Does Social Media Really Ruin Relationships??

 

Absolutely not!

It really just boils down to people not knowing HOW to communicate. Too many people are letting “social media” ruin their relationships. Talk to your partner and stop letting inboxes, likes, and retweets ruin what you’re trying to build. Like seriously, this generation is nothing at all like the older generation. I suppose my grandparents stayed together simply because they didn’t have 2,000 other people following them or liking their pictures at their disposal when their marriage/relationship got hard. Nowadays, when most relationships hit the rocks, they just log onto social media and get high off this false sense of security and appreciation. Too many people value their worth based on comments, likes and inboxes filled with colorful words that have no depth whatsoever and that’s ridiculous. Getting social media involved when you and your partner aren’t seeing eye to eye only makes things worse, completely embarrasses your relationship and also puts a lot of unnecessary people in your business…

& Be careful about WHO you open up to and start telling your business to! Only a few people genuinely care. Trust me, I know. Been there done that. Not everyone wants to see you make it. Not everyone has your best interest at heart nor do they want to see you be successful whether it’s concerning your relationship, financial issues or other personal matters. Over time, I have learned that most people really don’t care. Some people have hidden motives, some are curious and some are just messy and enjoy having something to talk about! Don’t give folks that kind  of satisfaction when it comes to any of your personal issues, especially your marriage/relationship! I know whatever Me and MY Husband go through, we get through! So even when we’re not good… we’re good! 

A NEW Valentine’s Day Tradition for MY Family!! You should try it :)

This is a new Valentine’s Day Family Tradition idea that I found on my favorite website, Pinetrest!! The pin was created by Beth Gordon and to find more details on this pin, you can visit her website at http://www.123homeschool4me.com. She has a lot of free printable hearts you can use as well.

Anyway, I thought this would be something good to do for my boys starting February 1st leading all the way up til February 14th…Valentine’s Day! It’s a great way to boost your children’s self-esteem, encourage their confidence and it’s just something fun and exciting for them to do. Besides, my boys love little daily surprises like this especially if they think it came from an imaginary friend like Elfie (elf on the shelf), the tooth fairy, Easter Bunny or something like that. (haha!) That only makes it that much more exciting for both me & them! I just thought I’d share this with you guys since the month of February is approaching!! The most beautiful thing anyone could wear is confidence, especially kids! 

Feel free to comment any Valentine Day Family Traditions you have in mind! I’m always interested in doing fun things like this for my boys. Thanks again for tuning in !! I hope to see you back sooooon!! 🙂 

SIX TIPS ON HOW TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP FRESH ❤️

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  1. Spend Some Time With Jesus Together

Now this is just my personal opinion but when God is the foundation of your marriage/relationship & kept at the center of it, it’ll always be a successful one. God will not bless a union that He is not involved in. With that being said, spend some time with Jesus together. Practice going to God in prayer together. Read & study your bible together… or you could be like me and my husband and watch preaching videos together on YouTube. We watch Pastor John Gray. I LOVE him and his style of preaching!! He’s like a comedian and preacher all in one, not boring and very inspirational. To me, growing closer to God TOGETHER is a form on intimacy but on a much deeper level.

  1. COMMUNICATION!

Always make sure that you & your spouse keep a clear line of communication. All relationship problems stem from poor communication. Try not to get mad at your partner for expressing what upsets them.. Even if it isn’t deep to you, it may be a serious matter to them. Genuine consideration is the key. Be mature enough to handle conflict with maturity. Be sure to let your partner know when you’re annoyed with them instead of bottling up anger inside. Treat your partner with respect, even when you’re trying not to scream at them. Be willing to compromise because of  l o v e. Communicate … even when it’s uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is to simply get everything out. Oh and let me say this, it’s a bit cliché but you also need to understand that you don’t have to cheat to lose your partner. You can lose your partner from lack of communication, attention and disrespect. It’s not all about what you do, sometimes it’s about what you DON’T do! Silence isn’t golden & it surely doesn’t mean consent. So make sure you’re constantly practicing the art of communication. It’s very important!!

