3 Reasons Why Date Night is SO Important for Married Couples !

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Today I want to talk about why Date Night is SO important for Married Couples !! This past weekend, My Husband & I went out to celebrate his 28 years of life .. YAY !! Another Birthday, Another Blessing!! That’s what’s inspiring this post. We had SO much FUN!! It was just a fun and very relaxing weekend overall. It was a very much needed and break from the daily demands of being a parent or even an adult for that matter. During my work hours today, I found myself smiling and thinking about how much of a good time we really had and in that moment I was also reminded of how important date night really is, especially for married couples.

It is so easy to get caught up in the duties of everyday life. If you’re a parent then you know how busy the daily tasks of parenting are.ย  If you work crazy hours everyday, then you understand. If you’re a student that’s gone back to college, then it’s possible to get entirely too busy with that too! It’s not always intentional but often timesย married couples tend to forget to make time for each other. They get so busy with life that eventually their marriage or relationship seems to no longer be a top priority and that alone could result in boredom and that’s the last thing you want to be dealing with. So, in my opinion, Date Night is absolutely essential for a healthy marriage and down below are 3 important reasons why I feel that way!

EXCITEMENT

It’s important to spice things up and have new adventures. Sometimes it’s scary doing things outside of your comfort zone but it’s also super exciting and a little dare devilish when you can do it with someone you’re actually comfortable with! Keeping the excitement alive also gives you an opportunity to bond and create so many new memories!! It also helps you build trust with one another and support as well as you find new differences ๐Ÿ™‚ The excitement aspect of date night keeps you young and fun in spirit no matter how old you are or how long you’ve been together!!

COMMUNICATION

Keeping an open line of communication is essential to a healthy marriage or any relationship at all. I feel like date night encourages positive communication. It’s the perfect time to remind your spouse of how much you love and care about them. A few nice, loving, and kind words go a long way in marriage. It really does more for your partner than you will ever actually know. Plus, the more you sit there and chat, the more likely you are to remember why you fell in love in the first place. That’s not the only type of communication that needs to happen on date night though. It’s perfectly okay and healthy to talk and catch up on how things are going in your life whether it’s at school, work, parenting or whatever but I would definitely avoid talking about anything that’s going to stress your partner out and ruin the night. Don’t do that.

SEX

This is that part of marriage that a lot of people don’t like to talk about but I’m gonna say this – Sex is not the most important part of a marriage or relationship but it does play a pretty big role!! It’s such a beautiful level of intimacy especially when you’re sharing it with your soulmate. However, when you fail to satisfy your partners sexual needs, then you also open the door for boredom and unfaithfulness. That’s an awful thing for me to say but that’s just the type of world and generation we live and it’s the truth! Again, life gets busy and that’s understandable but you do need to make sure you’re keeping the sex drive alive! Date Night is a G R E A T time to this type of fun happen!! I’m just saying lol. If you don’t have time any other time then you be sure to make time for it on date night!ย 

 

I’m sure there are many reasons as to why “Date Night” is important but these are my top three. I was just sitting here earlier thinking about how good of time my husband and I had this past weekend and it made think of other people who are in relationships, especially marriages and are having issues due to boredom. It’s sad and I’m just thankful that boredom isn’t a problem for us but I did want to share what I hope can be some helpful tips to anyone who’s looking for them! ๐Ÿ™‚ My husband and I don’t get to have Date Night very often due to the fact that we don’t have a very good support system when it comes to babysitters so we’ve learned how to make time for each through the week and that’s always fun but it’s nothing compared to actually getting out of the house and being active together!! I love literally every second of it. I hope you enjoyed this post today! I know it’s a little off topic from what I’ve been posting over the past month or two but I warned you in my “Welcome” .. I will talk about some of any and everything !! ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m aiming to encourage personal growth in every aspect that I possibly can!!

