4 Things I Do To Fight Depression!

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Depression is R E A L & one thing that I know about it is if you don’t fight it.. it will literally overtake you and eventually begin to control you! I believe everybody deals with depression and anxiety but on different levels. Some people know how to cope with it and keep it under control while some others have no clue and put up a struggle to fight it daily the best they can. I don’t know why I’ve been so heavy on this topic lately but it’s being weighing on my heart like crazy! One thing is sure though, even if I don’t understand it at the moment.. I know God doesn’t just put things on my heart for no reason at all. I consider myself to be a pretty strong person for the most part but every once in a while I have my emotional days of depression and if I’m not careful about how I fight it… then it just kind of settles in and tries to take over. So down below, I’ve shared about four different things that I do to prevent that from happening.

 

Music

I listen to gospel music! (Contemporary gospel to be exact.) This is something that people kind of make fun of me for but I don’t care. I’ve never cared. I like what I like and other peoples opinions on this is something that has never been able to shy me away from it. I’m thankful for gospel artists though and their obedience in letting God use them to spread His word & love through music. It’s so encouraging. The words in the songs have a way of touching the core of my heart & if it sit there and listen to it long enough, my mood changes! Whether I’m depressed or pissed off, it calms my nerves. Sometimes, it makes me emotional but in a good way! Keeps me humble & helps me to stay honest with myself. I notice that when some people are sad or depressed, they listen to sad and depressing music! They choose songs that will literally make them feel lower than they already are at the moment. For some people that works but for me, it does not! If I’m using music as my way to escape my current pain then it has to be something that’s uplifting. I have to be listening to something that’s going to speak life into my spirit and not make me feel worse than I’m already feeling. Music is so influential on the brain that the type you listen to actually has the ability to change the way you think and look at certain situations. The impact that music has on your perspective is bigger than you think it is. 

YouTube!

Sometimes I get on YouTube and listen to my F A V O R I T E preacher, Pastor John Gray! I don’t do this very often during my emotional moments of depression. Like I almost have to be in the mood to actually sit there and listen to it but every once in a blue moon it helps lighten my mood! 

Saved Memes in My Phone

I feel kind of weird including this one in any of my posts but I’m going to tell you anyway because it helps me and I want to help you in every possible! I save have a lot of saved memes in my phone. Some are encouraging and others are just downright hilarious. When I’m feeling down and in the dumps, I scroll through these and most of the time they make me smile 🙂 Most of the time they just remind me that everything’s going to be okay and regardless of what my situation is .. God still has a purpose behind it. For example, one of my favorite memes I have saved says, “You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.” I’ve used this quote in two of my previous posts and I love it so much! It’s a small one but speaks so much volume! But yeah, that’s just one of those that reminds me that everything I go through is not always for my benefit! Sometimes, reminders are needed to keep us going in the right direction. This is one of my ways of encouraging feeding myself constant positivity. 
Leaning on Friends!

Most of the time when people are depressed, they want to be left alone & that’s understandable because I get that way too. But over time, I’ve learned that it’s not always good to be completely isolated from everything and everyone. That’s when suicidal thoughts seem to be the strongest. Depression & Solitude is a terrible combination. Try your best to avoid it! I’ve gotten to where I lean on my friends. Now, I don’t have a lot of friends but I do have a good handful in my corner and when I get depressed there are only certain ones that I’ll call. I call on my GOOFIEST friends! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, they have a way of taking my mind completely off of any stress or depression without even knowing at first that I’m feeling that way. Those silly heifers make me laugh til my stomach hurts! They make me laugh in the moments I don’t even feeling like smiling & I appreciate them so much for that! I always feel a little better after a good laughing session with them. It doesn’t change whatever my situation is but it does pick me up out of that depressing funk. Make sure you have some people in your life that have the ability to make you feel better whether they know what’s going on or not. They are important and they come in handy during hard depressing times. 

Grandma’s Love!

