Breathe. You’re Going To Be OKAY.

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Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been in this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again. This too shall pass. I promise it will pass.
-Daniel Koepke
Just some real and true encouraging ones for the beautiful who’s fighting depression the hardest today. I love you. Sending lots of positive vibes your way! Breathe, for real. Everything is really going to be okay. xoxo!

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15 Ways To Be Mentally Strong!

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  1. Don’t fear alone time.
  2. Learn how to be content with your own company.
  3. Don’t feel like the world owes you.
  4. Don’t expect immediate results.
  5. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone or living up to their expectations.
  6. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself.
  7. Don’t waste energy on things you can’t control.
  8. Be able to accept that not everyone will like you.
  9. Don’t let others influence your emotions.
  10. Don’t let others influence your own personal opinions.
  11. Don’t hate on other people’s success.
  12. Clap for other’s in their winning season.
  13. Don’t shy away from responsibilities.
  14. Be accountable.
  15. Don’t give up after the first failure.

 

It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you, if you allow it! Your mental strength is SO important !! Make sure you take care of it !! 

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When The Struggle Becomes Overwhelming..

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I was little discouraged earlier. I’m not going to say why but I will say this .. these words down below lifted me and gave me my strength back! Sometimes we have to experience things we don’t understand so God can bring us to the place where He needs us to be. Trust the process and never doubt the season that God has you in.

“Maybe it’s not supposed to be easy for you. Maybe you’re one of the rare few who can handle tough times and still choose to be a loving person. Maybe it’s going how it’s going because you’re built for it. Maybe it’s just your time to refine. Maybe the pieces are being put in position and maybe it’s not a test at all, maybe it’s all being prepared for your good and rushing it could ruin it.. Maybe you’re as different as you feel and maybe you’ll stay strong long enough to teach other people to feel the same about themselves. Maybe we’ll call it love. Maybe this is just the way your growth looks and it’s okay to accept that. As long as you know you’re giving it your all and the very best of you, keep going! Don’t stress a thing. It’s going to work out because you’re not going to stop putting the work in.” -RobHillSr.
I hope these words are encouragement to you just as they have been to me today! May the struggle make you STRONGER baby!!💪💖💛
– J e s s i c a

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Be Grateful ❤

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Try to begin each day with a grateful heart. Before you start complaining, take a second to think about how blessed you really are. No matter how bad your current circumstance may be right now, understand that things could be worse.. far more worse. As a matter of fact, be grateful for the bad things in your life. Be grateful for every single thing that challenges you because whether you realize it or not, it’s building both your strength and character. While you’re waiting for God to move, be thankful and grateful for all that He has already done for you and keep in my mind that there’s somebody out there somewhere that has it wayyy worse than you do right now. Oh I’m sure they would choose your bad days over theirs in a heartbeat!! You may be dealing with some issues concerning your job but at least you have one to get up and and go to everyday. There are people out there worried about where their next meal is coming from and others that may not have a place to lay their head and sleep at night. I’m not just talking about homeless people. I’m also talking about single parents who are struggling to provide for their children.. living paycheck-to-paycheck, at rock bottom and to be honest, some of them probably feel like they’re below rock bottom. I know that struggle and it is NOT easy! You know… there are people who are at constant war with depression and anxiety.. battling reoccurring suicidal thoughts. There are so many parents grieving the loss of their children due to gun violence, not just in the schools but in the streets too! There are people out here with real problems and I’m not saying that your problems are just as important. I’m just saying.. be grateful and remember that no matter how bad it gets, it could always be worse. I promise. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of forgetting how blessed we are. Maintaining an attitude of being grateful is something we need to do daily on purpose! 

I love you guys and I hope y’all have a great day!! XOXO❤

4 Things I Do To Fight Depression!

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Depression is R E A L & one thing that I know about it is if you don’t fight it.. it will literally overtake you and eventually begin to control you! I believe everybody deals with depression and anxiety but on different levels. Some people know how to cope with it and keep it under control while some others have no clue and put up a struggle to fight it daily the best they can. I don’t know why I’ve been so heavy on this topic lately but it’s being weighing on my heart like crazy! One thing is sure though, even if I don’t understand it at the moment.. I know God doesn’t just put things on my heart for no reason at all. I consider myself to be a pretty strong person for the most part but every once in a while I have my emotional days of depression and if I’m not careful about how I fight it… then it just kind of settles in and tries to take over. So down below, I’ve shared about four different things that I do to prevent that from happening.

