A Push to Help You Heal from Heartbreak.πŸ’”

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“What you felt was a hurtful GOODBYE, has now made room for your FOREVER. You can love in the right way that no longer leaves your spirit behind. What came to cause confusion is now requiring you to build your CONFIDENCE. It does get better than this. You now know to embrace what may be deemed as failure as it only ushers in graduation. Because of God, you qualify for real, responsible and unconditional love. No longer will you allow anyone to temporarily occupy that spot as as an MVP in your life. Because when everyone left or treated you in an undeserving way, your MVP stayed close to you. God is loving you through your hurt and pain. So it’s time to let it all go… the tears and the fighting make room for a love that will shine even when the sun no longer lights up the day and the moon no longer lights up the night. Start loving on yourself. Heal from the heartbreak so you can move on into the next chapter of your life.” -Tatiana Jerome

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I felt every word Tatiana said in the passage above and just reading it almost brought tears to my eyes. I’ve experienced a heartbreak like this one that she’s strongly trying to encourage people to heal from. Six years ago, I left the most toxic relationship I’d ever been in. I was in it four years too long. Leaving wasn’t easy.. In fact, it was very hard. I think somehow I had gotten use to and comfortable with all of the mental and physical abuse.. all the lying, cheating and disappointment.. it’s like I’d somehow become numb to it. I just made myself deal with it the best way I could but today I can say that I am so grateful for God answering prayers and giving me the strength and courage to go! Getting pregnant out of wedlock is such a sin to some people but for me it was a blessing and I honestly think my child helped save my life.
I made up in my mind that my baby didn’t deserve to live in an enviroment like the one I was settling for and if I wanted to give him a real chance of having a happy and healthy life, I had to go!! It took a lot of time, self-love, prayer and a great deal of encouragement from certain people in my corner to actually heal from all that I’d gone through in those four years of being with that person. The healing process of it hurt like hell but now I can look back and see how it was all just worth it!
Going through all of that was so hard. I’ll admit, I was scared of being lonely. I scared of raising my child with no father figure in his life. The thought of living the single parent life was a little frightening for me.. even though I watched MY Mom do it for 12 years, I just knew that was not the life I wanted to live!! I had my moments of sadness because I didn’t think no other man would ever want me mostly because I couldn’t bring much to the table at the time. I was pretty hard on myself. My self-esteem took a major hit but man.. I Thank God for G R O W T H !!
Now I can really look back and say, everything that I went through grew me in so many different ways and on so many different levels!! You have no idea how hard I have fought to become the woman I am today. When I say it has taken A LOT of love and pain to get here.. that is what I mean!! And let me tell you something.. God has been faithful !! He has given me EVERYTHING plus some that I prayed and asked Him for during that process of healing and rebuilding myself.
So to everyone who is still struggling through the healing process of the break up – keep telling yourself that things are going to work out even when you don’t know how. Keep loving on you! Keep trusting in the fact that God has it under control and most of all.. believe over everything else that all you have been through is shaping and molding you into the person you are destined to be!! Your positive attitude and optimism will start to change everything that’s happening in your life for the better. There will be a sudden shift because you decided not to give up. Despite the pain, you kept pushing and fighting for better !! Don’t quit because YOU DESERVE BETTER. YOU DESERVE THE BEST.
I know this post is a little lengthy so I’m about to end it. I just wanted to encourage you on today if you’re dealing with this struggle. Remember, self love and self healing is an ongoing process. It’s not something you do for a season and then it’s over. When you establish that healthy and loving relationship with yourself then you set the tone for EVERY other relationship in your life!!
P.S – just in case no one told you today.. I LOVE YOU!! Keep your chin up πŸ™‚ xx!
-jessica

BASEBALL DAYS!!βšΎοΈβšΎοΈπŸ’™πŸ’™

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My Tuesday was so busy that I actually didn’t get a chance to write a blog post for you guys! It was my babies very 1st TBall Game & they did such a great job !! Not only am I proud of them, I’m also proud of the entire team!! They all played so hard but most importantly.. they had FUN !! (: WE WON TOO! 10-2. Since I didn’t get to share an actual post, I figured I give you all a little recap of our Tuesday through pictures !!

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My big boys !!! RJ is #3 & Noah is #4 πŸ™‚

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Me, my silly kids, mom & my best friend which is also their God Mother ! πŸ™‚

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My big babies !! πŸ™‚

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Caught them not paying attention a couple of times! haha.

