5 EASY QUICK WAYS TO RELIEVE STRESS!

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In Honor of April being Stress Awareness Month, I thought it would be a good time to share some of my most F A V O R I T E and quickest ways to reduce stress 💙

  • GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA!!

The internet is an unsafe place for the heart. Please know when to log off. Find you some people to spend quality time with. Many of your deliverances will come on several levels from several issues, when you stop scrolling so much..

  • BE A BLESSING TO SOMEONE ELSE !!

Thinking about someone else and giving back to them is a great way to make a little impact in their life, but also amazing for relieving stress!! Sometimes, your biggest test is in how you treat other people while you’re fighting your own personal battles and sometimes.. your breakthrough is depending on your {o b e d i e n c e} of being a blessing to the next person!!

  • EXERCISE!!

This one is almost cliche but exercising really does help relieve stress!! I don’t know what it is about going to the gym, walking the trail at the park, doing zumba, doing an “insanity” workout video or yoga that gets people’s stressful circumstances off their mind but it works; gets the job done every single time!

  • VENT ON PAPER!!

I LOVE LOVE LOVE being able to express myself through writing! Usually when I’m stressed, the emotion of anger is not too far from me.. if it’s not already there and to be able to put my thoughts on paper somewhat frees my mind in its own little way. Sometimes I’m venting through my writing and sometimes I’m just writing out plans and what my next move will be! Writing is like therapy. For me, writing is such a strong form of therapy that when I’m done I no longer feel the need to verbally vent to anyone.. unless it’s my Husband because I will absolutely talk his head off. But seriously, writing is an excellent way to relieve stress. I would say journaling but I don’t want you to take it too serious and think it’s necessary for you to actually have a journal. You can grab a raggedy notebook and write your heart away in it! You just need something that you can use to get all of that anger and stress out on. 

  • CLEANING!!

Okay, this is something else that I do not only when I’m stressed but when I’m pissed too! For one thing, I’m not a neat freak. I’m kind of far off from it actually. I don’t clean as often as I should. I’m not nasty, but I’m not like “OCD” either. (obsessive-compulsive disorder) I’m not gonna freak out if there’s four dishes sitting in the sink. I’ll add like seven more of ’em before I start loading the dishwasher. 😂😂🤣 My house stays clean enough to where if somebody decided to surprise me with an unannounced visit.. it’s decent enough!! The only thing they might see is a load of clean laundry chilling in the recliner 🤷‍♀️ Anyways, cleaning helps somewhat relieve my stress. I honestly don’t know how. I guess the fact that it keeps me busy, keeps me distracted from going into stress overload! By the time I’m done cleaning.. just about every room in my house is spotless, the laundry is completely done and when it’s all said and done.. I’m just tired. I am literally ready for a shower and my bed. That’s it. Whatever was bothering me at that moment doesn’t bother me anymore until the next day because I’ll be too tired to put any energy into even thinking about it! So yeah.. when you’re feeling stressed, do some cleaning! I promise there’s a healing in it! It’s a weird one but it’s there!

There are several ways to reduce stress but again these are my top 5 favorites! What are some things you to do reduce your own personal stress?

 

 

 

The Most IMPORTANT Thing You Can Learn From Your Biggest Mistake..

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What’s the one thing you can learn from your biggest mistake??

Well, first of all it was a mistake; not a life sentence. You don’t have to spend the rest of your life crucifying yourself over your past or current mistakes. You should never allow yourself to live in bondage of your hurtful thoughts or other people’s hurtful words. Mistakes will always be made. The key is to not repeat those same mistakes over and over again. Learn from them and move on. Sometimes, that’s easier said than done so the very first thing you really need to do is forgive yourself. So many of us ask God for forgiveness and indeed HE DOES Forgive us. When you truly repent and say “I’m sorry” in your heart to God.. He lets that thing go! He doesn’t hold it over your head. “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9) So really God is giving us a clean slate each time to start all over again but sometimes we miss that because we’re too busy beating ourselves up.

If you have personally offended someone or hurt them then make sure you do your part in taking ownership for the mistake and apologizing then let God take it from there. You can’t force people to forgive you and you most certainly can’t rush them but you can begin the road to recovery by first forgiving yourself. “Release the need to replay a negative situation over and over again in your head. Don’t become hostage to your past by always renewing and reliving your mistakes. Don’t remind yourself of should’ve, could’ve and would’ve. Just release and let it go. Move on.” -Les Brown

A good way to actually start moving on after you’ve forgiven yourself is to practice the action of reframing from negative” self-talk. Seriously, you will never speak to anyone else as much as you speak to yourself in your own head.. so BE NICE!! Think happy thoughts and speak positive words. Y’all have heard me say this before, there is so much power in the words you speak!! “It is through your words, your thoughts, your actions, and your beliefs that you can possibly be living in bondage because of how you choose to punish yourself due to a mistake you’ve made. If you can forgive yourself and free yourself from your own burden and mistakes then this how you can get back to loving yourself again!!” -Tatiana Jerome

Forgive yourself. You are always allowed to start over and show up for yourself in the best way.❤

Love you,

-Jessica

4 Things I Do To Fight Depression!

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Depression is R E A L & one thing that I know about it is if you don’t fight it.. it will literally overtake you and eventually begin to control you! I believe everybody deals with depression and anxiety but on different levels. Some people know how to cope with it and keep it under control while some others have no clue and put up a struggle to fight it daily the best they can. I don’t know why I’ve been so heavy on this topic lately but it’s being weighing on my heart like crazy! One thing is sure though, even if I don’t understand it at the moment.. I know God doesn’t just put things on my heart for no reason at all. I consider myself to be a pretty strong person for the most part but every once in a while I have my emotional days of depression and if I’m not careful about how I fight it… then it just kind of settles in and tries to take over. So down below, I’ve shared about four different things that I do to prevent that from happening.