  1. DATE NIGHT!

Date nights are more important than you think. Everyone is so busy. Like seriously, I get it. Between work, family, and social commitments, there’s hardly enough time to squeeze in that one-on-one quality time with your spouse. Try to make it a priority to take time out away from the kids, work, social life, or just reality period and spend time with your boo! Set a certain day of each week for a date night OR if that doesn’t work for you, try to manage having a date night at least once a month. Your date night doesn’t have to always be extravagant & expensive. Sometimes, it can something as simple as a candle lit dinner at home, a walk in the park, picnic, ice cream date or even “Netflix & Chillin”. It doesn’t have to be expensive. The ultimate goal is spend “alone time” together. Doing this keeps your love fresh & fun!

  1. Magic in the Bedroom

In a relationship, sex is associated with stability because it increases bonding especially when each other’s sexual desires are fulfilled… with marriage, sex is very important because it maintains a certain level of intimacy. Okay so I’m just gonna say it… N E V E R allow your sex game to become boring and I mean that! Sometimes, that alone will open the door of temptation for your partner to step out on you. Don’t get too comfortable with the same routines. Step your foreplay game up. Try some new/different positions. Do something different & unexpected every once in a while. Keep it spicy & spontaneous in your bedroom!! To me, this also contributes to keeping your marriage/relationship fresh, fun, young and most important intimate!!

  1. JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE MARRIED DOESN’T MEAN YOUR DATING LIFE SHOULD END !!!

Continue to date your spouse after you marry them. Pursing your partner shouldn’t stop just because you said, “I do.” A lot of times, relationships stop growing because people stop taking the time to purse each other. Dating is really a time when you get to know someone in a special and unique way and to be honest with you, that’s something that should never stop! Those butterflies you got on the first date shouldn’t stop because years have passed by. Never stop teasing and flirting with each other. Keep having fun and being naughty no matter how long you’ve been together. Keep doing the little things that make your partner happy. Don’t wait for a holiday to do something special for your partner. Surprise them with random unexpected gifts and gestures “just because”… things like that keep the excitement in your marriage and in some ways also make your spouse feel appreciated too!

  1. TRAVEL!!

Oh my gosh! This is one of the most enjoyable things to do with your boo!! OK, well it’s one my favorites actually. There is nothing like getting away from the stress of reality and enjoying paradise with your spouse for a few days or so. It is so relaxing! No kids, no work, no responsibility .. it’s just simply YOU & YOUR SPOUSE having time alone to be both adventurous & intimate!! After my husband and I got married and went on our honeymoon and had so much fun. We made a vow to travel at least once EVERY year together! More than likely, it’ll be how we celebrate our Anniversaries J Last year we went to Gulf Shores, AL and this year we’ll be taking on Destin, FL. I’m so excited. I can’t wait to be back on the beach!! Enough about me and mine though… try to make it a goal to travel somewhere whether it be a few times throughout the year or just once a year with your spouse. It’s always so much fun to experience new places and adventures with one another.

These are just a few tips on how to help keep your marriage/relationship fresh that my husband & I live by. The only one we really struggle with is Date Night since we always have our children 24/7 so we have to improvise and find other ways to squeeze our time in but we’re working on it! If you have any tips, share them with me in the comments please! Thanks for tuning in with me today! Hope to see you back again soon!! 🙂

Mini Me Motivation.. What Keeps You Going?

 

