You Can’t Help Everybody!


Lesson Learned!

You just CAN’T help everybody! As disheartening as it is, sometimes you just have to let people learn the hard way. Even though you love them & really care .. I have found that in some cases it is better for you to fall back and let them figure out or work out whatever situation it is that they’re dealing with by themselves. It’s hurtful to watch the person you love keep going in the same circles of sadness, pain and failure. It’s even harder when that person keeps coming to you about what’s hurting them wanting to vent and looking for solutions.. only to turn around & go right back into the same mess day in and day out. It’s almost like a burden because eventually you start feeling like you’re carrying some of the weight of their pain. Even though they don’t ask you to carry that pain nor do they mean for you to, it just comes kind of natural when you genuinely have a good heart. It means you really care. After a while though,  it becomes emotionally draining because you’re constantly trying to help this person, make them feel better, help find solutions and it gets frustrating because after you’ve done all of that – they continuously go right back to what’s hurting them. I don’t understand. It’s like “Mannn, do they really want help or do they just want attention!?!” or at least that’s one of the thoughts that run through my head anyway. I know that probably sounded mean but I’m just keeping it real. The same way people will stress you out and drive you crazy with their drama and foolish antics is the same way they can stress you out and drain you emotionally with their problems. Now don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. I’m not telling you to turn a deaf ear or a cold shoulder to people who are in need of help or advice. That’s not cool. I’m not that kind of person. I love people and I love helping & encouraging as much as I can but I’ve learned that you gotta know when to step back and say “enough is enough”! If you can’t actually help them with what they’re going through, then you it’s time to consider redirecting them to someone who can or pointing them in that direction. Now whether they go get the help or not is on them but when they’re truly ready to come out of that situation then they’ll do and take the necessary steps to getting it done. You can want “better” for someone all day long but until they want it for themselves.. it means nothing. 

Something my mama used to tell me all the time when I was younger & I’ll never forget it.. she said, “You are NOBODY’S trash can!” meaning you don’t have to be the one that everyone dumps their problems on. Funny how her words came flowing back to me while I’m typing this post! She’s right though!! It’s good to have a good heart but don’t let people take advantage of it. If you don’t watch it, people will suck the positive energy right out of you to fuel their hunger for negativity and leave you drained, exhausted & unhappy. There is no reason to allow their problems to become yours. Protect both your peace and spirit from contamination. Know when to say enough is enough & love yourself enough to take the actions required for your happiness. 

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Hi, I'm Jessica! New Blogger. 26 years young. Married. Super Mom of two boys.. Keeps me busy! I'm also a full-time worker & entrepreneur. The overall goal of my blog page is to inspire and promote personal growth. I'll be sharing a wide range of ideas, experiences, updates, different ways to earn extra cash, and different ways to be the struggle of debt. I'll also be speaking quite a bit on different topics such as depression/anxiety, mental health, the importance of being positive, the importance of sacrifice, sharing some of my favorite cooking recipes and sooo much more!! I'm very humbled that you stopped by to visit my page & I pray that you continue to tune in with me! You won't regret it :)

16 thoughts on “You Can’t Help Everybody!”

  1. Your mommy was right. People are sometimes very selfish, and they want to discard their problems in our soul. Energy vampires are all around us, and they care only for themselves . We need to be good, but wise, that we do not allow them to contaminate us.

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  2. This post is so true, I’m always making sure that in the process of me helping someone that I’m not hurting myself in the process, it’s so important to not only help others but to help yourself, as selfish as it sounds, I’m a very “put your happiness first” person.. unless it’s with Dillon 😂 If I ever feel that someone is constantly putting that negativity into my life I immediately cut them out so I can better myself and hopefully they learn to better themselves, your moms advice is so true tho

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    1. I don’t see it as being selfish at all & I can honestly say that last year.. I let other people’s problems take it’s toll on me & it played a role in me being so stressed out all the time but LESSON LEARNED!! Earlier this year, I decided that it would just be best for me to fall back and take care of me and as a result, my life has been more peaceful! I was wasting all of my energy trying to help them with stuff they had going on and still to this day… they are in the same situations. Sometimes people don’t really want the help. It’s more of an attention thing.


  3. I agree we need to use wisdom and discernment to determine if someone really wants help or is using their problems to gain attention. I like what you said about directing them to someone who can help them – we don’t give up or simply push them away, but realize when we’ve stopped being effective and are instead inadvertently enabling their problems by our continued support. 💗

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  4. I wanted to comment earlier, but I was shy. Well, this happens all the time to someone in my family. It gets me so frustrated when they don’t listen and end up in the same mess each time. Problem is they are more than twice my age, so they will never listen.
    Great post! 👌🏽❤️

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      1. Ofc mom’s are the best! ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ And though an 18 year old rebellion like me(LOL!) doesn't agree to everything her mom says, it's only with each passing day that I realise how true her words are! 🙂 🙂


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