Separation Before Elevation ..

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There will be a natural process of elimination that occurs on your journey. You have to pay attention to what’s happening in your life and don’t try to interrupt the process. People will show up and show their true colors and you have to respond accordingly. You may have to cut off some people whom you’ve considered friends. You may have to cut off some family members. Anyone who is toxic and refuses to grow and change must be left behind until they are ready to catch up. There will always be separation before elevation. Be ready for it and the natural occur.
– Tony A. Gaskins Jr.
Just a little encouragement for you that also inspired me! Thanks for visiting my blog!! You’re company here is always appreciated 🙂

How to Handle Low Key Haters!

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The people you expect to congratulate you on your success will truly surprise you! That’s okay though. You have ALL the support you need in order to move on to the next level. You can’t force people to be happy for you. To be happy for you means they would need to be happy for what is happening in your life right now. They can’t be happy for you with right now if they never thought you would be great or get what you have going on. And it’s disheartening especially when it’s those that you’re close to that seem to be sour about your “come up” but one thing you gotta remember is that everybody can’t go to the next level with you!
Be careful not to mix the seasonal people with the lifetime ones. Some people pass through our lives for a season to teach us lessons that could never be learned if they stayed. You don’t have to let people go completely but you don’t need to let them distract you either. Love from a distance if necessary and keep going! Don’t let folks break you down because you are greater than what they make you out to be. They want you to fail so they can say you’re just like them. Sometimes people hurt you because they need somebody on their same level but in spite of that you keep going! Be more concerned about where you’re going rather than who is not going with you. Don’t worry about that. God will put the people in your life that need to be there!
Thanks for visiting my blog today! Your company is ALWAYS appreciated!!
-Jessica

You {.D E S E R V E.} Better Baby!

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“Today I pray for every person who is in a relationship that they know is no good for them, but because of sexual interactions, soul ties have formed and you don’t posses the power to give up completely. I pray that you are continually convicted, that the love of God overshadows you and God grants you the strength to walk away.. quickly.. and for real this time. Be free in Jesus’ Name.” -Kelsea D Merriweather

I don’t know the lady personally who shared this prayer; I just saw it on FB and decided to share it with you guys because it such a BIG Powerful Prayer !! Toxic relationships can be a horrible struggle to get out of and I know because I’ve already been there and done that. I thank God for growth. I thank God for the strength and courage He gave me to walk away. He can and will do the same for you if you let Him. You take the first step and God will take the rest!
Really, you are too special of a person to just be doing anything with anybody. You don’t have to settle for less than what you deserve. Trust the fact that God is preparing the right heart to love you the way you truly deserved to be loved.

No matter what, you don’t deserve to be anybody’s punching bag. Don’t be strong enough to stay and take the pain, but too weak to leave. You don’t deserve to be played and cheated on either. You deserve someone that is going to love you for YOU. You deserve someone who will give you the freedom to express your feelings and emotions without you feel bad for doing so. You deserve someone who respects you, and is attentive to your needs period. Do not feel like you have to settle for anything less. God’s got someone GREAT for you! Don’t get discouraged; He is just waiting for the right timing. Trust and believe me when I say, “God’s Timing is Always Perfect!” Never too late and not a moment too soon!

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I love you and I am praying for you! Just know that what’s to come is still better than what’s already been🙌 … and remember, take the first step! I know it’s hard and can be scary but pray on it, make your move and let God do the rest!
xoxoxoxoxo!
-Jessica

3 Reasons Why Date Night is SO Important for Married Couples !

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Today I want to talk about why Date Night is SO important for Married Couples !! This past weekend, My Husband & I went out to celebrate his 28 years of life .. YAY !! Another Birthday, Another Blessing!! That’s what’s inspiring this post. We had SO much FUN!! It was just a fun and very relaxing weekend overall. It was a very much needed and break from the daily demands of being a parent or even an adult for that matter. During my work hours today, I found myself smiling and thinking about how much of a good time we really had and in that moment I was also reminded of how important date night really is, especially for married couples.

It is so easy to get caught up in the duties of everyday life. If you’re a parent then you know how busy the daily tasks of parenting are.  If you work crazy hours everyday, then you understand. If you’re a student that’s gone back to college, then it’s possible to get entirely too busy with that too! It’s not always intentional but often times married couples tend to forget to make time for each other. They get so busy with life that eventually their marriage or relationship seems to no longer be a top priority and that alone could result in boredom and that’s the last thing you want to be dealing with. So, in my opinion, Date Night is absolutely essential for a healthy marriage and down below are 3 important reasons why I feel that way!

EXCITEMENT

It’s important to spice things up and have new adventures. Sometimes it’s scary doing things outside of your comfort zone but it’s also super exciting and a little dare devilish when you can do it with someone you’re actually comfortable with! Keeping the excitement alive also gives you an opportunity to bond and create so many new memories!! It also helps you build trust with one another and support as well as you find new differences 🙂 The excitement aspect of date night keeps you young and fun in spirit no matter how old you are or how long you’ve been together!!

COMMUNICATION

Keeping an open line of communication is essential to a healthy marriage or any relationship at all. I feel like date night encourages positive communication. It’s the perfect time to remind your spouse of how much you love and care about them. A few nice, loving, and kind words go a long way in marriage. It really does more for your partner than you will ever actually know. Plus, the more you sit there and chat, the more likely you are to remember why you fell in love in the first place. That’s not the only type of communication that needs to happen on date night though. It’s perfectly okay and healthy to talk and catch up on how things are going in your life whether it’s at school, work, parenting or whatever but I would definitely avoid talking about anything that’s going to stress your partner out and ruin the night. Don’t do that.

SEX

This is that part of marriage that a lot of people don’t like to talk about but I’m gonna say this – Sex is not the most important part of a marriage or relationship but it does play a pretty big role!! It’s such a beautiful level of intimacy especially when you’re sharing it with your soulmate. However, when you fail to satisfy your partners sexual needs, then you also open the door for boredom and unfaithfulness. That’s an awful thing for me to say but that’s just the type of world and generation we live and it’s the truth! Again, life gets busy and that’s understandable but you do need to make sure you’re keeping the sex drive alive! Date Night is a G R E A T time to this type of fun happen!! I’m just saying lol. If you don’t have time any other time then you be sure to make time for it on date night! 

 

I’m sure there are many reasons as to why “Date Night” is important but these are my top three. I was just sitting here earlier thinking about how good of time my husband and I had this past weekend and it made think of other people who are in relationships, especially marriages and are having issues due to boredom. It’s sad and I’m just thankful that boredom isn’t a problem for us but I did want to share what I hope can be some helpful tips to anyone who’s looking for them! 🙂 My husband and I don’t get to have Date Night very often due to the fact that we don’t have a very good support system when it comes to babysitters so we’ve learned how to make time for each through the week and that’s always fun but it’s nothing compared to actually getting out of the house and being active together!! I love literally every second of it. I hope you enjoyed this post today! I know it’s a little off topic from what I’ve been posting over the past month or two but I warned you in my “Welcome” .. I will talk about some of any and everything !! 🙂 I’m aiming to encourage personal growth in every aspect that I possibly can!!

-Jessica