How to Handle Low Key Haters!

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The people you expect to congratulate you on your success will truly surprise you! That’s okay though. You have ALL the support you need in order to move on to the next level. You can’t force people to be happy for you. To be happy for you means they would need to be happy for what is happening in your life right now. They can’t be happy for you with right now if they never thought you would be great or get what you have going on. And it’s disheartening especially when it’s those that you’re close to that seem to be sour about your “come up” but one thing you gotta remember is that everybody can’t go to the next level with you!
Be careful not to mix the seasonal people with the lifetime ones. Some people pass through our lives for a season to teach us lessons that could never be learned if they stayed. You don’t have to let people go completely but you don’t need to let them distract you either. Love from a distance if necessary and keep going! Don’t let folks break you down because you are greater than what they make you out to be. They want you to fail so they can say you’re just like them. Sometimes people hurt you because they need somebody on their same level but in spite of that you keep going! Be more concerned about where you’re going rather than who is not going with you. Don’t worry about that. God will put the people in your life that need to be there!
Thanks for visiting my blog today! Your company is ALWAYS appreciated!!
-Jessica

Who Cares About What “They” Think!

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It’s time to live for YOU & not for the approval of others! One of the worst things you could ever do is become a prisoner to the opinions of other people.

Getting married young is okay. Getting pregnant young is okay. Not going to college right after high school is okay. Not going to college at all is okay. You dropped out of school a long time ago & just now got your GED, okay! Congratulations!! Forget what people say, you’re making progress! Being a single parent is okay. Being a housewife is okay. Working a 9-5 is okay. Working two jobs to make ends meet is Okay! We’ve all been up against a struggle at some point in our lives. Don’t let people fool you! Being skinny doesn’t make you pretty and being fat doesn’t make you ugly but if you are not satisfied with your body, then I encourage you to do something about it. Join a gym. I did. Eat healthier. I’m trying! You’re not in this alone. You work hard, pay your bills and afterwards you don’t have anything left to splurge with – that doesn’t necessarily make you broke. It makes you responsible more than anything. You gotta do what you HAVE to do before you can do what you WANT to do especially when you have a family. Priorities.

Let’s talk about sexuality! You’re still a virgin? That’s freaking awesome!! Don’t be ashamed; be proud of that! I admire both your strength and morals. Keep the cookie on lock down until God sends you your Boaz!❤ (Boaz-Bible Character) Don’t worry about the ones hating on you. They’re probably jealous and wished they would’ve waited too! Ahh well! You’re a lesbian? Okay. You’re straight? Okay. Bisexual? Okay. You’re gay? OKAYYY!! That’s cool! I don’t care about any of that. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. 🙂 It’s simple. I don’t have a Heaven or a Hell to put you in & neither does the next person that has something to say about it. Oh & FYI: Not all cops are bad cops. Not all black men are thugs. Not all white people are racists & just because a person is covered in tattoos doesn’t mean they love Jesus any less than you do!🤷‍♀️

Judgemental people are the WORST! They get on my nerves – always somewhere pointing the finger at somebody else & steadily looking down on folks. It’s crazy. Judgemental people act like they have NEVERRR had a past before and are so quick to label others just because they’re not like them. But you know what though?

Not one drop of your self-worth depends on their acceptance of you. So let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren’t your problems. You stay kind, committed to love and free in your authenticity! Know who you are, own who you are & most importantly, LOVE YOU!! Not everyone will understand your journey & that’s cool. It’s not for them to understand so don’t try and make them. Don’t let other people’s insecurities interfere with how you feel about you. Always remember that if there is no peace within them then they will come for you but when you are in your own peace they can’t touch you. Their hell is just looking for company. Don’t give them that type of satisfaction or power over you. Everyday, you have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your own happiness. You can choose to not let little things and petty people upset you. 

Don’t get caught up trying to live your life as society dictates or based off of what you see on social media. You’ll mess around and stress yourself out trying to live life to please and impress other people. There are some things, relationships and lifestyles on social media that don’t even exist.. People pretend well! Remember that. Learn to love the skin your are in. Value yourself. It’s okay to be different! Your difference is what makes you unique. Stay away from people who try to make you believe otherwise. Let me put some Jesus up in here to remind you that you are fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. (Psalm 139:14) 

….& Keep in mind that everything that has happened or is happening in your life right now is either “God Ordained or God Allowed” .. either way, He’s got it under complete control. He’s the creator of your life story, not your haters. I love you guys and I hope you are encouraged!! 

Much love, 

Jessica