3 Reasons Why Date Night is SO Important for Married Couples !

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Today I want to talk about why Date Night is SO important for Married Couples !! This past weekend, My Husband & I went out to celebrate his 28 years of life .. YAY !! Another Birthday, Another Blessing!! That’s what’s inspiring this post. We had SO much FUN!! It was just a fun and very relaxing weekend overall. It was a very much needed and break from the daily demands of being a parent or even an adult for that matter. During my work hours today, I found myself smiling and thinking about how much of a good time we really had and in that moment I was also reminded of how important date night really is, especially for married couples.

It is so easy to get caught up in the duties of everyday life. If you’re a parent then you know how busy the daily tasks of parenting are.  If you work crazy hours everyday, then you understand. If you’re a student that’s gone back to college, then it’s possible to get entirely too busy with that too! It’s not always intentional but often times married couples tend to forget to make time for each other. They get so busy with life that eventually their marriage or relationship seems to no longer be a top priority and that alone could result in boredom and that’s the last thing you want to be dealing with. So, in my opinion, Date Night is absolutely essential for a healthy marriage and down below are 3 important reasons why I feel that way!

EXCITEMENT

It’s important to spice things up and have new adventures. Sometimes it’s scary doing things outside of your comfort zone but it’s also super exciting and a little dare devilish when you can do it with someone you’re actually comfortable with! Keeping the excitement alive also gives you an opportunity to bond and create so many new memories!! It also helps you build trust with one another and support as well as you find new differences 🙂 The excitement aspect of date night keeps you young and fun in spirit no matter how old you are or how long you’ve been together!!

COMMUNICATION

Keeping an open line of communication is essential to a healthy marriage or any relationship at all. I feel like date night encourages positive communication. It’s the perfect time to remind your spouse of how much you love and care about them. A few nice, loving, and kind words go a long way in marriage. It really does more for your partner than you will ever actually know. Plus, the more you sit there and chat, the more likely you are to remember why you fell in love in the first place. That’s not the only type of communication that needs to happen on date night though. It’s perfectly okay and healthy to talk and catch up on how things are going in your life whether it’s at school, work, parenting or whatever but I would definitely avoid talking about anything that’s going to stress your partner out and ruin the night. Don’t do that.

SEX

This is that part of marriage that a lot of people don’t like to talk about but I’m gonna say this – Sex is not the most important part of a marriage or relationship but it does play a pretty big role!! It’s such a beautiful level of intimacy especially when you’re sharing it with your soulmate. However, when you fail to satisfy your partners sexual needs, then you also open the door for boredom and unfaithfulness. That’s an awful thing for me to say but that’s just the type of world and generation we live and it’s the truth! Again, life gets busy and that’s understandable but you do need to make sure you’re keeping the sex drive alive! Date Night is a G R E A T time to this type of fun happen!! I’m just saying lol. If you don’t have time any other time then you be sure to make time for it on date night! 

 

I’m sure there are many reasons as to why “Date Night” is important but these are my top three. I was just sitting here earlier thinking about how good of time my husband and I had this past weekend and it made think of other people who are in relationships, especially marriages and are having issues due to boredom. It’s sad and I’m just thankful that boredom isn’t a problem for us but I did want to share what I hope can be some helpful tips to anyone who’s looking for them! 🙂 My husband and I don’t get to have Date Night very often due to the fact that we don’t have a very good support system when it comes to babysitters so we’ve learned how to make time for each through the week and that’s always fun but it’s nothing compared to actually getting out of the house and being active together!! I love literally every second of it. I hope you enjoyed this post today! I know it’s a little off topic from what I’ve been posting over the past month or two but I warned you in my “Welcome” .. I will talk about some of any and everything !! 🙂 I’m aiming to encourage personal growth in every aspect that I possibly can!!

-Jessica

SIX TIPS ON HOW TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP FRESH ❤️

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  1. Spend Some Time With Jesus Together

Now this is just my personal opinion but when God is the foundation of your marriage/relationship & kept at the center of it, it’ll always be a successful one. God will not bless a union that He is not involved in. With that being said, spend some time with Jesus together. Practice going to God in prayer together. Read & study your bible together… or you could be like me and my husband and watch preaching videos together on YouTube. We watch Pastor John Gray. I LOVE him and his style of preaching!! He’s like a comedian and preacher all in one, not boring and very inspirational. To me, growing closer to God TOGETHER is a form on intimacy but on a much deeper level.