Well, I’ll tell you what motivates me and those are my babies! As cliché as it may sound, I’m serious… they have a lot to do with who I am today. I found courage to get out of an abusive and domestically violent relationship all off the strength of my first born son, RJ. Honestly, leaving that relationship was a hard thing for me to do because everything that I’d dealt with, I had become accustomed to & there was a little bit of fear in me each time I tried to leave but when RJ came in the picture my mindset began to change. He was the most precious thing I had ever laid eyes on and I knew I didn’t want to raise him up in that type of environment. Kids don’t ask to be here nor do they deserve that. Because of RJ, I found enough courage to leave shortly after he turned a year old. I finally came to terms with the fact that I DESERVED BETTER than what I was choosing to settle for and most importantly, my baby deserved the very best that I could give him. I moved back home with my dad to create a safer, calmer and happier environment for him. In the meantime, I worked to get back up on my feet & worked on some personal growth as well. A few months later, I started dating a different guy (who is now my Husband! We’ve been together for almost 6 years & so far married for almost 7 months!! He is nothing short of amazing might I add!) Anyway, I got pregnant by him during our very first year of dating. During my second pregnancy with my second son, Noah… I spent a lot of time thinking about my future and what I could do to improve it and make it better than what I had going on at that moment in my life. Of course, like most people I wanted to go back to college and finish what I’d started but at the time I couldn’t afford it, I didn’t have a very good support system & I also knew that I needed to be working somewhere and contributing bills along with my partner. I knew I didn’t want to work at a fast food restaurant and I dang sure wasn’t going back to a factory! Not that there’s anything wrong with working in either one of those job fields, I just felt like they weren’t for me and I refused to settle for it. I knew I had to do something though and it had to be good. Taking care of one child is enough but to start taking care of two on top of bills and etc, I knew it would be expensive and I knew I had to have some sort of game plan! So I decided to take CNA classes and become a Certified Nursing Assistant! To you, it may not seem like much but for me… it was everything! It was the first time I felt like I had succeeded in something besides graduating high school. I was so proud of me! On top of that, I knew that having that certification meant I wouldn’t ever have to go back and work at a factory again or settle for minimum wage jobs simply because CNA’s are always in high demand! Whether it’s at a nursing home, clinic, or hospital they will always be in high demand. I don’t think I would’ve ever pushed myself that hard to achieve something like that if I had not gotten pregnant again. So to Noah, I will always be grateful for that motivation! I can honestly say, I’m a better person because of my kids. Not perfect but BETTER. I have a healthier lifestyle because of them. I make better choices because of them. The way I manage my money is improving somewhat because of them (haha). Even though I hate getting up & going to work everyday, I go because of them! I’m working hard now so I can help set them up for success later in the future. I have more self-control because of my children. I respond differently now to certain things, situations & people that upset me. I’m not about that drama life because I’m about THEIR LIFE! See, when you have kids, you gotta move a different kind of way. I’ve learned to be selective in my battles. Sometimes, PEACE is definitely better than being right!! I’ve had to fight through some rough days, painful situations & sad nights during my 26 years of living and sometimes I feel like the main reason I’ve pushed on through them all was weighing on the strength of my two babies and that’s real. I got pregnant with both of my kids out of wedlock and yes, a lot of people frowned on that and tried to be judgmental but you know what… GOD knew what He was doing when he gave me my two boys & ultimately, HE is the one that I will forever be grateful to for that!! God truly had a purpose for my life before I ever had a plan for myself & my babies… they were clearly apart of His plan 🙂

So, what is it that keeps you motivated? What is it that keeps you going from day to day? Drop some comments & let me know! I love hearing other people’s stories, testimonies and things of that nature. I find most of them inspiring 🙂 Also, feel free to follow my page! It’s totally free and doesn’t cost anything. All you have to do is click the follow button, enter your email, and then confirm your subscription to my page through your email to get an update every time I post! T H A N K S for tuning in with me today! Hope you come back!!

5 Quick, Easy, INEXPENSIVE Dinner Ideas…My Favs!

If you’re anything like me.. always busy through the week trying to juggle life between work, running errands and attending extracurricular school activities for your children & you really don’t have a lot of time to come in and cook extravagant meals every night then I’ll be glad to share with you my top 5 FAVORITE dinner recipes!! Don’t get me wrong! I love cooking but here lately I just haven’t had the time or I’m too tired to do so! Therefore, these 5 Recipes come in handy!!

  1. Tatertot Casserole!

Ingredients:

  • 1lb Ground Beef
  • 1 Bag of tatertots
  • 1 can of Cream & Chicken
  • Salt & Pepper
  • 1 bag of Shredded Cheese (I normally get the shredded cheese that’s mixed with cheddar & mozzarella)

This recipe is very simple to make! The first thing I do is cook my ground beef. (I put a little dash of season salt in mine) After it’s finished cooking, I put the meat in a baking dish. The I add 1 can of the cream & chicken and mix it in really good with my meat. Next, I pour all of my shredded cheese on top of the mixed cream of chicken and ground beef. Don’t stir it. Just make sure all of the meat is covered with cheese. Lastly, I add my tatertots. You can either arrange them on top of the cheese “neatly” or you can just scatter them on there. It doesn’t matter. Be sure your tatertots cover all of the cheese. After you’ve done all that, you put the baking dish into the oven and let it cook until the cheese is melted! I normally set my oven on 375 and it takes roughly 20 minutes to cook! That’s about it! Of course you can add your own sides with it and I usually throw a little salt & pepper on mine just to give it a little bit more flavor. Perfect for a quick dinner and not a lot of work either!!

2. DORITOS CHICKEN CASSEROLE!!

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3. CHICKEN, BROCCOLI, SHELLS & CHEESE MEAL!!

