- Spend Some Time With Jesus Together
Now this is just my personal opinion but when God is the foundation of your marriage/relationship & kept at the center of it, it’ll always be a successful one. God will not bless a union that He is not involved in. With that being said, spend some time with Jesus together. Practice going to God in prayer together. Read & study your bible together… or you could be like me and my husband and watch preaching videos together on YouTube. We watch Pastor John Gray. I LOVE him and his style of preaching!! He’s like a comedian and preacher all in one, not boring and very inspirational. To me, growing closer to God TOGETHER is a form on intimacy but on a much deeper level.
Always make sure that you & your spouse keep a clear line of communication. All relationship problems stem from poor communication. Try not to get mad at your partner for expressing what upsets them.. Even if it isn’t deep to you, it may be a serious matter to them. Genuine consideration is the key. Be mature enough to handle conflict with maturity. Be sure to let your partner know when you’re annoyed with them instead of bottling up anger inside. Treat your partner with respect, even when you’re trying not to scream at them. Be willing to compromise because of l o v e. Communicate … even when it’s uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is to simply get everything out. Oh and let me say this, it’s a bit cliché but you also need to understand that you don’t have to cheat to lose your partner. You can lose your partner from lack of communication, attention and disrespect. It’s not all about what you do, sometimes it’s about what you DON’T do! Silence isn’t golden & it surely doesn’t mean consent. So make sure you’re constantly practicing the art of communication. It’s very important!!
- DATE NIGHT!
Date nights are more important than you think. Everyone is so busy. Like seriously, I get it. Between work, family, and social commitments, there’s hardly enough time to squeeze in that one-on-one quality time with your spouse. Try to make it a priority to take time out away from the kids, work, social life, or just reality period and spend time with your boo! Set a certain day of each week for a date night OR if that doesn’t work for you, try to manage having a date night at least once a month. Your date night doesn’t have to always be extravagant & expensive. Sometimes, it can something as simple as a candle lit dinner at home, a walk in the park, picnic, ice cream date or even “Netflix & Chillin”. It doesn’t have to be expensive. The ultimate goal is spend “alone time” together. Doing this keeps your love fresh & fun!
- Magic in the Bedroom
In a relationship, sex is associated with stability because it increases bonding especially when each other’s sexual desires are fulfilled… with marriage, sex is very important because it maintains a certain level of intimacy. Okay so I’m just gonna say it… N E V E R allow your sex game to become boring and I mean that! Sometimes, that alone will open the door of temptation for your partner to step out on you. Don’t get too comfortable with the same routines. Step your foreplay game up. Try some new/different positions. Do something different & unexpected every once in a while. Keep it spicy & spontaneous in your bedroom!! To me, this also contributes to keeping your marriage/relationship fresh, fun, young and most important intimate!!
- JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE MARRIED DOESN’T MEAN YOUR DATING LIFE SHOULD END !!!
Continue to date your spouse after you marry them. Pursing your partner shouldn’t stop just because you said, “I do.” A lot of times, relationships stop growing because people stop taking the time to purse each other. Dating is really a time when you get to know someone in a special and unique way and to be honest with you, that’s something that should never stop! Those butterflies you got on the first date shouldn’t stop because years have passed by. Never stop teasing and flirting with each other. Keep having fun and being naughty no matter how long you’ve been together. Keep doing the little things that make your partner happy. Don’t wait for a holiday to do something special for your partner. Surprise them with random unexpected gifts and gestures “just because”… things like that keep the excitement in your marriage and in some ways also make your spouse feel appreciated too!
Oh my gosh! This is one of the most enjoyable things to do with your boo!! OK, well it’s one my favorites actually. There is nothing like getting away from the stress of reality and enjoying paradise with your spouse for a few days or so. It is so relaxing! No kids, no work, no responsibility .. it’s just simply YOU & YOUR SPOUSE having time alone to be both adventurous & intimate!! After my husband and I got married and went on our honeymoon and had so much fun. We made a vow to travel at least once EVERY year together! More than likely, it’ll be how we celebrate our Anniversaries J Last year we went to Gulf Shores, AL and this year we’ll be taking on Destin, FL. I’m so excited. I can’t wait to be back on the beach!! Enough about me and mine though… try to make it a goal to travel somewhere whether it be a few times throughout the year or just once a year with your spouse. It’s always so much fun to experience new places and adventures with one another.
These are just a few tips on how to help keep your marriage/relationship fresh that my husband & I live by. The only one we really struggle with is Date Night since we always have our children 24/7 so we have to improvise and find other ways to squeeze our time in but we’re working on it! If you have any tips, share them with me in the comments please! Thanks for tuning in with me today! Hope to see you back again soon!! 🙂