-Jessica

BASEBALL DAYS!!โšพ๏ธโšพ๏ธ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™

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My Tuesday was so busy that I actually didn’t get a chance to write a blog post for you guys! It was my babies very 1st TBall Game & they did such a great job !! Not only am I proud of them, I’m also proud of the entire team!! They all played so hard but most importantly.. they had FUN !! (: WE WON TOO! 10-2. Since I didn’t get to share an actual post, I figured I give you all a little recap of our Tuesday through pictures !!

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My big boys !!! RJ is #3 & Noah is #4 ๐Ÿ™‚

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Me, my silly kids, mom & my best friend which is also their God Mother ! ๐Ÿ™‚

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My big babies !! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Caught them not paying attention a couple of times! haha.

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Noah up to bat ! ๐Ÿ™‚

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He missed the first time.. tried again and then hit it !!

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Noah! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Swing Batter Batter Swing !!! (RJ) He hit pretty hard !!

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My nephew Jaylen! Caught him in action headed to first base!

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Lol this was when RJ actually hit the ball but got out before he could get all the way there lol as you can tell he didn’t wanna go to the dugout so soon! haha

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Noah lol He is so SILLY !!

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My babes !! (:

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Gosh, I love this picture of me and them. I’m gonna have to frame it!!

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Bored, ready to go lol

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Game over! We won 10-2

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Lol not paying attention but playing 3rd base

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My sweet little nephew !!

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My Best Frannnn !!

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My niece and I !! ๐Ÿ™‚ She loves my sunglasses !

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RJ up batting!

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Totally in love with rocking my baseball shirt !!!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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I hope you guys enjoyed !!!! We had a lot of fun and will be getting ready to do this all over again tomorrow!! Y’all have a blessed Wednesday! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for visiting and stopping by! xo

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-Jessica

Just In Case No One Told You Today..

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You are A M A Z I N G! ๐Ÿ’ž You are Important. You are Special! You are Unique. You are Kind. You are Precious. You are worthy of love & guess what? You ARE Loved!โค๐Ÿ’™ You’re worthy of your dreams. You are [.e n o u g h.]ย Stay away from people who make you believe anything otherwise. You are GREAT at what you do. You are capable of amazing things! You are successful & I wish you much more success on top of that! ๐Ÿ™Your mistakes & failures areย opportunities to become a better version of yourself. They help build your muscle.๐Ÿ’ช You have the ability to overcome any challenge life throws at you. You carry both strength & resilience with you. Every step you take is one of courage! You are a beautiful person๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜..Every part of your body radiates beauty. It’s an expression of your individuality! Be confident in it! You’re a Blessing!!๐Ÿ™Œ Keep pushing, keep praying and striving for greatness!! I just wanted to remind you that so far.. YOU’RE DOING A GREAT JOB!! Oh & remember .. it’s okay if you take longer than others, that doesn’t mean you’re going to fail!๐ŸŽ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“š

Give yourself a hug for me & Happy FriYAY!!

10 Ways to Treat Yo Self w/o Spending Money!!

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  • Take a nap!!ย 

You’re never too old for naps !! If you’re not a napping type of person then just lay there & relax. Enjoy the peace and quiet.

  • Take a Bubble Bath!!

Take a long bubble bath!! R E L A X.. dim the lights, enjoy you a nice glass of wine & some music. I don’t get to do this as often as I would like to but when I do… I love it!ย 

  • Netflix & Chill

Catch up on some of your favorite netflix series/movies and enjoy indulging in one of your favorite snacks!

  • Exercise/Workout

I don’t know about you but exercising helps me relieve a lot of stress. I don’t necessarily mean lifting weights either. Yoga, walking and dance workout dvds get the job done and it’s also fun!!

  • Read a Book!!

Find you a good book inspirational book to read and spend time doing that! I’ll be honest with you, I’m not very big on reading unless it’s a really really good book! I mean, this book has to catch my attention within the first 5-10 pages or I’m done with it haha but when I do get my hands on a good book, it’s hard to put it down!ย 

  • Take a Day Off & Do Absolutely NOTHING!!

