10 IMPORTANT WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF

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Self love is an ongoing process. It’s not something that is done for a season then it’s over. If they can’t love you while you are loving yourself then they were never meant to be here for you in a healthy way.. keep practicing acts of self love & self care! Remember, once you’ve established a healthy and loving relationship with yourself, you set the tone for every other relationship in your life. -Tatiana Jerome

10 NEW WAYS YOU CAN PRACTICE ACTS OF SELF-LOVE:

 

  • Have a morning/afternoon/evening devoted completely to yourself.
  • Improve your weakness, but don’t forget to honor your strengths.
  • Discover something new about yourself.
  • Stop being so hard on yourself. Grow from the experience and move on.
  • Appreciate your effort, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.
  • Stop comparing yourself to others. God didn’t ask you to be them; He asked you to be you.
  • Nurture your dreams, even if they don’t seem possible right now. 
  • Realize that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it.  You don’t have to be or do it all. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak.
  • See your mistakes as valuable lessons. They deepen your wisdom.
  • Look in the mirror. Admire your face, your body, and every inch of yourself. Love YOU! Own who you are!!

 

 

There are so many different ways to practice self love and it’s so important!! Appreciating yourself helps you appreciate your life. 💜💜

 

There’s a BLESSING in the Breakup!

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My heartaches a little bit today for people who are in toxic relationships that are struggling with the decision to get out of it and some who are no longer in the relationship but having a hard time with the healing process of it. Here’s some real words of love & encouragement for you today! I hope this helps!!💖💛

“Stop thinking about how they will feel. No decision will pay off more than leaving behind the person that was causing you pain. No decision will pay off more than a made up mind that says no more. No decision will pay off more than the one that chooses to no longer entertain the phone calls and the random texts and sorries. YOU DESERVE MORE. So when the real breakup happened in your heart and in your mind, your BLESSING was formed. Now you can feel free. FREE from someone else’s thoughts because hurt people hurt people. Free from having the hope that no matter what they did their words are there to comfort you after they just hurt you. YOU DESERVE BETTER. THE BREAKUP IS A BLESSING. The truth was in the decision. Doesn’t matter who made the decision because if you are FINALLY SAYING NO MORE then you have decided for no one but you. No one said the decision is easy but the blessing that came with the decision makes it all worth it.. The blessing is self love, confidence, real love, opportunities, things finally going right because you knew with them things weren’t working out in other aspects of your life. The blessing is now you gravitating at a much quicker pace to what belongs to you because you are FREE from the negativity and hurt from others. It’s okay to be FREE. YOU DESERVE THIS BLESSING. IT IS YOURS! THIS DECISION HAS PAID OFF. The decision wasn’t easy but it’s your time to heal from this breakup. The decision is paying off. It’s your time to reclaim your peace.” –Tatiana Jerome!

Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free .. one day at a time! Love you!💖💛

-Jessica

 

 

5 EASY QUICK WAYS TO RELIEVE STRESS!

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In Honor of April being Stress Awareness Month, I thought it would be a good time to share some of my most F A V O R I T E and quickest ways to reduce stress 💙

  • GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA!!

The internet is an unsafe place for the heart. Please know when to log off. Find you some people to spend quality time with. Many of your deliverances will come on several levels from several issues, when you stop scrolling so much..

  • BE A BLESSING TO SOMEONE ELSE !!

Thinking about someone else and giving back to them is a great way to make a little impact in their life, but also amazing for relieving stress!! Sometimes, your biggest test is in how you treat other people while you’re fighting your own personal battles and sometimes.. your breakthrough is depending on your {o b e d i e n c e} of being a blessing to the next person!!

  • EXERCISE!!

This one is almost cliche but exercising really does help relieve stress!! I don’t know what it is about going to the gym, walking the trail at the park, doing zumba, doing an “insanity” workout video or yoga that gets people’s stressful circumstances off their mind but it works; gets the job done every single time!

  • VENT ON PAPER!!

I LOVE LOVE LOVE being able to express myself through writing! Usually when I’m stressed, the emotion of anger is not too far from me.. if it’s not already there and to be able to put my thoughts on paper somewhat frees my mind in its own little way. Sometimes I’m venting through my writing and sometimes I’m just writing out plans and what my next move will be! Writing is like therapy. For me, writing is such a strong form of therapy that when I’m done I no longer feel the need to verbally vent to anyone.. unless it’s my Husband because I will absolutely talk his head off. But seriously, writing is an excellent way to relieve stress. I would say journaling but I don’t want you to take it too serious and think it’s necessary for you to actually have a journal. You can grab a raggedy notebook and write your heart away in it! You just need something that you can use to get all of that anger and stress out on. 

  • CLEANING!!

