Dealing with NEGATIVE People

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How do I deal with negative people? 

A few ways I’ve learned to deal with negative people when I just absolutely have to be around them is:

  1. Avoid lecturing or preaching to the person. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even waste my breath. If they don’t directly ask for my opinion then I keep it to myself.
  2. Act instead of reacting. Negative people feed off of each other and I’ve noticed that sometimes they like to pick at other people who carry a more positive vibe and intentionally push their buttons just to get a reaction.. but I’ve learned how to give them the exact opposite!! 😜 There’s some stuff you just leave alone. You don’t fix every problem that comes across your radar. You don’t try to straighten out every dispute that comes before you. I’ve learned to choose my battles wisely. Sometimes, peace is better than being right.
  3. Brighten the Conversation. Anybody that knows me knows I’m a goofy person. I love to laugh!! A lot of times, I’ll try to brighten the convo by attempting to bring laughter or positive vibes to it and if that doesn’t work then I get up & kindly walk away.

 

Other than those three methods that I just mentioned above.. I don’t fool with negative people! I just don’t. They’re like annoying bags of HELL !! I know that’s mean but it’s true and if you’re not careful, they will suck the “happy” right out of you. For that very reason, I keep my distance.✌

During the first two months of this year, I worked hard on regaining my sense of self-peace back and now that I have it back.. I’ve been very protective over it. As a matter of fact, I’ve been  on such a positive streak here lately that anything or anybody that is contrary to that is getting cut off. I’ve gotten to the point where I won’t even allow myself to be in the enviroment of negativity. I don’t go around negative, miserable, sour and petty people unless I just have to be there and you better believe if I have to go.. I’m carrying all kinds of positive vibes with me! I’ve gotten in the habit of setting the tone, setting the atmosphere for positivity just about anywhere I go. I try to make sure I bring laughter, good vibes, be uplifting.. I’ll get somewhere and start speaking life over people, speaking prosperity, I speak healing because there is power in your words! If you can believe what you keep speaking then you’ll also see whatever it is that you’re speaking come to past. That’s that faith talk right there! There is power in your tongue and don’t ever forget that. You can go somewhere or nowhere based on what you say and your belief in what you said. ❤

But some people don’t like that. They don’t like when you bring medicine to a conversation. They don’t want to be healed. They don’t want to be free. They don’t want to feel better about their situation. They could care less about a positive perspective. They would rather stay in bondage. They ain’t really looking for happiness. Most of the time they just want attention and that’s cool. I don’t even waste my energy entertaining that type of behavior anymore. I used to feel so sorry for people like that but at some point, I came to the realization that if/when they really want better, they’ll do better. No excuses. I kindly say a prayer for ’em and just go on about my business.

The older I get the more I realize that I won’t settle for anything that disturbs my peace and I’m serious. I don’t want to be around any drama, conflict or stress. If we don’t vibe the same.. I won’t entertain too much of a conversation with you. If our energies don’t match, you can just forget it. 🤷‍♀️That may have even sounded mean but you have to learn to not let bitter, unhappy people drag you down to their level.

This is my way of dealing with negative people while also maintaining keeping my peace protected. I haven’t always dealt with them this way and as a result in the past, it caused me to be emotionally stressed and irritated all the time. Thank God for better methods though!! Now my question to you is, how do you deal with negative people

As always.. thanks for reading!! I love you guys from the bottom of my heart! 🙂 

-Jessica

 

 

 

 

Some people will always be… where they are!!

Seriously, you know you have no importance about yourself or your life whatsoever when the only thing you do is look for drama on social media & indulge in it all day everyday!

Get some real life goals about yourself. Find something to do! Read/Write a book. Go back to school. Start your own business. Create a vision board & do something each day to work towards actually achieving those goals. Go make some money! Figure out what your good at & turn them into side hustles for extra cash! (legal of course) Shoot, become a blogger! Get active in your community and come up with different ways to promote positivity. Thats always needed!!

There is so much more out here for you to do besides wasting time & energy on nonsense. Fighting and arguing over the same stuff day in & day out has to eventually get tiresome and old. Focus on using all of that energy towards doing something positive otherwise you wont get very far in life. You will indeed always remain right where you are. Do better, much better. 💜