Little More Kindness, Little Less Judgment

Please understand that you only see a portion of a person’s life, not fully knowing every little thing they are going through. Stop being so quick to jump to assumptions or write them off because you may think the “portion” of what you know they are going through is insignificant but rather, be kind, keep your mouth closed regarding things you do not have facts on and simply pray for them. We all face daily battles that nobody knows about and that’s just the truth. There’s a story behind every person. Why they’re the way they are. Keep that in mind the next time you get ready to judgement someone. Today will never come again. Be a blessing to someone. Be a friend. Encourage. Take time to actually care. Let your words heal others and not wound them.

Thanks for visiting my blog today !! xoxo!!

-Jessica

Call it Selfish, I Call it Self-Care

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Never apologize for having standards and refusing to just let anyone have a seat at your table in life. People may take offense to it but they often forget that it has more to do with yourself than it does them. YOU are responsible for protecting your peace and have every right to decide who to let in and who to keep out. Call it selfish, I call it self-care. You have one life here on earth, be wise and take care of it. God will show you who NEEDS to be there.
One of the greatest standards I’ve developed so far this year is refusing to take a seat at one’s table of dysfunction, negativity, misery, lies, etc. You have a choice as to what you deal with and please believe that when your standards and refusal to put up with some things make someone uncomfortable or feel rejected, they will pinpoint YOU as the problem but keep your standards and protect your peace anyways. Some things you really DO NOT have to deal with. I promise. 💜✌

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The Dangers of Toxic People & Benefits of Letting Them Go !!

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Let me just start off by saying that toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. People will drive you crazy if you let them. When you notice someone does something toxic for the first time, don’t wait for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Last year, I learned a few life lessons that taught me the importance of being selective about where & who I invest my energy in. I had certain goals that I was trying to reach, certain things that I was trying to achieve, big dreams that I was working towards & just trying to better myself as a person period and there were certain people that I hung around or allowed to be in my space that weren’t very supportive of any of those things.

They weren’t bad people! Yeah, sure it was fun to hang out with them every now & then, laugh, joke, cut up & have a few drinks with but eventually I realized that they just weren’t the type of people that needed to be in my inner circle. This is cliché but it is sooooo important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping, drinking and going out. Make friends with people who love you, genuinely care about you and want to see you make it. Build friendships and relationships with people who are supportive of your dreams, who constantly encourage you to do better and most importantly pray for you.

Don’t get in the habit of hanging around people who show fake love, fake support, spread negativity, criticize you all the time, those who are jealous, don’t have any real life goals, constantly play the victim, who don’t care, are self-centered, always involved in drama & keep disappointing you. Those are toxic people you should just completely get rid of altogether. Never feel guilty about removing people like that from your life. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, new acquaintance, employer, romantic interest or family member!! You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic people! You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. Learn how to forgive and love people from a distance when it becomes necessary. Understand me when I say, “YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF”.

Love yourself enough to walk away from anything and anybody that no longer serves you growth and I’m serious! Last year, I finally learned how to start walking away from situations or people who threatened my peace of mind, self-respect or self-worth. I put a lot of distance between myself & those that I felt were becoming detrimental to my life and where I was trying to go.  I didn’t care if it meant me spending more time at home & less time on the phone. I knew that if I was going to have any chance at reaching any of my goals, being successful or get anywhere else in life besides where I was… I was going to have to make some changes concerning the people I chose to socialize with and invest my energy in period. As a result, my life has been more peaceful, a little less stressful and not only have I achieved SOME of the goals I set for myself but I also went way beyond them and I’m proud of that! I truly believe that your your inner circle can have an impact on your success.

I’ll tell you right now, you are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. So be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down. The more you become aware of what’s really worth your energy, the better off you’ll be. Letting go of toxic people is not cruelty. It’s an act of self-care. Always Remember That !! ❤️

thank you guys for reading post and visiting my blog today!! This was actually one of the very FIRST posts that I published when I joined the world of blogging and I thought it’d be pretty cool to share again since it carries such a strong message!! I pray that you have a great day!!

-Jessica

There’s Power in Kindness!

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Use your words to build people up because words are powerful. SO powerful. They leave a lasting impact. So when it comes to your mouth, think of it as a power tool and be very careful with it. Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. Aim to be more of an encouragement to others instead of tearing them down. Try to make it to where your words leave other people inspired, not frustrated. A little more kindness and a little less judgement will take you a long way in life with people. Always remember that. Treat people the way you want to be treated, not how you have been treated. {.Kindness.} is free! You should totally sprinkle that stuff some of everywhere!!

Empowered people, empower other people!

Thanks for visiting my blog today! I pray that today is a great day for you!

-Jessica

Mature Enough to be Cordial

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Today, I’m just thankful for growth. ❤ I am still growing in so many different areas of my life but this one right here.. I’m really thankful for! To be under the same roof with people who I know don’t like me, I don’t like them or they have intentionally done things to hurt me that I’m still trying to let go of and heal from.. to be literally in the same room with them and still have the maturity to be cordial speaks volumes of personal growth to me!! It didn’t hit me until this past weekend when I was sitting back reflecting on what areas I’ve grown in and then thinking about the areas I really need improvement in. You know you’re growing when things that used to bother you no longer catch your attention anymore. I have to be honest, I’m surprised to have even gotten to this point of maturity in my life.

I know that sounds terrible but I’m just being honest because at one point in my life, I used to get so irritated with having to be around people who I knew didn’t like me, who had bad intentions, whose motives were not to be trusted – the fake love, shady comments, petty jokes like it all used to get under my skin but here recently, I’ve noticed a change within myself !! I’ve been SO focused on the betterment of myself, my family, reaching my goals and being successful that I haven’t had the time to even think about those people! So when I do see them in person, no matter where we are, I’m able to smile, speak, be cordial and go on about my business.

I am genuinely no longer bothered because my focus is different and that feels SO good! 🙌 See, when you really get busy realigning with your own purpose in life, you don’t have time to beef with miserable people. Eventually, you just get to a point where you kind of let it go, wish them well and move on! It becomes a no love lost, no love gained type of thing .. or at least it does for me anyway! 🤷‍♀️ I don’t carry hate in my heart but I will put some distance between myself and that person for sure! However, if we happen to see each other in person or be at a mutual gathering or whatever .. I will be cordial. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. You speak to me, I’ll speak back but other than that you won’t get anything else out of me. I’ll walk away very shortly after that. If you’re looking for a conversation out of me, you can forget it. You won’t be in my space unless I allow you to and that’s just what it is.

I am raising to my best self. So anyone who tries to hurt me will not get anything but a positive or mute response from my best self, period!I’ve gotten in the habit of being that way and to be honest, I don’t think it’s a bad thing! I guess it’s another way of how I keep my peace protected. People can’t get under your skin unless you let them and I’ve learned that when you don’t give people that kind of power over you, it bothers them! Sometimes, it actually bothers them more they could ever bother you. There’s power in prayer.. Power in distance.. Power in being the bigger person and sometimes power in just simply walking away.

Thanks for visiting my blog today! Your company here is always appreciated !! 🙂
-Jessica