Okay, this is something else that I do not only when I’m stressed but when I’m pissed too! For one thing, I’m not a neat freak. I’m kind of far off from it actually. I don’t clean as often as I should. I’m not nasty, but I’m not like “OCD” either. (obsessive-compulsive disorder) I’m not gonna freak out if there’s four dishes sitting in the sink. I’ll add like seven more of ’em before I start loading the dishwasher. 😂😂🤣 My house stays clean enough to where if somebody decided to surprise me with an unannounced visit.. it’s decent enough!! The only thing they might see is a load of clean laundry chilling in the recliner 🤷‍♀️ Anyways, cleaning helps somewhat relieve my stress. I honestly don’t know how. I guess the fact that it keeps me busy, keeps me distracted from going into stress overload! By the time I’m done cleaning.. just about every room in my house is spotless, the laundry is completely done and when it’s all said and done.. I’m just tired. I am literally ready for a shower and my bed. That’s it. Whatever was bothering me at that moment doesn’t bother me anymore until the next day because I’ll be too tired to put any energy into even thinking about it! So yeah.. when you’re feeling stressed, do some cleaning! I promise there’s a healing in it! It’s a weird one but it’s there!

There are several ways to reduce stress but again these are my top 5 favorites! What are some things you to do reduce your own personal stress?

 

 

 

Work More on Loving YOU!

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I hope when you’re asked to mention many things that you love.. you mention yourself.

I’ve been big on “self-love” for quite sometime now. Lately, I feel like God has been showing me and putting certain people in my path that lack so much confidence in themselves. As a result of having no confidence, the characteristic of low self-esteem makes itself present. And sometimes people who struggle with low self-esteem are also some of the same ones that struggle horribly with depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. I mean, there are other things that trigger those kinds of emotions but I know self-esteem plays a big role in it!

My heart goes out to people dealing and struggling with those kinds of issues. It hurts me to see people really feel like they don’t belong here, like they don’t even deserve life at all due to the lack of self love. Some even struggle to love themselves because of things that have happened in the past but I just want to let you know that you don’t have to stay in bondage because of your past. Free yourself from it. Your past does not define where you are going. Your past does not determine who are. You are who GOD says you are!! You are not what the enemy says you are!

I’ve been saying this for the past couple of days so I’ll go ahead and share it in this post: When you learn to establish and develop a loving relationship with yourself, you set the tone for every other relationship in your life. So I figured today I could share a few ways that I personally practice self-love myself! Self-Love has become a daily thing for me. Because I’m constantly practicing it, my confidence and self-esteem stays about where it needs to be for the most part.

  1. Forgive yourself. You are always allowed to start over and show up for yourself in the best way. Work on forgiving yourself for the bigger stuff.
  2. Spend time w/Jesus in prayer.
  3. Look in the mirror everyday and speak positive affirmations to yourself. “I am amazing; I am enough; I am beautiful; I am worthy of love and healing.”
  4. Love the skin you’re in!
  5. Be nice to yourself! You will never speak to anyone else as much as you to speak to yourself in your own head. {.Be Nice.}
  6. Don’t compare yourself or your journey to others.
  7. Celebrate your highs! Celebrate your success and each milestone you reach. If don’t nobody else celebrate you, you make sure you take the time to celebrate yourself!!
  8. Accept that some people won’t like you.
  9. Say “NO” when you need to.
  10. Know your strengths and use them to your advantage!
  11. Practice gratitude.
  12. Allow yourself some down time. Remember to get some rest & relaxation. You can’t pour from an empty cup. 🙂 
  13. Take care of your body. 
  14. Be honest with yourself.
  15. Try to stay surrounded by positive, upbeat and fun people who are at the same time striving to reach their goals like you!

 

There are so many different ways to practice self love and self care but again these are just a few that I personally try to do daily and keep in the back of my mind. Indeed, I know perfectly well all my positive and negative sides and I accept them. Just because I’m practicing self-love everyday doesn’t mean I’m not still working on improving myself. Lord knows I am truly a work in progress! Loving yourself doesn’t mean that you should ever stop working on YOU though. It just helps you to realize that you are the only one with your unique traits, qualities and potentialities. It gives a great sense of confidence. It really does. When you love who you are, you accept who you are.❤

xoxo!

-jessica

KIDS CONFIDENCE MATTERS!

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Our first night of T-ball practice was a huge success!! The only thing their practice consisted of tonight was running bases and hitting the ball. It was a great start! ALL of the kids did such a wonderful job & even though it was freezing cold out there they still had a great time! I’m proud so proud of my babies though!! They were listening, paying attention and most importantly having fun 🙂 

I’m especially proud of RJ though and let me tell you why. First, I’m going to start by letting you in on a little bit of my personal business. For a little while now, RJ (my five year old) has struggled a little bit with self-esteem and confidence issues. At first, Justin & I couldn’t figure out what was causing him to feel so low about himself at such a young age because we make sure the exact same love and attention is shown to both of our boys but during this past year of trying to help him gain confidence and improve his self-esteem.. it just sort of clicked with me!