  1. COMMUNICATION!

Always make sure that you & your spouse keep a clear line of communication. All relationship problems stem from poor communication. Try not to get mad at your partner for expressing what upsets them.. Even if it isn’t deep to you, it may be a serious matter to them. Genuine consideration is the key. Be mature enough to handle conflict with maturity. Be sure to let your partner know when you’re annoyed with them instead of bottling up anger inside. Treat your partner with respect, even when you’re trying not to scream at them. Be willing to compromise because of  l o v e. Communicate … even when it’s uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is to simply get everything out. Oh and let me say this, it’s a bit cliché but you also need to understand that you don’t have to cheat to lose your partner. You can lose your partner from lack of communication, attention and disrespect. It’s not all about what you do, sometimes it’s about what you DON’T do! Silence isn’t golden & it surely doesn’t mean consent. So make sure you’re constantly practicing the art of communication. It’s very important!!

  1. DATE NIGHT!

Date nights are more important than you think. Everyone is so busy. Like seriously, I get it. Between work, family, and social commitments, there’s hardly enough time to squeeze in that one-on-one quality time with your spouse. Try to make it a priority to take time out away from the kids, work, social life, or just reality period and spend time with your boo! Set a certain day of each week for a date night OR if that doesn’t work for you, try to manage having a date night at least once a month. Your date night doesn’t have to always be extravagant & expensive. Sometimes, it can something as simple as a candle lit dinner at home, a walk in the park, picnic, ice cream date or even “Netflix & Chillin”. It doesn’t have to be expensive. The ultimate goal is spend “alone time” together. Doing this keeps your love fresh & fun!

  1. Magic in the Bedroom

In a relationship, sex is associated with stability because it increases bonding especially when each other’s sexual desires are fulfilled… with marriage, sex is very important because it maintains a certain level of intimacy. Okay so I’m just gonna say it… N E V E R allow your sex game to become boring and I mean that! Sometimes, that alone will open the door of temptation for your partner to step out on you. Don’t get too comfortable with the same routines. Step your foreplay game up. Try some new/different positions. Do something different & unexpected every once in a while. Keep it spicy & spontaneous in your bedroom!! To me, this also contributes to keeping your marriage/relationship fresh, fun, young and most important intimate!!

  1. JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE MARRIED DOESN’T MEAN YOUR DATING LIFE SHOULD END !!!

Continue to date your spouse after you marry them. Pursing your partner shouldn’t stop just because you said, “I do.” A lot of times, relationships stop growing because people stop taking the time to purse each other. Dating is really a time when you get to know someone in a special and unique way and to be honest with you, that’s something that should never stop! Those butterflies you got on the first date shouldn’t stop because years have passed by. Never stop teasing and flirting with each other. Keep having fun and being naughty no matter how long you’ve been together. Keep doing the little things that make your partner happy. Don’t wait for a holiday to do something special for your partner. Surprise them with random unexpected gifts and gestures “just because”… things like that keep the excitement in your marriage and in some ways also make your spouse feel appreciated too!

  1. TRAVEL!!

Oh my gosh! This is one of the most enjoyable things to do with your boo!! OK, well it’s one my favorites actually. There is nothing like getting away from the stress of reality and enjoying paradise with your spouse for a few days or so. It is so relaxing! No kids, no work, no responsibility .. it’s just simply YOU & YOUR SPOUSE having time alone to be both adventurous & intimate!! After my husband and I got married and went on our honeymoon and had so much fun. We made a vow to travel at least once EVERY year together! More than likely, it’ll be how we celebrate our Anniversaries J Last year we went to Gulf Shores, AL and this year we’ll be taking on Destin, FL. I’m so excited. I can’t wait to be back on the beach!! Enough about me and mine though… try to make it a goal to travel somewhere whether it be a few times throughout the year or just once a year with your spouse. It’s always so much fun to experience new places and adventures with one another.

These are just a few tips on how to help keep your marriage/relationship fresh that my husband & I live by. The only one we really struggle with is Date Night since we always have our children 24/7 so we have to improvise and find other ways to squeeze our time in but we’re working on it! If you have any tips, share them with me in the comments please! Thanks for tuning in with me today! Hope to see you back again soon!! 🙂