My Granny is my rock! Besides God, she is a truly a source of strength for me. I go to her about any & everything regardless of what type of mood I’m in. I don’t always call either. I physically go see her. A lot of times, just being in her presence is enough for me. She has such a healing type of spirit about herself and anyone that knows her will tell you that! I could be depressed, happy, sad, excited stressed out, feeling crafty, in a cooking mood or whatever and my Granny will be ready for it! She always knows what to do, always knows exactly what to say and always has the right answers for just about everything. She be ready for whatever whenever!! She’s something like a superwoman in my eyes. And I have to be honest, I don’t trust a lot of people in my family but this woman right here.. I trust her with everything in me. My granny keeps ALL of my secrets and will literally take them to the grave with her! She was the very first person to know about both of my pregnancies and even my miscarriage last year. I could name a list of everything she knows about me but I’ll save you the time! But seriously though, my Granny is my everything. When my back is against the wall, I know I can go to her and I also know that I trust her to be honest with me about myself concerning whatever I’m going through at the moment as well as be encouraging and show me some TLC ! (tender, loving, care) I do realize that not everyone still has their grandmothers in their lives but I am truly blessed to still have mine and I just wanted to share with you all that she is definitely one of my weapons to fighting off depression.

 

Some of you already probably implement some of these same exact strategies but for the ones who don’t then I hope this post helps you! And let me say this, what works for me may not work for you and if not, make sure you get the necessary help that you need! If you need to go see a shrink/therapist then by all means go see one! There’s no shame in that and to be honest you.. I’ve been considering doing that for myself just because I’m still struggling to heal from some of the things that have happened in my past. No shame!! Do not be bothered by the opinions of other people. You gotta do what you gotta do for YOU! Remember that. 

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10 Ways to Treat Yo Self w/o Spending Money!!

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  • Take a nap!! 

You’re never too old for naps !! If you’re not a napping type of person then just lay there & relax. Enjoy the peace and quiet.

  • Take a Bubble Bath!!

Take a long bubble bath!! R E L A X.. dim the lights, enjoy you a nice glass of wine & some music. I don’t get to do this as often as I would like to but when I do… I love it! 

  • Netflix & Chill

Catch up on some of your favorite netflix series/movies and enjoy indulging in one of your favorite snacks!

  • Exercise/Workout

I don’t know about you but exercising helps me relieve a lot of stress. I don’t necessarily mean lifting weights either. Yoga, walking and dance workout dvds get the job done and it’s also fun!!

  • Read a Book!!

Find you a good book inspirational book to read and spend time doing that! I’ll be honest with you, I’m not very big on reading unless it’s a really really good book! I mean, this book has to catch my attention within the first 5-10 pages or I’m done with it haha but when I do get my hands on a good book, it’s hard to put it down! 

  • Take a Day Off & Do Absolutely NOTHING!!

I mean that! Don’t fix your hands to do anything that requires you to do any kind of work. This is one of those forms of self-care that everyone needs to put into action every once in a while. As a matter of fact, I did this yesterday when I got home from work.. NOTHING! I had an awful day yesterday! In fact, it was so bad that all I really wanted to do was come in and just kind of be in my own world. I didn’t cook, clean, do laundry, dishes.. nothing and it felt good! I thank God for my Husband though. He understood how my day went and did a lot to take the load off my shoulders so I wouldn’t have to worry about it. Gosh, I love him!

  • Go Visit A Friend!

This is something quite fun to do! If you’re anything like me.. busy all the time in every aspect of life then you really don’t get to enjoy quality time with your friends as often as you’d like to but every now and then, it’s good to set time aside to go kick it with a friend! There’s nothing like catching up with close friends and enjoying A LOT of laughs together! I laugh so hard at my friends most of the time I’m with them. They really have a way of taking my mind off of anything that’s stressing me out without even knowing that I’m stressed or why! haha. They’re the real MVPS lol

  • Have Sex!

No explanation needed here haha! 

  • Journaling Time!