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Noah up to bat ! πŸ™‚

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He missed the first time.. tried again and then hit it !!

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Noah! πŸ™‚

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Swing Batter Batter Swing !!! (RJ) He hit pretty hard !!

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My nephew Jaylen! Caught him in action headed to first base!

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Lol this was when RJ actually hit the ball but got out before he could get all the way there lol as you can tell he didn’t wanna go to the dugout so soon! haha

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Noah lol He is so SILLY !!

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My babes !! (:

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Gosh, I love this picture of me and them. I’m gonna have to frame it!!

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Bored, ready to go lol

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Game over! We won 10-2

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Lol not paying attention but playing 3rd base

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My sweet little nephew !!

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My Best Frannnn !!

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My niece and I !! πŸ™‚ She loves my sunglasses !

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RJ up batting!

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Totally in love with rocking my baseball shirt !!!!! πŸ™‚

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I hope you guys enjoyed !!!! We had a lot of fun and will be getting ready to do this all over again tomorrow!! Y’all have a blessed Wednesday! πŸ™‚ Thanks for visiting and stopping by! xo

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-Jessica

5 Bad Habits That Ruin Your Happiness.

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  • LACK OF SELF LOVE

“The ability to love yourself is beautiful. When you really “love” yourself, you simply refrain from doing whatever comes in your path of you and your happiness. Self love shouldn’t be confused with self obsession though. Self love doesn’t mean that you value someone less than you but it simply implies you value yourself as much as you value others. Self love means you don’t allow anything to tamper with your peace of mind; self love means you don’t allow anyone to make you feel miserable; self love means you strive to make a better you everyday, every moment.” -Sai Tripathy Self love means you can be your own best friend and notΒ need other people around. Self love is hard but it’s rewarding when you can still build yourself up in times when it feels like your world is falling apart.Β Self Love is the key to happiness.Β 

  • COMPLAINING

The more you complain, the unhappier you will be. When you’re constantly focusing on the negative perspective of situations and things, it’ll cost you your happiness and sometimes even cause you to be depressed. {G r a t i t u d e} will take you a long way in life! Be thankful for what you do have. Be thankful for where you are in your journey even if it’s not where you want to be right now. Every season serves a purpose. So whatever you’re going through or whatever you’re seeing from a negative perspective right now.. just remember that it’s all shaping and molding you into the person God intends for you to be. See it as an opportunity for growth within yourself and learn from it. When you choose to focus only on the bad things, you are really setting yourself up for never being content or happy. Practice Gratitude everyday!

  • HANGING IN THE WRONG CIRCLES

Hanging with the wrong folks can mess you up and by wrong, I mean negative! Hanging with negative people has more of an impact on your life than you think. Make sure you connect with people who are going to build you up. If the people in your circle are intimidated when you make positive life changes politely ask them to go stand in the circle over there. If the people in your circle keep punching you in your self-esteem kindly ask them to go stand in the next circle!! Surround yourself with people who make you happy.. people who make you laugh and help you when you’re need. Make sure the people in your corner genuinely care and support you. They are the ones worth keeping in your life! Just like negative people can have an impact on your happiness, positive people can too! It’s all up to you πŸ™‚ Be wise and be picky about the folks you choose to run with!!Β 

  • POOR PHYSICAL HABITS

Some people are unhappy simply because they’re not happy with their outer appearance. Can I say something though? You have always been beautiful but if you are not satisfied with the way you look.. then do something about it! πŸ™‚ Let’s talk about weight since that’s what most people have a problem with – It won’t get better by chance. It gets better by change. Whether you aspire to lose weight or gain it, find a diet that works for you a stick by it. Join a gym if necessary. Go walk the trail at your city park. Join yoga or zumba classes. Do whatever works and seems most fitting and fun for you. It will hurt. It will take time. It will require dedication. It will require willpower.Β You will need to make healthy decisions.Β It requires sacrifice. You will need to push your body to its max. There will be temptation but I promise when you reach your goal, it will all be worth it !!Β 

  • COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS.

One thing that will prevent you from happiness for sure is comparing yourself to other people. Don’t compare your life to others. That alone has the potential to make you miserable. Don’t do that. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else. Plan to outdo the person you were yesterday, not other people. Be who God created YOU to be, not who He created them to be.Β 

 

Every morning you have a new opportunity to become a happier version of yourself. Don’t let bad habits ruin or block your happiness!!Β