It is so important to leave people in the season that God intended for them to be a part of. Seasons naturally change in our lives just like the weather and it’s inevitable. Have you ever tried to put a fallen leaf back on the tree it fell from? It is impossible to reconnect and reobtain growth. Same way with people who no longer serve purpose in our lives and I promise if you ask God to show you who needs to fall, He will. I was just saying this yesterday and I’m going to say it again today .. Not everyone can go to the next level with you. When God is taking you to that next level, there’s NOT going to be room for everyone on that journey. Be able to accept that. Not everyone can always enter the space you’re called to. Be OK with that and go anyways! Love from a distance when it becomes necessary and transition into your new season.
This post was inspired by a beautiful heart, Montana Danielle as well as when I was going through my own season of learning to love people from a distance or just simply learning to love them where they were.
There will be a natural process of elimination that occurs on your journey. You have to pay attention to what’s happening in your life and don’t try to interrupt the process. People will show up and show their true colors and you have to respond accordingly. You may have to cut off some people whom you’ve considered friends. You may have to cut off some family members. Anyone who is toxic and refuses to grow and change must be left behind until they are ready to catch up. There will always be separation before elevation. Be ready for it and the natural occur.
– Tony A. Gaskins Jr.
Just a little encouragement for you that also inspired me! Thanks for visiting my blog!! You’re company here is always appreciated 🙂
Never apologize for having standards and refusing to just let anyone have a seat at your table in life. People may take offense to it but they often forget that it has more to do with yourself than it does them. YOU are responsible for protecting your peace and have every right to decide who to let in and who to keep out. Call it selfish, I call it self-care. You have one life here on earth, be wise and take care of it. God will show you who NEEDS to be there.
One of the greatest standards I’ve developed so far this year is refusing to take a seat at one’s table of dysfunction, negativity, misery, lies, etc. You have a choice as to what you deal with and please believe that when your standards and refusal to put up with some things make someone uncomfortable or feel rejected, they will pinpoint YOU as the problem but keep your standards and protect your peace anyways. Some things you really DO NOT have to deal with. I promise. 💜✌
The people you expect to congratulate you on your success will truly surprise you! That’s okay though. You have ALL the support you need in order to move on to the next level. You can’t force people to be happy for you. To be happy for you means they would need to be happy for what is happening in your life right now. They can’t be happy for you with right now if they never thought you would be great or get what you have going on. And it’s disheartening especially when it’s those that you’re close to that seem to be sour about your “come up” but one thing you gotta remember is that everybody can’t go to the next level with you!
Be careful not to mix the seasonal people with the lifetime ones. Some people pass through our lives for a season to teach us lessons that could never be learned if they stayed. You don’t have to let people go completely but you don’t need to let them distract you either. Love from a distance if necessary and keep going! Don’t let folks break you down because you are greater than what they make you out to be. They want you to fail so they can say you’re just like them. Sometimes people hurt you because they need somebody on their same level but in spite of that you keep going! Be more concerned about where you’re going rather than who is not going with you. Don’t worry about that. God will put the people in your life that need to be there!
Thanks for visiting my blog today! Your company is ALWAYS appreciated!!
Many people will give up on the person you choose to become because your growth into greatness was never a part of their plan. Because they refuse to grow themselves or come up with excuses for their lack of self discipline, they will start believing that “you think you’re better” because you are serious about you. Tell them with all the love in the world, “Get serious about yours because I’m serious about mine!” Don’t let other people stop you from being the best version of yourself. Some people are so comfortable with where you are now that they’ll do whatever to distract you from getting to where you’re trying to go!
Not everyone will understand your positive changes and that’s okay! They don’t have to understand but they dang sure better respect it and if they can’t do that then you to let them go. You don’t always have to completely cut ties but sometimes distance is necessary! Don’t ever feel bad about changing for the better. It’s sad to say but sometimes old friends will not help create an environment to welcome the new you and as a result .. sometimes you just have to start over and get yourself a new set of real friends.
You need to be connected to people who are going to build you up and continuously provoke forward movement. Try to make friends with people who have dreams, desires and ambition. They’ll help you push for and realize your own before you even know it. The kind of company you keep has a bigger impact on your life than you will ever know. I’ve never been one to be really big on friends anyway. As long as I know I have a few in my corner that are genuine and true then I’m good but I will say this .. the people in your corner, those closest to you, those that are in your circle should want to see you win. Your circle should be pushing you everyday. Your circle should be encouraging your growth.
There are some people in life that make you laugh a little louder, smile a little bigger and just live a little better !!
So , if it becomes necessary to disconnect from a few old friends that don’t support you, your positive changes or what you’re trying to do .. then heyyy.. do what you gotta do!! I just wrote a post on 5 bad habits that ruin your happiness not too long ago and sometimes not having the right people in your corner can effect your happiness too!
You deserve to be happy in every aspect of your life; not just a few. Don’t be fearful of the fact of being lonely either. Trust and believe that God will allow you to cross paths and connect with certain people that need to be in your life for that next level you’re approaching!!💙