I mean that! Don’t fix your hands to do anything that requires you to do any kind of work. This is one of those forms of self-care that everyone needs to put into action every once in a while. As a matter of fact, I did this yesterday when I got home from work.. NOTHING! I had an awful day yesterday! In fact, it was so bad that all I really wanted to do was come in and just kind of be in my own world. I didn’t cook, clean, do laundry, dishes.. nothing and it felt good! I thank God for my Husband though. He understood how my day went and did a lot to take the load off my shoulders so I wouldn’t have to worry about it. Gosh, I love him!

  • Go Visit A Friend!

This is something quite fun to do! If you’re anything like me.. busy all the time in every aspect of life then you really don’t get to enjoy quality time with your friends as often as you’d like to but every now and then, it’s good to set time aside to go kick it with a friend! There’s nothing like catching up with close friends and enjoying A LOT of laughs together! I laugh so hard at my friends most of the time I’m with them. They really have a way of taking my mind off of anything that’s stressing me out without even knowing that I’m stressed or why! haha. They’re the real MVPS lol

  • Have Sex!

No explanation needed here haha!ย 

  • Journaling Time!

Writing is a great way to vent about any and everything! I don’t have a journal though. I blog and that’s where I vent for the most part.. whatever I’m not talking my Husband’s head off about, you can almost bet your bottom dollar that I’m writing about it! haha, I write til I feel better and when writing doesn’t help, I pray! To me, writing is also another form of relaxation and self care!! Sometimes, writing is like therapy. It’s just a way to get any tension, hurt or hate out of your heart.ย 

  • Back Roads!!ย 

Okay, this one you might have to spend a few dollars on if your gas tank is sitting on empty but maaaan, I love me some back roads!! Ya know, really.. I just love driving and listening to music period! If you are ever in the car with me and I’m driving and I’M in control of the music… just get ready for a mini concert because I be singing my little heart out! haha. No, I don’t think I can sing for real but I can hold a tune!! Anyways, let me stay on topic here.. back roads and music is so relaxing. I love it, especially when I start jamming to my favorite gospel songs. It’s like I go into worship right there in my car and just relaxing. I don’t any other way to describe it but if you’ve never done it before, you should give it a try!ย 

 

I really hope you enjoyed reading this post and I hope that some of these tips help you out. Remember.. TREAT YO SELF!! Take time to care about you. Stop trying to be superwoman/superman all the time. You’re just as much human as the rest of us and sometimes you need a break or at least time to relax!! Don’t forget to like, comment, share or subscribe to my site if you liked this post or any of my other posts!! ๐Ÿ™‚ย 

 

 

If You’re Not Good With Friendship Then Leave the Word MARRIAGE Out of Your Mouth..

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โ€œIf youโ€™re not good with friendship then leave the word โ€œmarriageโ€out of your mouth. Thousands of you think you will be good in marriage and you are a horrible friend. The foundation of marriage is a good friendship. If you were a bad sister or horrible brother then you will be an even worse spouse. Youโ€™ve not perfected the relationship skill to do well in marriage. Friendship is Relationship in School.โ€

-Dr. Matthew L Stevenson III

I came across this quote a few days ago and fell in love with it because it’s so true!! Some people believe in love at first sight. I believe in friendship before marriage. Intimacy is a major part of any relationship or marriage. What some people fail to realize is that intimacy isn’t always about sex. Sometimes the best type of intimacy is where you just lay back, laugh together at the stupidest things, hold each other and just enjoy each other’s company. Friendship has a lot to do with that !!ย 

My Husband & I were only friends from 2008-2012 .. We dated from 2013-2016 .. He proposed on Dec. 25th, 2016 and we tied the knot on July 15th, 2017.. now here we are almost a year of being married!! We’ve had our share of ups, downs and disagreements but it seems like no matter what.. we always seems to get through whatever it is. I truly feel like friendship being the foundation of what we have now has a lot to do with that.

What are your thoughts on this quote?? If you’d like to share any feel free to comment below!! I love feedback ๐Ÿ™‚ย