RJ is my firstborn child and like most first time parents – I spoiled him rotten! As a parent, you want to give your kids everything their heart’s desire to make them happy, but parents who give too much, too often can spoil their children. As a matter of fact, between me, my family and his biological dad’s side of the family.. we babied him entirely too much. I’m not gonna lie, we were all a little too overprotective over RJ. I mean as soon as he would fall down, bump his head or something like that we’d rush to his rescue instead of letting him be a big boy and get back up on his own. As time passed, I started to think that we probably did more harm to RJ’s growth than we actually helped it and when he started Pre-K.. my thoughts were confirmed to be right! Spoiling/babying your children can be harmful to them, both socially and developmentally.

RJ started Pre-K when he was four years old and he had the hardest time. As far as schoolwork went, he excelled in that but his social skills were awful, he lacked independence, and he struggled some with his speech. He wasn’t as mature as the rest of the kids in his class. In fact, his teacher that year told me that he wasn’t mature for his age yet. As disheartening as that was at the moment, she was right and it was just a hard truth that I had to face. Because his social skills weren’t where they needed to be, he didn’t play much with the other kids. He was considered the “loner” in his class. Even though, he could dress/undress himself and never needed any help in the bathroom he still lacked independence because he wasn’t good with following two and three step directions. Even though he excelled in his schoolwork, knew how to do everything and made really good grades, often times he wouldn’t actually complete his work without a teacher sitting right beside him kind of guiding him and watching him do it. Last but not least, he struggled some with his speech. I feel like this and his social skills definitely had a big impact on his self-esteem. For the most part, you could understand what RJ was trying to say but sometimes what he was saying didn’t make sense. Sometimes, the teachers didn’t understand him nor could they make sense of what he was trying to say. Of course his teachers would work with him the best they could but then there were kids… kids being kids… when RJ did try to play and talk with them and they couldn’t understand what he was saying.. some of them would kind of tease and pick at him and ask questions like, “Why do you talk like that?” and after a few of those questions is when RJ shut down even more. His teachers started telling me that he started to be more quiet than usual and was hardly talking at all. At this point, I knew that my baby was embarrassed. He would come home and try to tell me about it but just didn’t know how to get it out so he would say things like, “I don’t have any friends or I only have one friend or the other kids were making fun of me or I don’t know how to do this or that or I don’t understand” and as a parent.. as a MOM.. this was very hard for me to hear. A part of me wanted to get those kids and confront the teacher about potential bullying and the other half of me just wanted to break down and cry. I did cry actually because I knew that everything RJ was going through was pretty much my fault. Had I not been babying him so much, he would have never been in that type of situation. So anyways, after a few breakdowns or two.. I finally got myself together. My Husband & I came up with a few plans and different strategies to put into the action of working towards improving his self-esteem, confidence and maturity.

The road to this type of success has not been easy but worth it! We’ve worked more in depth with learning school work, reading, improving speech, let him participate in more activities with many other kids and I also had to put my foot down with my family! It is so hard trying to raise your children a certain way and teach them new habits when family members keep encouraging the exact opposite. It’s very frustrating. We had to have a few “Come to Jesus Meetings” before I finally just said, “If you can’t respect the positive changes we’re trying to make in RJ’s life for the betterment of his growth and future.. then you will be cut off!” and I wasn’t playing either!

RJ has improved tremendously in all areas and I am so proud! All of the extra work we’ve been putting in with him has paid off. He talks so good now that no one would ever believe that last year he struggled with speech at all. His social skills are much better. There’s a little group of kids in class that he sticks with and he has like two “best friends” haha!! He’s definitely way more independent now with everything. He gets that classwork done with no problem or the comfort of having a teacher right beside him. He’s one of the top smartest in his Kindergarten class!! That makes me & his dad sooooo PROUD! He’s currently five years old and acts like it. He’s definitely matured a lot in this past year and I couldn’t be happier! Most importantly though.. his self-esteem and confidence has came a loooong way! I feel like it’s finally where it needs to be at, especially after last night’s first baseball practice!! 🙂 He was so proud of himself and excited. He was confident in everything he done on the field last night. He’s like a different kid. He’s a big boy now .. so he says.. but deep down he will always be my baby! Both RJ & Noah will. 

I’m sorry. I know this post was a little lengthy today but I appreciate you taking the time to read it! The moral of my post is that self-esteem is an important part of confidence. Having good self-esteem means accepting and feeling positive about yourself. Confidence is not just feeling good but also knowing you are good at something. Particular ways of thinking are very important for building confidence, especially for kids. Kids confidence matters… a lot! 

xoxo,

Jessica!