 

Music

I listen to gospel music! (Contemporary gospel to be exact.) This is something that people kind of make fun of me for but I don’t care. I’ve never cared. I like what I like and other peoples opinions on this is something that has never been able to shy me away from it. I’m thankful for gospel artists though and their obedience in letting God use them to spread His word & love through music. It’s so encouraging. The words in the songs have a way of touching the core of my heart & if it sit there and listen to it long enough, my mood changes! Whether I’m depressed or pissed off, it calms my nerves. Sometimes, it makes me emotional but in a good way! Keeps me humble & helps me to stay honest with myself. I notice that when some people are sad or depressed, they listen to sad and depressing music! They choose songs that will literally make them feel lower than they already are at the moment. For some people that works but for me, it does not! If I’m using music as my way to escape my current pain then it has to be something that’s uplifting. I have to be listening to something that’s going to speak life into my spirit and not make me feel worse than I’m already feeling. Music is so influential on the brain that the type you listen to actually has the ability to change the way you think and look at certain situations. The impact that music has on your perspective is bigger than you think it is. 

YouTube!

Sometimes I get on YouTube and listen to my F A V O R I T E preacher, Pastor John Gray! I don’t do this very often during my emotional moments of depression. Like I almost have to be in the mood to actually sit there and listen to it but every once in a blue moon it helps lighten my mood! 

Saved Memes in My Phone

I feel kind of weird including this one in any of my posts but I’m going to tell you anyway because it helps me and I want to help you in every possible! I save have a lot of saved memes in my phone. Some are encouraging and others are just downright hilarious. When I’m feeling down and in the dumps, I scroll through these and most of the time they make me smile 🙂 Most of the time they just remind me that everything’s going to be okay and regardless of what my situation is .. God still has a purpose behind it. For example, one of my favorite memes I have saved says, “You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.” I’ve used this quote in two of my previous posts and I love it so much! It’s a small one but speaks so much volume! But yeah, that’s just one of those that reminds me that everything I go through is not always for my benefit! Sometimes, reminders are needed to keep us going in the right direction. This is one of my ways of encouraging feeding myself constant positivity. 
Leaning on Friends!

Most of the time when people are depressed, they want to be left alone & that’s understandable because I get that way too. But over time, I’ve learned that it’s not always good to be completely isolated from everything and everyone. That’s when suicidal thoughts seem to be the strongest. Depression & Solitude is a terrible combination. Try your best to avoid it! I’ve gotten to where I lean on my friends. Now, I don’t have a lot of friends but I do have a good handful in my corner and when I get depressed there are only certain ones that I’ll call. I call on my GOOFIEST friends! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, they have a way of taking my mind completely off of any stress or depression without even knowing at first that I’m feeling that way. Those silly heifers make me laugh til my stomach hurts! They make me laugh in the moments I don’t even feeling like smiling & I appreciate them so much for that! I always feel a little better after a good laughing session with them. It doesn’t change whatever my situation is but it does pick me up out of that depressing funk. Make sure you have some people in your life that have the ability to make you feel better whether they know what’s going on or not. They are important and they come in handy during hard depressing times. 

Grandma’s Love!

My Granny is my rock! Besides God, she is a truly a source of strength for me. I go to her about any & everything regardless of what type of mood I’m in. I don’t always call either. I physically go see her. A lot of times, just being in her presence is enough for me. She has such a healing type of spirit about herself and anyone that knows her will tell you that! I could be depressed, happy, sad, excited stressed out, feeling crafty, in a cooking mood or whatever and my Granny will be ready for it! She always knows what to do, always knows exactly what to say and always has the right answers for just about everything. She be ready for whatever whenever!! She’s something like a superwoman in my eyes. And I have to be honest, I don’t trust a lot of people in my family but this woman right here.. I trust her with everything in me. My granny keeps ALL of my secrets and will literally take them to the grave with her! She was the very first person to know about both of my pregnancies and even my miscarriage last year. I could name a list of everything she knows about me but I’ll save you the time! But seriously though, my Granny is my everything. When my back is against the wall, I know I can go to her and I also know that I trust her to be honest with me about myself concerning whatever I’m going through at the moment as well as be encouraging and show me some TLC ! (tender, loving, care) I do realize that not everyone still has their grandmothers in their lives but I am truly blessed to still have mine and I just wanted to share with you all that she is definitely one of my weapons to fighting off depression.

 

Some of you already probably implement some of these same exact strategies but for the ones who don’t then I hope this post helps you! And let me say this, what works for me may not work for you and if not, make sure you get the necessary help that you need! If you need to go see a shrink/therapist then by all means go see one! There’s no shame in that and to be honest you.. I’ve been considering doing that for myself just because I’m still struggling to heal from some of the things that have happened in my past. No shame!! Do not be bothered by the opinions of other people. You gotta do what you gotta do for YOU! Remember that. 

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