A Push to Help You Heal from Heartbreak.💔

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“What you felt was a hurtful GOODBYE, has now made room for your FOREVER. You can love in the right way that no longer leaves your spirit behind. What came to cause confusion is now requiring you to build your CONFIDENCE. It does get better than this. You now know to embrace what may be deemed as failure as it only ushers in graduation. Because of God, you qualify for real, responsible and unconditional love. No longer will you allow anyone to temporarily occupy that spot as as an MVP in your life. Because when everyone left or treated you in an undeserving way, your MVP stayed close to you. God is loving you through your hurt and pain. So it’s time to let it all go… the tears and the fighting make room for a love that will shine even when the sun no longer lights up the day and the moon no longer lights up the night. Start loving on yourself. Heal from the heartbreak so you can move on into the next chapter of your life.” -Tatiana Jerome

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I felt every word Tatiana said in the passage above and just reading it almost brought tears to my eyes. I’ve experienced a heartbreak like this one that she’s strongly trying to encourage people to heal from. Six years ago, I left the most toxic relationship I’d ever been in. I was in it four years too long. Leaving wasn’t easy.. In fact, it was very hard. I think somehow I had gotten use to and comfortable with all of the mental and physical abuse.. all the lying, cheating and disappointment.. it’s like I’d somehow become numb to it. I just made myself deal with it the best way I could but today I can say that I am so grateful for God answering prayers and giving me the strength and courage to go! Getting pregnant out of wedlock is such a sin to some people but for me it was a blessing and I honestly think my child helped save my life.
I made up in my mind that my baby didn’t deserve to live in an enviroment like the one I was settling for and if I wanted to give him a real chance of having a happy and healthy life, I had to go!! It took a lot of time, self-love, prayer and a great deal of encouragement from certain people in my corner to actually heal from all that I’d gone through in those four years of being with that person. The healing process of it hurt like hell but now I can look back and see how it was all just worth it!
Going through all of that was so hard. I’ll admit, I was scared of being lonely. I scared of raising my child with no father figure in his life. The thought of living the single parent life was a little frightening for me.. even though I watched MY Mom do it for 12 years, I just knew that was not the life I wanted to live!! I had my moments of sadness because I didn’t think no other man would ever want me mostly because I couldn’t bring much to the table at the time. I was pretty hard on myself. My self-esteem took a major hit but man.. I Thank God for G R O W T H !!
Now I can really look back and say, everything that I went through grew me in so many different ways and on so many different levels!! You have no idea how hard I have fought to become the woman I am today. When I say it has taken A LOT of love and pain to get here.. that is what I mean!! And let me tell you something.. God has been faithful !! He has given me EVERYTHING plus some that I prayed and asked Him for during that process of healing and rebuilding myself.
So to everyone who is still struggling through the healing process of the break up – keep telling yourself that things are going to work out even when you don’t know how. Keep loving on you! Keep trusting in the fact that God has it under control and most of all.. believe over everything else that all you have been through is shaping and molding you into the person you are destined to be!! Your positive attitude and optimism will start to change everything that’s happening in your life for the better. There will be a sudden shift because you decided not to give up. Despite the pain, you kept pushing and fighting for better !! Don’t quit because YOU DESERVE BETTER. YOU DESERVE THE BEST.
I know this post is a little lengthy so I’m about to end it. I just wanted to encourage you on today if you’re dealing with this struggle. Remember, self love and self healing is an ongoing process. It’s not something you do for a season and then it’s over. When you establish that healthy and loving relationship with yourself then you set the tone for EVERY other relationship in your life!!
P.S – just in case no one told you today.. I LOVE YOU!! Keep your chin up 🙂 xx!
-jessica

Purpose Behind The Pain..

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“The attacks on your life have more to do with who you might be in the future than who you have been in the past.” -Lisa Bevere

This is such a powerful statement. It speaks so much volume on so many levels. This morning during my drive to drop my son off at school and go to work, I decided to listen to one of my FAVORITE preacher’s sermons. Pastor John Gray. Gosh, I love him! Normally, I listen to music and sing along with it so loudly that you would think I’m having a concert in my car (I know it’s ridiculous) but this morning for some reason I just felt like feeding my spirit at that time. Anyway, at the beginning of the sermon, he began talking about how he had basically been emotional lately because it seemed like the devil kept messing him.. just wouldn’t leave him alone! Have you ever felt like that? I know I have and I can relate! These past few months have been an emotional roller coaster for me. For a while it seemed like every time I turned around something was going on. Whether it was concerning my personal finances, trouble on my job, death of a loved one, drama in my family, an unexpected miscarriage, issues with my health, the stress and struggles of trying to balance being a mom, wife, friend, daughter and everything else.. there for a minute it got tough. And during this particular storm in my life, I couldn’t understand WHY I had to go through some of this stuff. It was so hard to deal with and there even times when I would go to God in prayer alone and just break completely down but at the end of the day, I knew that God had a purpose behind all of it. Regardless of what was going on, I knew that God was BIGGER than everything I was going through. More than anything, I realized that I was under attack of the enemy.

Pastor John Gray went on to say something that really clicked with me this morning. He said, “The devil is agitated because he knows that whatever “thing he had” that was connected to you, that access is about to be cut off!! So this is his last chance to see if you’ll get off track, to see if you’ll let go of the promise or to see if you’ll miss the voice of God. I don’t know who this is for but the enemy always saves his best fireworks for the end of his attack!! So if you can just survive this week, if you can survive this moment, if you can survive this drama at work, these haters that’s texting about you, if you can survive this one little argument between you & your spouse, if you can survive this season.. God is getting ready to break out on your behalf !! If hell has been coming against you please know that Heaven is on the way! If there has been drama between father and son, mother and daughter, it is because the enemy knows that the curse is about to broken and he will have no more authority!” 

Everything he said this morning was pure conformation for me! Like, these words touched the core of my heart and dang near had me in tears before I walked into work because I know how hard these past few months have been for me but not once did I ever stop praying. As a matter of fact, I prayed until my head was lifted above my enemy. And even though my faith struggled at times, my circumstances were never strong enough to kill my trust in God. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again… sometimes what you go through is not always for you. It’s not always for your benefit but it’s actually to help those that you often seek to help! God assigns certain mountains to your life to show others that they can be moved. You never know how God is really using you, especially in the lives of other people. You never know who He’s connecting to you. 

Whatever you’re going through right now, just remember that storms don’t last forever! You might not see the light at the end of the tunnel right now but I promise, it’s there. Of course, the devil works overtime to try and get you upset. Why? Because he knows that if you don’t remain peaceful, you can’t hear from God. If you watch your life, you’ll be amazed at how many times a week Satan launches an attack against you for the sole purpose of stealing your peace. Stay strong. Keep praying, pushing and fighting for another day because it gets better. It will get better!! & Remember.. “all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 

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