Writing is a great way to vent about any and everything! I don’t have a journal though. I blog and that’s where I vent for the most part.. whatever I’m not talking my Husband’s head off about, you can almost bet your bottom dollar that I’m writing about it! haha, I write til I feel better and when writing doesn’t help, I pray! To me, writing is also another form of relaxation and self care!! Sometimes, writing is like therapy. It’s just a way to get any tension, hurt or hate out of your heart. 

  • Back Roads!! 

Okay, this one you might have to spend a few dollars on if your gas tank is sitting on empty but maaaan, I love me some back roads!! Ya know, really.. I just love driving and listening to music period! If you are ever in the car with me and I’m driving and I’M in control of the music… just get ready for a mini concert because I be singing my little heart out! haha. No, I don’t think I can sing for real but I can hold a tune!! Anyways, let me stay on topic here.. back roads and music is so relaxing. I love it, especially when I start jamming to my favorite gospel songs. It’s like I go into worship right there in my car and just relaxing. I don’t any other way to describe it but if you’ve never done it before, you should give it a try! 

 

I really hope you enjoyed reading this post and I hope that some of these tips help you out. Remember.. TREAT YO SELF!! Take time to care about you. Stop trying to be superwoman/superman all the time. You’re just as much human as the rest of us and sometimes you need a break or at least time to relax!! Don’t forget to like, comment, share or subscribe to my site if you liked this post or any of my other posts!! 🙂 

 

 

Hello March!! Goals for the next 31 days.

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“Spend More Time With Jesus”

This is just something that I need to do a better job at period. Sometimes, I’ll do good reading my bible and spending some time in prayer everyday and then after a while.. I get very inconsistent with it. I don’t know why but I need to improve my consistency. I’m going to work on spending time with God around the exact same time EVERYDAY and not just when I feel like it. I believe if I can find balance with that, I’ll do better. 

 

Drink More Water!”

Okay, so this one.. I might struggle with! As much as I LOVEEE my Sprites and slushes from Sonic, I know I need to give them  a rest. Sometimes I like water and sometimes I don’t. Even though I know water is healthy.. I still have a love/hate relationship with it. However, there are many benefits to drinking water!! It increases energy & relieves fatigue, promotes weight loss, flushes out toxins, improves skin complexion, boosts immune system and prevents cramps and sprains. So with that being said, I’m going to do better!! So far, I’ve gotten in the habit of drinking water all day while I’m at work. I wait to drink everything else later in the evening when I’m eating dinner. I’m not sure if that defeats the purpose or not but it’s a start!

 

“Work on Shutting Down Conversations That Aim To Tear Down Other People”

Uh ohh.. this is a big one!! It is so easy to get caught up in conversations of gossip. It’s easy to fall into the trap of talking about negative things, problems, disappointments and struggles, especially when it’s about someone else. Don’t act like you’re not guilty of it. We’ve all done it. Whether it’s you that starts the conversation or someone else.. it is so easy to get on the subject of other people’s business instead of focusing on the POSITIVE things that they have going on or solutions for their problems. WE gotta do better. Yes, I’m talking about me too! We gotta work on speaking more words of encouragement that will build people up and make them feel better instead of tearing them down. We get many opportunities everyday to put this into practice, but it requires real discipline and determination. 

 

Yes I know, I didn’t set A LOT of goals.. but that’s just how I am. I like to set small realistic goals for myself and work on reaching them first before I set way too many just to end up feeling unaccomplished. It’s just easier that way for me 🙂 Do you have any personal goals for the month of March? Feel free to share them with me! I would love the inspiration! Oh & don’t forget to like, comment, share or subscribe to my site if you liked this post or any of my other posts!! Thank you guys!! All support is appreciated more than you will ever know!

 

Some people will always be… where they are!!

Seriously, you know you have no importance about yourself or your life whatsoever when the only thing you do is look for drama on social media & indulge in it all day everyday!

Get some real life goals about yourself. Find something to do! Read/Write a book. Go back to school. Start your own business. Create a vision board & do something each day to work towards actually achieving those goals. Go make some money! Figure out what your good at & turn them into side hustles for extra cash! (legal of course) Shoot, become a blogger! Get active in your community and come up with different ways to promote positivity. Thats always needed!!

