Little More Kindness, Little Less Judgment

Please understand that you only see a portion of a person’s life, not fully knowing every little thing they are going through. Stop being so quick to jump to assumptions or write them off because you may think the “portion” of what you know they are going through is insignificant but rather, be kind, keep your mouth closed regarding things you do not have facts on and simply pray for them. We all face daily battles that nobody knows about and that’s just the truth. There’s a story behind every person. Why they’re the way they are. Keep that in mind the next time you get ready to judgement someone. Today will never come again. Be a blessing to someone. Be a friend. Encourage. Take time to actually care. Let your words heal others and not wound them.

Thanks for visiting my blog today !! xoxo!!

-Jessica

When You Don’t Feel GOD..

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When you don’t feel God, remember that your walk with him is much more than a few emotional goosebumps. In fact, He’s most verified in your everyday, seemingly little, acts of obedience. He’s glorified in your day to day service, the dedication of your work, the love and honor you show to those around you and the way you live your life as His example – the invisible moments of your life that no one sees. You abiding in God & Him abiding in you is not measured by your emotional response. It’s measured by your application – the fruit of your every day choices, in your attitude, in your dedication to stay on the course.

Sometimes, it seems pointless or hard to keep spending time with God or praying when you don’t “feel” Him but I promise you He’s there. Keep going. Keep pushing. Keep Praying! 

Always Be A Work in Progress!

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Don’t ever stop striving to better than you were yesterday, no matter how far you think you have fallen off. When I really reflect on the fact that God hasn’t ever left me in some of the situations I KNOWINGLY put MYSELF in, I am constantly reminded of His love & purpose for my life. You don’t have to stay where you’ve been nor should you let anyone guilt trip you into thinking you can’t move forward. You can. Never stop working on the betterment of yourself. Work on becoming the best version of yourself everyday and decide that no one should get in the way of living your best life. ❤

Sometimes we get so bogged down and focused on other people and what they “need” to work on that we neglect the fact that we really need to be working on ourselves. Don’t be that person who thinks they’re completely flawless because I promise you there is always and I mean always room for self-improvement. You’re allowed to be both a masterpiece & work in progress, simultaneously 🙂

Grow a lot. Pray often. Love more.

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Call it Selfish, I Call it Self-Care

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Never apologize for having standards and refusing to just let anyone have a seat at your table in life. People may take offense to it but they often forget that it has more to do with yourself than it does them. YOU are responsible for protecting your peace and have every right to decide who to let in and who to keep out. Call it selfish, I call it self-care. You have one life here on earth, be wise and take care of it. God will show you who NEEDS to be there.
One of the greatest standards I’ve developed so far this year is refusing to take a seat at one’s table of dysfunction, negativity, misery, lies, etc. You have a choice as to what you deal with and please believe that when your standards and refusal to put up with some things make someone uncomfortable or feel rejected, they will pinpoint YOU as the problem but keep your standards and protect your peace anyways. Some things you really DO NOT have to deal with. I promise. 💜✌

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The Dangers of Toxic People & Benefits of Letting Them Go !!

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Let me just start off by saying that toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. People will drive you crazy if you let them. When you notice someone does something toxic for the first time, don’t wait for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Last year, I learned a few life lessons that taught me the importance of being selective about where & who I invest my energy in. I had certain goals that I was trying to reach, certain things that I was trying to achieve, big dreams that I was working towards & just trying to better myself as a person period and there were certain people that I hung around or allowed to be in my space that weren’t very supportive of any of those things.

They weren’t bad people! Yeah, sure it was fun to hang out with them every now & then, laugh, joke, cut up & have a few drinks with but eventually I realized that they just weren’t the type of people that needed to be in my inner circle. This is cliché but it is sooooo important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping, drinking and going out. Make friends with people who love you, genuinely care about you and want to see you make it. Build friendships and relationships with people who are supportive of your dreams, who constantly encourage you to do better and most importantly pray for you.

Don’t get in the habit of hanging around people who show fake love, fake support, spread negativity, criticize you all the time, those who are jealous, don’t have any real life goals, constantly play the victim, who don’t care, are self-centered, always involved in drama & keep disappointing you. Those are toxic people you should just completely get rid of altogether. Never feel guilty about removing people like that from your life. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, new acquaintance, employer, romantic interest or family member!! You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic people! You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. Learn how to forgive and love people from a distance when it becomes necessary. Understand me when I say, “YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF”.

Love yourself enough to walk away from anything and anybody that no longer serves you growth and I’m serious! Last year, I finally learned how to start walking away from situations or people who threatened my peace of mind, self-respect or self-worth. I put a lot of distance between myself & those that I felt were becoming detrimental to my life and where I was trying to go.  I didn’t care if it meant me spending more time at home & less time on the phone. I knew that if I was going to have any chance at reaching any of my goals, being successful or get anywhere else in life besides where I was… I was going to have to make some changes concerning the people I chose to socialize with and invest my energy in period. As a result, my life has been more peaceful, a little less stressful and not only have I achieved SOME of the goals I set for myself but I also went way beyond them and I’m proud of that! I truly believe that your your inner circle can have an impact on your success.

I’ll tell you right now, you are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. So be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down. The more you become aware of what’s really worth your energy, the better off you’ll be. Letting go of toxic people is not cruelty. It’s an act of self-care. Always Remember That !! ❤️

thank you guys for reading post and visiting my blog today!! This was actually one of the very FIRST posts that I published when I joined the world of blogging and I thought it’d be pretty cool to share again since it carries such a strong message!! I pray that you have a great day!!

-Jessica