Little More Kindness, Little Less Judgment

Please understand that you only see a portion of a person’s life, not fully knowing every little thing they are going through. Stop being so quick to jump to assumptions or write them off because you may think the “portion” of what you know they are going through is insignificant but rather, be kind, keep your mouth closed regarding things you do not have facts on and simply pray for them. We all face daily battles that nobody knows about and that’s just the truth. There’s a story behind every person. Why they’re the way they are. Keep that in mind the next time you get ready to judgement someone. Today will never come again. Be a blessing to someone. Be a friend. Encourage. Take time to actually care. Let your words heal others and not wound them.

Thanks for visiting my blog today !! xoxo!!

-Jessica

3 Ways I Personally Manage Depression.

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1. PRAYING

Little small talks with Jesus here and there through out my days of depression really help me. I mean, they help me everyday but on some of my worse days, they really pull me through! When I say I pray, I don’t mean that I pray these long eloquent prayers and use big bible words, vocabulary, terminology or whatever you wanna call it. I literally talk to God like He is my best friend and I’m just myself. Most of the time I don’t even close my eyes. Sometimes, I talk to God in my heart (if that makes sense) and sometimes I talk out loud. Just whatever works at the moment. Normally after a few of those little mini talks with God, I feel better! I guess it’s because deep down, I TRUST that He’s working everything out in my favor. I trust that He has a purpose for whatever I’m going through and sometimes through prayer alone, I am reminded of that. Don’t let the pain you feel now make you forget what God said. Remember, He’s Making It Work For Your Good .. (Romans 8:28)

2.BLOGGING

First of all, blogging is addictive. I have always enjoyed it but here lately, I’ve grown to absolutely love it! I spend more time on here than I do any other social media site and honestly, I think that’s a good thing!! The blogging community itself is so positive and sometimes in my moments of depression .. the encouraging and uplifting posts really help me! Some of y’all post things that speak to the core of my heart and after I read it, I’m just like .. “Dang! They really just spoke to a personal part of me without even knowing it.” When I come across those kinds of posts, sometimes they help push me on out of that depressing mood! I love it!

Writing blog posts actually helps with my depression too! I have found that some of my best posts are actually written when I’m emotional, upset, depressed, bothered, angry or frustrated. It all kind of goes back to writing being probably the best form of therapy for me but the fact that I have the opportunity to reach out and encourage others through my writing only encourages me to deflect what I’m going through in a positive way. When I’m trying to help you, I’m really helping myself too! 🙂 Blogging really does help depression.

3. MUSIC

Music & I can NEVER be separated!! If you’ve been keeping up with my blogs then you’ve probably heard me say this before. Music, sometimes, is just another way to escape the pain .. or at least it is for me anyways. I prefer gospel. Music that will encourage and speak to my spirit is everything! It always puts me in a better mood.

 

 

I’m praying for those who battle depression. That spirit is real but you can win! Keep fighting the good fight of faith! Keep fighting to stay positive!! Whatever you’re going through is NOT going to overtake you! It may seem like it but I promise you that God will never put more you than you handle. It may hurt now but I promise, it is going to make you so much stronger!! 

 

Thanks for reading/visiting my blog today!! Sending lots of love and positive vibes your way!! -Jessica

There’s Power in Kindness!

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Use your words to build people up because words are powerful. SO powerful. They leave a lasting impact. So when it comes to your mouth, think of it as a power tool and be very careful with it. Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. Aim to be more of an encouragement to others instead of tearing them down. Try to make it to where your words leave other people inspired, not frustrated. A little more kindness and a little less judgement will take you a long way in life with people. Always remember that. Treat people the way you want to be treated, not how you have been treated. {.Kindness.} is free! You should totally sprinkle that stuff some of everywhere!!

Empowered people, empower other people!

Thanks for visiting my blog today! I pray that today is a great day for you!

-Jessica

Self Love is the {.B E S T.} Love!!

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“Treat Yo Self!” 

Sometimes we get so busy with life and taking care of others that we forget about ourselves and doing things that make us happy. Make yourself a priority every once in a while. It’s not selfish, it’s NECESSARY!! 