There is so much more out here for you to do besides wasting time & energy on nonsense. Fighting and arguing over the same stuff day in & day out has to eventually get tiresome and old. Focus on using all of that energy towards doing something positive otherwise you wont get very far in life. You will indeed always remain right where you are. Do better, much better. 💜

ME Time for M0MS.

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Even the most dedicated and patient mother needs a break every now and then. Your reasons may be different from mine but I know for me personally, sometimes the responsibilities of life tend to get a bit overwhelming. Every once in a blue moon, I’m able to catch a break from work, school, church, friends, finances & everything else that demands my attention almost on a daily basis but the one thing that I can hardly seem to catch a break from is MOTHERHOOD. Now don’t get me wrong, because I love my babies. They are truly my two little balls of sunshine but sometimes the day-to-day tasks of motherhood are just tough. That’s not really the reason we all deserve a little quiet time. It’s because those day-to-day tasks literally never end. If you’re a mom you know exactly what I’m talking about; there’s always something to do! It is so easy for moms to forget that they’re people too and as such, deserving of the occasional breather.

Due to the fact that I don’t have a very good support system, I don’t get breaks very often. In fact, “breaks” are very rare for me so when I do get them… I appreciate them very much! Because of this, I tend to dramatically indulge in my little “me time” moments!! Maaannn, I ENJOY EVERY SINGLE SECOND I GET!! Just to help another mom out there that’s like me and doesn’t get to enjoy the luxury of breaks.. I’m gonna share some of my mommy indulges.

  1. GET UP EARLIER

Monday-Friday I’m automatically up no later than 5:45am to get ready for work & get my kids ready for school but on the weekends.. sometimes, I’m up early by choice! I like to enjoy the quiet and stillness of the house while they’re sleeping in. I have found it to be one of the best times to read a book, study my bible, spend some time in prayer, write/blog, do some exercising, get a head start on cleaning or just lay there and be lazy in peace while scrolling on social media.

2. GIVE YOURSELF AT LEAST ONE NIGHT OFF PER WEEK

Now sometimes, this is just something necessary to do…absolutely nothing and it feels good! I don’t have a designated day for this one. I just kind of base this one off of how my work day went. Most of the time if it was a super long and stressful one then yeah.. I’m taking the night off at home and by night off, I mean I’m literally coming home to unwind and relax! I’m not cooking dinner, doing laundry and sometimes not even the dishes! The only things those type of nights consist of in my house are my daily tasks with my children (homework, showers and easy dinner like pizza) , a big glass of wine to myself, enjoying some of my favorite TV shows and spending time with my Husband!

3. BATHROOM TIME!!

OK! This funky little idea right here just so happens to be one of my FAVORITES!! It kinda seems like the younger your children are the more they seem to harass you while you’re on the toilet or in the shower but now that mine are a little older (3yrs & 5yrs) they know to leave me alone when I’m in there!! Now before I go spend 45mins-1hr in the bathroom, I usually wait until their dad is home just in case they need anything… they can ask him! (& don’t ask me why I’m in there that long either haha sometimes it’s just the best place to relax… ya know a bubble bath & a glass of wine, music, my phone and to get away from everyone!!) If he’s not there, then I wait until they’re in the bed! Usually, by that time they don’t need anything else but to go to sleep. Time in the bathroom is a great way to get some good quiet me time!

4. QUIET TIME AKA NAP TIME

I don’t make my kids take naps as often as I use to just because I feel like they’re getting a little too old for them. Even though, the house is quietest when they’re sleeping and most relaxing for me… I save this method for when I’m exhausted and need a nap myself or if I’m just not feeling well and don’t have the energy to do anything but lay around. However, when a daily nap use to be apart of my children’s schedule it was usually a time of relief for me. I would take advantage of that time to get some things done that I would normally struggle with if they were awake and running wild.

