything their heart’s desire to make them happy, but parents who give too much, too often can spoil their children. As a matter of fact, between me, my family and his biological dad’s side of the family.. we babied him entirely too much. I’m not gonna lie, we were all a little too overprotective over RJ. I mean as soon as he would fall down, bump his head or something like that we’d rush to his rescue instead of letting him be a big boy and get back up on his own. As time passed, I started to think that we probably did more harm to RJ’s growth than we actually helped it and when he started Pre-K.. my thoughts were confirmed to be right! Spoiling/babying your children can be harmful to them, both socially and developmentally.

RJ started Pre-K when he was four years old and he had the hardest time. As far as schoolwork went, he excelled in that but his social skills were awful, he lacked independence, and he struggled some with his speech. He wasn’t as mature as the rest of the kids in his class. In fact, his teacher that year told me that he wasn’t mature for his age yet. As disheartening as that was at the moment, she was right and it was just a hard truth that I had to face. Because his social skills weren’t where they needed to be, he didn’t play much with the other kids. He was considered the “loner” in his class. Even though, he could dress/undress himself and never needed any help in the bathroom he still lacked independence because he wasn’t good with following two and three step directions. Even though he excelled in his schoolwork, knew how to do everything and made really good grades, often times he wouldn’t actually complete his work without a teacher sitting right beside him kind of guiding him and watching him do it. Last but not least, he struggled some with his speech. I feel like this and his social skills definitely had a big impact on his self-esteem. For the most part, you could understand what RJ was trying to say but sometimes what he was saying didn’t make sense. Sometimes, the teachers didn’t understand him nor could they make sense of what he was trying to say. Of course his teachers would work with him the best they could but then there were kids… kids being kids… when RJ did try to play and talk with them and they couldn’t understand what he was saying.. some of them would kind of tease and pick at him and ask questions like, “Why do you talk like that?” and after a few of those questions is when RJ shut down even more. His teachers started telling me that he started to be more quiet than usual and was hardly talking at all. At this point, I knew that my baby was embarrassed. He would come home and try to tell me about it but just didn’t know how to get it out so he would say things like, “I don’t have any friends or I only have one friend or the other kids were making fun of me or I don’t know how to do this or that or I don’t understand” and as a parent.. as a MOM.. this was very hard for me to hear. A part of me wanted to get those kids and confront the teacher about potential bullying and the other half of me just wanted to break down and cry. I did cry actually because I knew that everything RJ was going through was pretty much my fault. Had I not been babying him so much, he would have never been in that type of situation. So anyways, after a few breakdowns or two.. I finally got myself together. My Husband & I came up with a few plans and different strategies to put into the action of working towards improving his self-esteem, confidence and maturity.

The road to this type of success has not been easy but worth it! We’ve worked more in depth with learning school work, reading, improving speech, let him participate in more activities with many other kids and I also had to put my foot down with my family! It is so hard trying to raise your children a certain way and teach them new habits when family members keep encouraging the exact opposite. It’s very frustrating. We had to have a few “Come to Jesus Meetings” before I finally just said, “If you can’t respect the positive changes we’re trying to make in RJ’s life for the betterment of his growth and future.. then you will be cut off!” and I wasn’t playing either!

RJ has improved tremendously in all areas and I am so proud! All of the extra work we’ve been putting in with him has paid off. He talks so good now that no one would ever believe that last year he struggled with speech at all. His social skills are much better. There’s a little group of kids in class that he sticks with and he has like two “best friends” haha!! He’s definitely way more independent now with everything. He gets that classwork done with no problem or the comfort of having a teacher right beside him. He’s one of the top smartest in his Kindergarten class!! That makes me & his dad sooooo PROUD! He’s currently five years old and acts like it. He’s definitely matured a lot in this past year and I couldn’t be happier! Most importantly though.. his self-esteem and confidence has came a loooong way! I feel like it’s finally where it needs to be at, especially after last night’s first baseball practice!! 🙂 He was so proud of himself and excited. He was confident in everything he done on the field last night. He’s like a different kid. He’s a big boy now .. so he says.. but deep down he will always be my baby! Both RJ & Noah will. 

I’m sorry. I know this post was a little lengthy today but I appreciate you taking the time to read it! The moral of my post is that self-esteem is an important part of confidence. Having good self-esteem means accepting and feeling positive about yourself. Confidence is not just feeling good but also knowing you are good at something. Particular ways of thinking are very important for building confidence, especially for kids. Kids confidence matters… a lot! 

xoxo,

Jessica!

My BIGGEST Failure as a Parent :(

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Fighting with my Husband in front of the kids…

Just like any other couple, my Husband & I bump heads and have our disagreements from time to time. The one thing I can say I’m proud of is that we don’t argue nearly as often as we use to! As a matter of fact, when we pretty much see an argument approaching we kind of avoid each other and save it for later when the kids are in bed sleeping or we just argue it out through text messages of course while we’re physically not around each other to actually talk it out.

But for this particular situation, I’ll admit.. I was already upset before the argument happened. Long story short, my Husband had done something the night before that got under my skin. The next day, I wanted to sit down and simply talk about it. Let’s just say that I apparently chose the wrong time to approach the conversation. My Husband wasn’t feeling it and as a result I got emotional. The conversation actually went downhill from there. We both started lashing out at each other. Things led from one thing to another. Screaming, yelling, throwing things & etc. We both just kind of lost it on each other that day! Now…when this argument took place, he & I were in our bedroom with the door shut and the kids were in their room across the hall playing with their door shut as well. That didn’t stop them from coming out to see what was going on though. They didn’t get to see/hear much but they saw and heard enough!!

This was definitely one of those arguments that could’ve easily been avoided with some good effective communication. We had both been stressed about a number of things at the time and sometimes we tend to take our frustrations out on each other! Sometimes, our emotions get out of control and it’s not intentional. We’re human and that’s okay.. but what was NOT okay was the fact that our kids saw and heard some of the argument. It was awful. My Husband & I both grew up seeing our parents fight and argue all the time. We both still remember how we felt in those moments and the last thing we want to do is put our children through the exact same thing. 

It’s so unhealthy for children to see their parents fight & more than anything they are emotionally harmed. After it was all said & done, my Husband & I not only apologized to each other but we had to apologize to the kids too & explain why and where we went wrong. Man, we felt so horrible after that but yeah.. so far, that’s my biggest failure as a parent! I know that we’re not the first couple to lose our minds in front of our kids, nor will we ever be the last. There are some parents/couples out there that our far worse than we are and they just keep going. We try to make sure we correct ourselves and are careful to not let it happen repetitively or ever again! 

What’s your worst failure as a parent? If you’re comfortable enough to share, feel free to do so in the comments 🙂 Nothing to be ashamed of. None of us are perfect!