 

Music

I listen to gospel music! (Contemporary gospel to be exact.) This is something that people kind of make fun of me for but I don’t care. I’ve never cared. I like what I like and other peoples opinions on this is something that has never been able to shy me away from it. I’m thankful for gospel artists though and their obedience in letting God use them to spread His word & love through music. It’s so encouraging. The words in the songs have a way of touching the core of my heart & if it sit there and listen to it long enough, my mood changes! Whether I’m depressed or pissed off, it calms my nerves. Sometimes, it makes me emotional but in a good way! Keeps me humble & helps me to stay honest with myself. I notice that when some people are sad or depressed, they listen to sad and depressing music! They choose songs that will literally make them feel lower than they already are at the moment. For some people that works but for me, it does not! If I’m using music as my way to escape my current pain then it has to be something that’s uplifting. I have to be listening to something that’s going to speak life into my spirit and not make me feel worse than I’m already feeling. Music is so influential on the brain that the type you listen to actually has the ability to change the way you think and look at certain situations. The impact that music has on your perspective is bigger than you think it is. 

YouTube!

Sometimes I get on YouTube and listen to my F A V O R I T E preacher, Pastor John Gray! I don’t do this very often during my emotional moments of depression. Like I almost have to be in the mood to actually sit there and listen to it but every once in a blue moon it helps lighten my mood! 

Saved Memes in My Phone

I feel kind of weird including this one in any of my posts but I’m going to tell you anyway because it helps me and I want to help you in every possible! I save have a lot of saved memes in my phone. Some are encouraging and others are just downright hilarious. When I’m feeling down and in the dumps, I scroll through these and most of the time they make me smile 🙂 Most of the time they just remind me that everything’s going to be okay and regardless of what my situation is .. God still has a purpose behind it. For example, one of my favorite memes I have saved says, “You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.” I’ve used this quote in two of my previous posts and I love it so much! It’s a small one but speaks so much volume! But yeah, that’s just one of those that reminds me that everything I go through is not always for my benefit! Sometimes, reminders are needed to keep us going in the right direction. This is one of my ways of encouraging feeding myself constant positivity. 
Leaning on Friends!

Most of the time when people are depressed, they want to be left alone & that’s understandable because I get that way too. But over time, I’ve learned that it’s not always good to be completely isolated from everything and everyone. That’s when suicidal thoughts seem to be the strongest. Depression & Solitude is a terrible combination. Try your best to avoid it! I’ve gotten to where I lean on my friends. Now, I don’t have a lot of friends but I do have a good handful in my corner and when I get depressed there are only certain ones that I’ll call. I call on my GOOFIEST friends! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, they have a way of taking my mind completely off of any stress or depression without even knowing at first that I’m feeling that way. Those silly heifers make me laugh til my stomach hurts! They make me laugh in the moments I don’t even feeling like smiling & I appreciate them so much for that! I always feel a little better after a good laughing session with them. It doesn’t change whatever my situation is but it does pick me up out of that depressing funk. Make sure you have some people in your life that have the ability to make you feel better whether they know what’s going on or not. They are important and they come in handy during hard depressing times. 

Grandma’s Love!

My Granny is my rock! Besides God, she is a truly a source of strength for me. I go to her about any & everything regardless of what type of mood I’m in. I don’t always call either. I physically go see her. A lot of times, just being in her presence is enough for me. She has such a healing type of spirit about herself and anyone that knows her will tell you that! I could be depressed, happy, sad, excited stressed out, feeling crafty, in a cooking mood or whatever and my Granny will be ready for it! She always knows what to do, always knows exactly what to say and always has the right answers for just about everything. She be ready for whatever whenever!! She’s something like a superwoman in my eyes. And I have to be honest, I don’t trust a lot of people in my family but this woman right here.. I trust her with everything in me. My granny keeps ALL of my secrets and will literally take them to the grave with her! She was the very first person to know about both of my pregnancies and even my miscarriage last year. I could name a list of everything she knows about me but I’ll save you the time! But seriously though, my Granny is my everything. When my back is against the wall, I know I can go to her and I also know that I trust her to be honest with me about myself concerning whatever I’m going through at the moment as well as be encouraging and show me some TLC ! (tender, loving, care) I do realize that not everyone still has their grandmothers in their lives but I am truly blessed to still have mine and I just wanted to share with you all that she is definitely one of my weapons to fighting off depression.

 

Some of you already probably implement some of these same exact strategies but for the ones who don’t then I hope this post helps you! And let me say this, what works for me may not work for you and if not, make sure you get the necessary help that you need! If you need to go see a shrink/therapist then by all means go see one! There’s no shame in that and to be honest you.. I’ve been considering doing that for myself just because I’m still struggling to heal from some of the things that have happened in my past. No shame!! Do not be bothered by the opinions of other people. You gotta do what you gotta do for YOU! Remember that. 

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