Call it Selfish, I Call it Self-Care

Never apologize for having standards and refusing to just let anyone have a seat at your table in life. People may take offense to it but they often forget that it has more to do with yourself than it does them. YOU are responsible for protecting your peace and have every right to decide who to let in and who to keep out. Call it selfish, I call it self-care. You have one life here on earth, be wise and take care of it. God will show you who NEEDS to be there.
One of the greatest standards I’ve developed so far this year is refusing to take a seat at one’s table of dysfunction, negativity, misery, lies, etc. You have a choice as to what you deal with and please believe that when your standards and refusal to put up with some things make someone uncomfortable or feel rejected, they will pinpoint YOU as the problem but keep your standards and protect your peace anyways. Some things you really DO NOT have to deal with. I promise. πŸ’œβœŒ



My Tuesday was so busy that I actually didn’t get a chance to write a blog post for you guys! It was my babies very 1st TBall Game & they did such a great job !! Not only am I proud of them, I’m also proud of the entire team!! They all played so hard but most importantly.. they had FUN !! (: WE WON TOO! 10-2. Since I didn’t get to share an actual post, I figured I give you all a little recap of our Tuesday through pictures !!

My big boys !!! RJ is #3 & Noah is #4 πŸ™‚



Me, my silly kids, mom & my best friend which is also their God Mother ! πŸ™‚


My big babies !! πŸ™‚


Caught them not paying attention a couple of times! haha.


Noah up to bat ! πŸ™‚


He missed the first time.. tried again and then hit it !!


Noah! πŸ™‚


Swing Batter Batter Swing !!! (RJ) He hit pretty hard !!


My nephew Jaylen! Caught him in action headed to first base!


Lol this was when RJ actually hit the ball but got out before he could get all the way there lol as you can tell he didn’t wanna go to the dugout so soon! haha


Noah lol He is so SILLY !!


My babes !! (:


Gosh, I love this picture of me and them. I’m gonna have to frame it!!


Bored, ready to go lol


Game over! We won 10-2


Lol not paying attention but playing 3rd base


My sweet little nephew !!


My Best Frannnn !!


My niece and I !! πŸ™‚ She loves my sunglasses !


RJ up batting!


Totally in love with rocking my baseball shirt !!!!! πŸ™‚



I hope you guys enjoyed !!!! We had a lot of fun and will be getting ready to do this all over again tomorrow!! Y’all have a blessed Wednesday! πŸ™‚ Thanks for visiting and stopping by! xo



What Drains My Energy and How I’ve Reduced It!πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š


“Maybe you’re low on energy because you’ve been giving your time towards meaningless things. The people, convos, jobs, relationships, habits, foods just aren’t feeding you.” -Tatiana Jerome

This is so true!πŸ™Œ Sometimes we give entirely too much time & attention to the wrong things, people and even problems. Not only is it energy draining but in some cases it can be emotionally draining too. Over the past few months, I’ve been on a mission to regain my sense of “self-peace” back & along the way, I have discovered that there is truly power in loving people from a distance. As a result of putting that back into action, I’ve noticed that I’m not nearly as stressed anymore and I feel free more than ever now to actually focus on my own dreams, goals and other things I’m in the process of trying to accomplish. Loving people from a distance doesn’t mean that you don’t still love & care about them or support them. Loving from a distance doesn’t mean you’re cutting people completely out of your life either. It just simply means that you’re giving them the space and time to get their minds right before you let them back into your life. Some people can be so toxic and not only people but also meaningless things period. I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again.. if you’re not careful, people will drive you crazy! They will stress you out & have you drained over things that really don’t have anything to do with you.

I’m more protective over my energy now! I’m protective over everything now actually when it comes to myself lol but in all seriousness, I’ve gotten to where if it doesn’t concern me, if it doesn’t contribute to reaching my goals/success or if it doesn’t benefit my growth in any kind of way.. I don’t too much fool with it anymore. It’s not that I’m acting funny; I’ve just realized that it’s a waste of time for me to be getting caught up in everybody else’s business and other unnecessary things that don’t really require my attention. Sometimes you have to back away from certain conversations and just remember “You’ve got stuff to do.” More action, less talk. Remember, YOU get to make daily decisions about who and what deserves access to you!!Β Don’t ever forget that. No one has to understand your positive changes. Do what’s best for you. πŸ’ž

xoxo, Jessica!