5. MAXIMIZE YOUR COMMUTE

Sometimes, I leave my kids at home with their dad & take trips to Walmart or the Dollar Store just to get out of the house and catch a breather. Sometimes, I go because I have something in particular that I need to buy and sometimessss I go just to get that break away from home for a few minutes; especially after a tough day. It’s just nice to be alone and get some fresh air. This is indeed relaxing. Not only is it nice to get away from the kids for a minute but its also nice to window shop! haha and when I’m shopping for real, it’s just nice to shop in peace! This sounds horrible but I love going to the store without my kids because normally when they’re with me they ask for absolutely everything!! Every now and then, they’ll drive me completely up the wall in Walmart from one aisle to the next! Bless it Lord haha.

5. BOX TECHNIQUE!

The box technique is also known as “chill time” in my house. This particular box is where you keep all of your children’s favorite toys/games that they don’t play too often or have to be under supervision while playing with them. For example, my box consists of Tablets, Nintendo DS, Playdough, Slime, Coloring Books & Crayons! Well actually, I don’t quite have box. I’m not that organized 😂 my stuff sits up on a shelf! But anyway, my kids LOVE chill time!! Whenever I want a few minutes of “calm & quiet” I let them choose from the shelf what they want to play with. If it’s electronics, then I make them sit on their beds and play them quietly. If it’s playdough or slime, I let them sit at their table and quietly play with those as well. Same method for the coloring. My boys LOVE when I let them get their hands on this stuff! Believe it or not but it keeps them very content, calm, happy & entertained for a long time! I know when I pull this stuff out, most of the time I don’t have to worry about them arguing/fighting. Y’all know how kids can be! Anyways, this gives me the chance to kinda relax in my world a little bit & just do some things that I enjoy doing in peace. (Arts & Crafts, Making Door Wreaths, Writing/Blogging, or just watching TV!) Yay, another win for mom!!

6. THE BEAUTY SALON

This is another form of “me time” that is absolutely one of my favorites! You get to pamper yourself AND enjoy the luxury of “me time” all in one! It’s pretty self explanatory. I haven’t been to the beauty salon in what seems like forever!! It’s about time that I pay them another visit very soon. I need something done to my hair ASAP 🤪 I shall be treating myself very very soon !!

7. PUT THE KIDS TO BED AT A DECENT TIME EVERY NIGHT

I understand that a lot of parents are different when it comes to this. Some people put their kids to bed by 8pm and some let their kids stay up til 2am. Some people have their kids on a schedule and some don’t. At my house, my kids are in the bed by 8pm most nights. Occasionally, they get to stay up until 10:30pm at the latest but other than that.. they’re in the bed at a decent time. For my Husband and I have to them on a daily routine like that is beneficial to both them & us. They get the proper amount of sleep they need to function the next day and we get the rest of the night to spend quality time with each other. I personally know a few people who have said that one of the biggest issues between them & their partner/spouse is that they never get to spend any time together due to always having to deal with the kids. These are also people/parents who let their kids stay up close until 2am every night too. I just want to state the fact that one of the reasons marriages & relationships fail .. is due to lack of communication and quality time. To have your kids on a schedule/daily routine is beneficial to single parents as well. I don’t make my kids go straight to sleep as soon as they lay down. I let them lay there and watch a movie of their choice until they doze off. (which is normally an hr after they’ve gotten in the bed) When they’re in the bed, I use all of that time to really relax! I get to sit down and eat my dinner in peace, enjoy TV in peace, spend QT with my husband in peace and get super comfortable! I know by that time it’s always perfectly okay to do so. If you’re one those people who absolutely can’t catch a break for nothing… just know that if and when you get your kids on a schedule when it comes to bedtime, you’ll find a lot more relief. Don’t complain about never being able to catch a breather if you haven’t tried this yet!

I love my babies but sometimes.. I just need a break from my little rugrats and the day-to day tasks. I know there are other moms out there like me who don’t have the greatest support system and have to take quick breaks when they can and enjoy them! Just don’t forget that you’re a person & you deserve the occasional breather too. I hope that some of my Me Time for Moms Ideas helped you and if you have any that you’d like to share please feel free to do so!! I’m always open to new ideas 🙂