 

“EAT THE CUPCAKE BOO!” 

So many people are hard on themselves about body image and following strict diets. Quick Reminder Though: Sexy is not a size, every calorie is not a war & your body is not a battleground. Your value is not measured in pounds. You are just as beautiful as any other woman! So with that being said.. Relax & just eat the cupcake! It won’t hurt to have one every now and then!

 

“Be Kind To Yourself” 

Like seriously, you will never speak to anyone else as much as you speak to yourself in your own head. Self Encouragement is so important and sometimes very critical. This is both a form of self love & self care! I’ve learned that you can’t always depend on other people to be there & encourage you when you’re at your lowest. Most times, people don’t know all that you really go through or what daily battles you’re fighting. Sometimes, you just have to encourage yourself! Sometimes you have to speak victory over yourself and your circumstances. There’s power in the words you speak. Keep good thoughts & a good spirit. The things you say & believe manifest quicker than you think! Pep talks are a great way to encourage yourself by the way.  Sometimes, I do it in front of a mirror and sometimes I do it while I’m driving. “Girl, you’re beautiful. You’ve been through so much and because of it, you’re a stronger person! You’re a great mommy and even though you don’t think you’re doing a good job today, your kids still think the world of you! To them, baby you hung the moon and because of that you have to keep pushing! You have a big heart and you’re real hustler with great ambitions & etc..” I talk to myself all the time about everything and keep myself lifted as much as possible! Call me crazy if you want haha but it works and if you’ve never done this before you should definitely give it a try!!

 

“PROTECT YOUR PEACE!!” 

Protect your peace & I mean that! People will drive you crazy and literally stress you out if you let them. You can’t function properly when you’re stressed. You can’t be the parent, spouse, child, sibling, employee or friend you need to be when you’re under a lot of stress. You just can’t. Always remember to take care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup!

 

“STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS”

Listen, God didn’t ask you to be them. He asked you to be YOU! Stop comparing yourself to other people and what they have. What God has for you, will always be for you! Instead, learn how to cheer & be happy for other people in their winning season and have faith in the fact that when it’s your time to shine.. God got you!! 

 

If you show yourself love daily, then today just added a bonus! Love on you til you’re filled. 🙂  Don’t forget to like, share or subscribe if you enjoy this post or any of the other posts on my site!! 🙂

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Removing Distractions & Polishing Anything That Will Help Grow You!

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“Just because someone else is being recognized for their crowned doesn’t make your crown any less insignificant. It doesn’t matter where you are in this chapter of your life as long as you make TODAY the day to grow in your self worth. When you grow in confidence in yourself and the decisions you make, you start to glow up physically, financially, mentally and spiritually. Your glow will confuse, terrify and astound those who are against you. Remember a good woman KNOWS HER WORTH and is not afraid to leave what doesn’t recognize her worth. A woman who is interested in growing not only in self confidence but also in awareness of who she truly is within herself and God makes a DECISION to do WHAT IS RIGHT FOR HER TODAY. Not TOMORROW but TODAY.

This woman does not have time to beef with the miserable because she’s too busy realigning with her purpose. She is too busy learning who she is and what she can give to herself and others daily. This woman is a virtuous woman who WILL NOT GIVE UP on herself. She knows in order for her to be powerful she must educate herself and surround herself with like-minded individuals. This woman knows it is clean up time …removing distractions and polishing whatever is in her space that will grow her. This woman doesn’t need to throw shade or indulge in petty behavior in order for her to shine. When she speaks it means something because whatever she says is valuable to the ears that hear it. This woman wears a crown that can never be knocked off. She overflows with love and wisdom because she first allows God to flow and fill her up. She is cRowned. You are crowned. TODAY not TOMORROW is the time for you grow in your cRown of self love, awareness and confidence.” -Tatiana Jerome!💕

Just thought I’d share some of words of wisdom with you guys today!! Hope you enjoyed! Happy Saturday! I hope you all are having a great weekend!! xo!!