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Y’all, I tried this for the very first time last week and it was soooo good !! It’s gets you pretty full too, no rolls or sides necessary/needed 🙂 Cooking this meal was also a great way to get my kids to eat veggies!! (Another win for mom lol) They absolutely LOVED this!!

Ingredients:

  • 2 Chicken Breasts (or as many as you’d like. I used like 4 or 5 since I was feeding 4 people)
  • 3 cups of Broccoli (I used two bags)
  • 1/4 tsp Garlic Powder
  • 1 cup Chicken Broth
  • 8oz Shell Pasta, Medium
  • 1/4 cup All-Purpose Flour
  • 1/4 tsp Pepper
  • 1/8 tsp Salt
  • 2 tbsp butter
  • 2 cups Cheddar Cheese, sharp
  • Milk
  1. In a large pit of boiling salted water, cook pasta according to package directions. Add broccoli during the last 2-3 minutes of cook time. Drain & set aside.
  2. Melt butter in a large skillet over medium heat. Add flour and cooking, stirring for 1 minute. Slowly whisk in milk and chicken broth and season with garlic powder, salt, and pepper. Cook, stirring constantly until mixture is bubbly and thickened. Remove from heat and add cheddar cheese. Stir until melted.
  3. Add the drained pasta, broccoli, and chicken and stir to combine. If sauce becomes too thick, add milk as needed to thin.

 

4.CHICKEN PARMESAN CASSEROLE.

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This is another good one!

Ingredients:

  • 1 1/2 lb Chicken, cooked
  • 1 1/2 Parsley
  • 1 Jar Marinara Sauce
  • 1 Italian Seasoned Salt
  • 1 1/2 Olive Oil
  • 1 Cup Panko Bread Crumbs
  • 1 3/4 cup Mozzarella Cheese
  • 1/2 cup Parmesan Cheese, grated
  1. Preheat oven to 350 F and grease 8 1/2 x 8 1/2 inch casserole with olive oil or spray with cooking spray.
  2. Place chopped cooked chicken in baking dish and pour marinara sauce over the chicken, stir to combine.
  3. Spread shredded mozzarella cheese on top to cover chicken. Sprinkle with grated parmesan.
  4. In a bowl stir together bread crumbs and italian seasoned salt. Add 1 tablespoon of olive oil and stir well. If it seems to dry and the crumbs are not evenly moistened add more olive oil and stir to combine. It depends on the texture of bread crumbs you use. Finer crumbs will seem to dry and need more oil, flacked crumbs like Panko need less oil.
  5. Sprinkle bread crumb mixture over the cheese and bake 20-25 minutes until bread crumbs get nice golden color.
  6. Sprinkle freshly chopped parsley before serving if desired. If you want to make this ahead and freeze for later DO NOT BAKE, just cover the casserole and place in freezer. Thaw completely before baking.

In case anyone is wondering, I got this recipe from Thriving Home!

 

5. LOADED BAKED POTATO SOUP!

One of my all time favs esp during the winter months!!!

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Ingredients:

  • 4 slices of bacon, diced (and if you don’t have bacon, bacon bits go well with it too)
  • 5 tablespoons of butter
  • 1/4 cup all purpose flour
  • 3 1/2 cups milk, or more, as needed
  • 3 potatoes, peeled and cubed (doesn’t matter which brand)
  • 2 green onions, thinly sliced
  • 1 cup shredded cheddar cheese
  • 1/2 cup sour cream
  • salt & pepper
  1. Cook your bacon and then set it aside.
  2. Melt butter in a large pot over medium heat. Whisk in flour until lightly browned, about 1 minute. Gradually whisk in milk, and cook, whisking constantly, until slightly thickened, about 1-2 minutes. Stir in potatoes and green onions. (I usually chop my green onions)
  3. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer until potatoes are tender, about 15-20 minutes. Stir in cheese, sour cream, salt, pepper to taste. (I also throw in little dashes of onion powder and garlic powder to give it more flavor)  If the soup is too thick add more milk as needed.

Serve immediately, garnished with green onion, cheese, and bacon if desired.

 

I HOPE YOU ALL ENJOY & I HOPE THESE 5 IDEAS HELP LIGHTEN YOUR COOKING A LITTLE BIT LIKE IT DOES FOR ME! Feel free to hit the like button, follow my page if you haven’t already & comment!! 🙂