Little More Kindness, Little Less Judgment

Please understand that you only see a portion of a person’s life, not fully knowing every little thing they are going through. Stop being so quick to jump to assumptions or write them off because you may think the “portion” of what you know they are going through is insignificant but rather, be kind, keep your mouth closed regarding things you do not have facts on and simply pray for them. We all face daily battles that nobody knows about and that’s just the truth. There’s a story behind every person. Why they’re the way they are. Keep that in mind the next time you get ready to judgement someone. Today will never come again. Be a blessing to someone. Be a friend. Encourage. Take time to actually care. Let your words heal others and not wound them.

Thanks for visiting my blog today !! xoxo!!

-Jessica

Who Cares About What “They” Think!

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It’s time to live for YOU & not for the approval of others! One of the worst things you could ever do is become a prisoner to the opinions of other people.

Getting married young is okay. Getting pregnant young is okay. Not going to college right after high school is okay. Not going to college at all is okay. You dropped out of school a long time ago & just now got your GED, okay! Congratulations!! Forget what people say, you’re making progress! Being a single parent is okay. Being a housewife is okay. Working a 9-5 is okay. Working two jobs to make ends meet is Okay! We’ve all been up against a struggle at some point in our lives. Don’t let people fool you! Being skinny doesn’t make you pretty and being fat doesn’t make you ugly but if you are not satisfied with your body, then I encourage you to do something about it. Join a gym. I did. Eat healthier. I’m trying! You’re not in this alone. You work hard, pay your bills and afterwards you don’t have anything left to splurge with – that doesn’t necessarily make you broke. It makes you responsible more than anything. You gotta do what you HAVE to do before you can do what you WANT to do especially when you have a family. Priorities.

Let’s talk about sexuality! You’re still a virgin? That’s freaking awesome!! Don’t be ashamed; be proud of that! I admire both your strength and morals. Keep the cookie on lock down until God sends you your Boaz!❤ (Boaz-Bible Character) Don’t worry about the ones hating on you. They’re probably jealous and wished they would’ve waited too! Ahh well! You’re a lesbian? Okay. You’re straight? Okay. Bisexual? Okay. You’re gay? OKAYYY!! That’s cool! I don’t care about any of that. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. 🙂 It’s simple. I don’t have a Heaven or a Hell to put you in & neither does the next person that has something to say about it. Oh & FYI: Not all cops are bad cops. Not all black men are thugs. Not all white people are racists & just because a person is covered in tattoos doesn’t mean they love Jesus any less than you do!🤷‍♀️

Judgemental people are the WORST! They get on my nerves – always somewhere pointing the finger at somebody else & steadily looking down on folks. It’s crazy. Judgemental people act like they have NEVERRR had a past before and are so quick to label others just because they’re not like them. But you know what though?

Not one drop of your self-worth depends on their acceptance of you. So let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren’t your problems. You stay kind, committed to love and free in your authenticity! Know who you are, own who you are & most importantly, LOVE YOU!! Not everyone will understand your journey & that’s cool. It’s not for them to understand so don’t try and make them. Don’t let other people’s insecurities interfere with how you feel about you. Always remember that if there is no peace within them then they will come for you but when you are in your own peace they can’t touch you. Their hell is just looking for company. Don’t give them that type of satisfaction or power over you. Everyday, you have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your own happiness. You can choose to not let little things and petty people upset you. 

Don’t get caught up trying to live your life as society dictates or based off of what you see on social media. You’ll mess around and stress yourself out trying to live life to please and impress other people. There are some things, relationships and lifestyles on social media that don’t even exist.. People pretend well! Remember that. Learn to love the skin your are in. Value yourself. It’s okay to be different! Your difference is what makes you unique. Stay away from people who try to make you believe otherwise. Let me put some Jesus up in here to remind you that you are fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. (Psalm 139:14) 

….& Keep in mind that everything that has happened or is happening in your life right now is either “God Ordained or God Allowed” .. either way, He’s got it under complete control. He’s the creator of your life story, not your haters. I love you guys and I hope you are encouraged!! 

Much love, 

Jessica